You're right dude, you have every right to be annoyed at how the world is. BUT that won't actually change anything. Much more constructive to understand how the world works, learn from it, and adapt your approach. Girls aren't going to change anytime soon.
Besides, you're not looking at the upside of this arrangement. It's true that it's work to build and project confidence, but at least you CAN do it! Think about all the ugly girls out there: there isn't too much they can do. And they're probably bumming that guys are attracted to "hot" girls.
It's actually tougher for girls as a group. We have a LOT more control over the things that attract them then they have over the things that attract us.
And the other thing to consider is that the personality qualities that most women find attractive are actually good for you in their own right--not JUST to attract women. So in that sense, they're doing you a favor. They're giving you YET ANOTHER reason to be a better man: so you can get with better women.
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because if guys were just as picky and choosy as girls are, the human race would die out in no time
Because a confident guy is confident in his sexual abilities, can take control, & makes us feel safe. Confident men also stand up for themselves & for us when the time is needed. It's a huge turn off when a man lets people walk all over him, we love guy who stands up for himself. It shows he can stand up for us if we really needed it. Plus, it's really difficult to hear a guy complaining about his insecurities. I mean, you can tell them a million times they look fine, but they won't stop whining. I know it's hard to be confident sometimes, but it's just a quality that is necessary in order to successful in this world.
Confidence is not about the looks or how strong you are. Confidence is loving yourself (not being narcissistic), the fact that you can laugh about your own imperfections and don't care what people think about you, being confident makes your couple feel comfortable with you, knowing that nothing from the outside can change the situation between you, that you're not going to change when you're with your friends or dump her if he hears a rumor about her.
I just love confidence on guys because I don't have it, and I find a man with confidence really interesting. I guess I just wanna see how it feels to have confidence, and with the right personality, it's something I can't resist
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A guy doesn't have to be oozing in confidence, but confidence is a nice quality. When you love someone, you don't want to hear them constantly down on themselves, & you want them to believe in who they are. It's women who say they don't like confident men that you need to worry about. Because nothing is worse to deal with than low self esteem.
Confidence can be faked.
But it's hard to pretend you're confident, when you are so clearly a pissed off angry little man, who doesn't know whether he is angrier at life, at women or at himself.
Talk about unattractive qualities.
Guys like you are your own worst enemies.
No girl is going to want to date a guy who hates all women, hates himself, and hates life like a bitter little pill.I want a guy to have confidence because I don't want to constantly have to be stroking his ego. I don't mind a little bit of vunerability, that can be very sweet and endearing.
But if the guy is *constantly* needing me to reassure him that he looks good, or that I'm being faithful or that I'm not going to ditch him for someone else...then that gets old VERY fast.Honestly, a guy who has to prove his masculinity by beating up another guy is very unattractive to me. Confidence CAN most definitely be faked. Ask any "confident" guy. And as far as girls not needing to be confident, that's complete bullsh*t! If a girl is constantly questioning herself, guys find it unattractive. It's human nature to find confidence attractive.
It's very attractive & it shows us he believes enough in himself to go after his dreams & to stand up for himself. There is nothing more unattractive than a guy who is insecure & whines all the time. We don't want to hear the whining, it is such freaking annoying.
because a lot of girls are insecure and feel they need to depend on guys, which I find kinda bratty
because girls enjoy being spoiled
I guess we know why you are single?:P
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