Why is my girlfriend being mean to me?

[JamesAyer]

My girlfriend is really mad at me this is what happened ( by the way I am 21 and she is 18)

Last night I asked my girlfriend if I could come over. she said not tonight but tomorrow night you can cause I am busy tonight.Well I kept demanding that I get to come over and I told her I'm coming over now what time should I pick you up.she was like not tonight and I kept saying yes tonight.Well then

I messaged her best friend on facebook (I have never met her friend before but I just knew her from my girlfriend telling me about her! ).well I told told her friend that me and my girlfriend were no longer together that for her to give me her number so I could call and explain what happened.Well

I told her friend that my girlfriend was immature , not My type , that she asked too many questions and all this other stuff.and then I guess my girlfriends friend told her what I said cause my girlfriend called me all mad and I told my girlfriend I don't know why your acting this way . I also asked her friend if she wanted to hangout with me and told her friend that she was pretty and nice to talk to. I guess my girlfriend found out about that too

Well then I asked my girlfriend is she would forgive me , and she told me she needed to think about things first , and well the next day she told me she was willing to work things out if I was and I told her idkk.. and she told me well then that's a no and I said its a I don't know and she said I need to know if you want to work things out by tomorrow , and well I never gave her an answer and just now I tried to text her and she is ignoring me!

Why is my girlfriend being mean to me? will she ever talk to me again?.now my girlfriends mom doesn't like me cause of how I treated her daughter and I told my girlfriend that her mom needed to apologize to me for not liking me or that me and her would never ever work things out.I told her that if her mom didn't like me that we would never date again.

[Anonymous]

Didn't it occur to you that her best friend would tell her everything you said? I really can't understand why you did any of the things you did. I get that you wanted to see your girlfriend but she told you she was busy and rather than respect that and meet up with her the next night you went out and made a mess of things. You essentially told her friend that you had broken up with her and then proceeded to try and hit on said friend. For some reason unknown to me your girlfriend was willing to give you another chance after you asked for it and then you told her look never mind I am not sure I want to work this out. She has every right to be mad at you and honestly she's probably hurt and I actually hope she will not take you back and that you will leave both her and her friend alone. Make haste to a psychologist because you are in fact suffering from a mental illness and/or drug addiction and get your head sorted before you even consider dating another woman. You don't appear to have any social skills whatsoever and there are people that can help you with that, counselors and such. You don't get to play with people that way or boss people around. Your girlfriend's mom does not owe you an apology what mother would like her daughter's boyfriend if he was clearly abusing her? And make no mistake that you are abusive even if you do not physically strike her, you are an abuser.

[ALMiller]

First of all , you sound like you don't know how to treat a girl . You don't EVER demand a girl to do something . That's one thing us girls hate . And plus you tried to talk to her best friend ? Did you not think she would tell your girlfriend ? Your not very smart to have done what you did . And I don't blame her mom for not liking you . Oh , and your girlfriend or her mom shouldn't have to apologize for anything . Your the one who needs to apologize . I would be mad too if I was put in this situation .

[Johanna_matt]

You're joking, right?

You told her friend that you broke up and you like her?!

And her mom should apologize to you for not liking you?

I can't believe she wants to work things out with you.

[Shaun]

You told another girl that you and your girlfriend weren't together before your girlfriend knew about this tidbit of information?

Do I have that right?

[JamesAyer]

Yes your right I told her best friend that we weren't together and she told my gf.

[Shaun]

Well, now you aren't together.

[JamesAyer]

I don't know why I told her best friend that!

[Shaun]

Yeah, I don't know either. But it was a very stupid thing to say, and you may not be able to recover from it.

It sounds like something a cheater would say to someone he wants to cheat with.

[JamesAyer]

I think I was trying to hurt my girlfriend cause I don't know her friend I just knew that was a good way to get back at my girlfriend. how do I say sorry?

[Shaun]

That doesn't add up. If you were just trying to hurt her, you wouldn't have said that to someone you didn't think knows your gf.

[JamesAyer]

i don't know her best friend personally only from my girlfriend talking about her to me. and so I messaged her friend cause I knew her friends name and told her stuff abt my girlfriend and her friend told my girlfriend what I said.

[Shaun]

Then all you can do is tell your girlfriend that you were upset at her and were just trying to hurt her. Not that that's healthy behavior either. I'm pretty sure you've entered the creepzone soon to be the stalker zone.

Frankly, it sounds like she was getting ready to dump you before all this happened. It's never a good sign when a girlfriend doesn't want to see you.

[TechnoGirl]

Your being a fucking asshole.

[udolipixie]

Because she's smart.