My girlfriend and I have been dating for two and a half months. On the second date she asked me to go to prom with her (two months ago), I said yes. A week ago I asked her how much it was and she said just give me the money and I'll get the tickets. Yesterday she said her friend asked her to go before me (then why the heck did you ask me to go to prom?). She said he asked first. Apparently, it is a girl's firm, moral belief when a guy asks something before another guy, its freaking okay.
Ironically, I lost a previous girlfriend over a dance last year. Her guy asked her before me while we were dating, so that made it okay to go. She later broke up with me for this guy (that was a whole different girlfriend).
Back to the now, She said she's graduating (so am I) and its the last chance she has to be with her friends. She says she is going to be talking to her friends and doesn't want to make me feel bad, especially if she flirts with another guy. I threatened to break up with her, but she aggressively didn't want me to. I am confused on her behavior. Is she cheating on me? Why does she want to go to the prom with him and not her boyfriend, even though she says she would love to go with her bf? I believe she made up a lie somewhere in all of this. Help me!
I forget to mention she likes to flirt, she says she likes to flirt with other guys. But I'm still her guy. She says she wants me to trust her. She said if the guy makes a move she will punch him.
Thanks everyone for agreeing that something suspicious is going on. And ladies its a big boost to know that she should go with her boyfriend to the prom, not her friend. If she doesn't change her mind I'm dumping her. I'm giving her some leeway because I'm a nice guy, I should sump her for even considering to go with someone else. Ill let everyone know what happens, thanks for your support!
Hey everyone, my girlfriend changed her mind and said she is going with me, so it looks like we're staying together. :) Thanks for your help everyone.
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"especially if she flirts with another guy."
are you kidding me? she's telling you that she's planing on flirting with another guy? really?
You need to drop this chick ASAP I don't care if someone asked her before you too were together or not you always go with your boyfriend because that is a special night. And if she is flirting a lot with other guys that spells out big trouble. Something is just not right with this at all the old saying goes if it walks like a duck, it quacks like a duck it is a duck. And she shouldn't be flirting with other guys and how will she know how she will handle if a guy make a move on her I really can't see her taking on a guy if he tries something on her. I think she must of made the lie up to about being asked by this other guy. I think you need to cut her lose before your emotions get too tied up in this chick that clearly doesn't feel the same way about you and you deserve a girl that will treat you with more respect then this girl she is clearly playing the field to see if something better comes along and I really don't think that this is the last chance to be with her friends is the real reason. Prom night is always about being with you boyfriend or g/f. I think she might of made plans with this guy because she likes him more so then you. She is clearly playing head games with all the boys she's flirting with and she is just playing you plan and simple. Your best to find a girl that won't do this to you.
My boyfriend flirts with other girls as well...it's just his personality. I can see where she is coming from that she wants to hang out with her friends that she has been close with for a longer period of time than yall have been. I can see why you would be mad about it too. If you truly cared and trusted her you would let her do this. I say you ask another girl to the dance and see how that plays out. If she really cares about you I'm sure she would be eye balling you the whole night. She would probably be a little jealous, but if not I would drop her.
That's bull. Your her boyfriend and she could've accepted you as her prom date a anyway. Ask and take some one else because she seems to not even one bit about you not going to prom with her. She seems like she's hiding something and not being trustworthy or reasonable but like anonymous user said trust your instincts.
Flirting can be okay. Hanging out with friends is just fine. But reneging on the invitation to your boyfriend and asking another guy? That is completely unacceptable in my books. Asking you to trust her would be considered normal if she was just going out with some friends to hang out. For something as major as a prom, there is NO reason for her not to take you. I'm guessing that her friends were planning on being there anyway, so she'd still have plenty of opportunities to talk and dance with them throughout the night anyway. Granted, I tend to over-analyze things at times, but I'd be extremely suspicious if my girlfriend did that to me.
She says to trust you, but trust is a two-way street. You two haven't been together all that long, so it's not as though absolute trust is reasonably expected at this stage. Yes, you need to trust her on some things, but she needs to make sure that she's not giving you reasons to doubt that trust. And this move of hers isn't helping that trust one little bit.