I think I read somewhere that 'too much beauty can extinguish desire.' There are many possible meanings for why that would be. For some men beauty intimidates and threatens their self-esteem, but beauty, like fear, rouses others to action and usuall complete reckless abandon = fun/ecstasy You don't sound like a guy who'd feel threatened by having a beautiful girlfriend, like a narcissist or ego manaic would, but I thought I'd add that in because I'm trying to figure out what that little quote I found means myself.
I think your mind is directing your body and desire towards your ex. You don't seem quite over her. Ergo you can't connect w your current beauty. I think it is weird because physical beauty usually makes getting turned on easier, but obviously the deeper soul aspect is what your looking for, because the whole package of the physical and spiritual is probably a goal for you.
by the sound of your answers to the other comments I think you;ve identified the problem as still being attracted to your ex this is good as it shows you need to deal with these feelings first before anyone gets hurt
however I think you need to assess what this new girl means to you. if you see it as wanting to make a go of it, you need to have a chat with her don't say I'm not attracted to you say I haven't finished dealing with all my emotions from my previous relationship yeat and need some time if she's willing to give you a break then that's great if not then she's not worth it.
if you see her as just a fling then probs best to think whether it is right for you to be involved with someone at this time since you still have emotional ties to your ex
hope this helps
x
Hmm.. ouch. On the other hand, I can think of many people that are physically attractive to me, but they don't turn me on sexually. It's much more difficult to be in that position as a guy though lol.. does she do things to try and get you hard? or is it just no matter what she does, you just aren't turned on? I presume you've never had this problem before hmm?
I'm having the same problem to be honest, she doesn't turn me off, but its really weird how she doesn't turn me on. Of course she has but sometimes she fails to when she's grabbing my... and It doesn't, get hard, and I don't know what the hell to tell her or what to do. I have no problems like thinking of my ex or nothing like that, but its strange and I do have feelings for the person which makes it even more strange, because if your attracted and have feelings how can the person not turn you on?
i had the same thing happen, some women are just like that, there is almost something off about them
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Hello,
it sounds to me like your just not attracted to her.. I've been there in the past with great looking girls who quiet simply didn't turn me on.
hope that helps
Chris
it could be because you look at her more of a friend than a girlfriend.. and maybe your still into your ex..
you're not alone. I know how it feels. the most beautiful girl in my school had a crush on me, but she didn't turn me on at all. I realized she was beautiful, but just not my type (sexually). every guy thought I was retarded (since I rejected her)...
Same problem just no sexual chemistry... lots of cultural and social connections.. but just nothing that turns me on... she’s very “masculine “... that’s part of the problem for me... has a martina Czech tennis star look about her... other woman do it for me but not my Martina...
There's something called chemistry...and you probably don't have it with her. At least it's pretty apparent that the "spark" is not there
does she do things that would normally turn you on?
maybe you're not connecting with her enough mentally...how's the chemistry?
With me, it's either I'm on FIRE for you or all I have for you is the thousand yard stare and it's driving me crazy because this really cool chick is WAY into me and it's just not there for me. I hope it gets better for you.
You're missing the initmite emotional connection. I was exactly the same with a hot guy when we rushed into things too soon.
this could be a huge problem you should be honest about it and not lead her on only to break her heart later...no one deserves that
She’s probably not as attractive as you are making it sound.
It could be that she has a bad personality and it's affecting you when you try to perform.
f** lol no I'm joken..
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