I randomly met a guy. We had instant chemistry. We ended up hooking up the night we met and we weren't even drunk. (Awful I know.)
We have a lot in common and saw each other semi-regularly for the next several weeks. We seemed to form an actual friendship, coupled with regular sex. I am going through a difficult time in my life and he seemed to genuinely care and even said I could call him anytime I needed him, even though he lives 40 minutes away.
Neither of us is interested in being monogamous (we are both polyamorous). The last time we were together - he said "call me tomorrow", kissed me softly but shortly and then left. I called him the next evening but he didn't answer. Over the next few days I texted him a couple times with random thoughts and to say hello (like I had been doing). Prior to this we would chit chat every few days via text.
I didn't hear from him for a few days so I finally asked if he was mad at me (he has asked me the same the question before when I didn't reply to his texts (because I didn't get them)) . He said no, he was just busy. I haven't heard from him since. It has been over a week.
The only thing I can think of us that the last time we were together our conversation went down a certain path and I casually said something to the effect of "When I met you I had planned not to like you, but apparently I do." I think he asked what that meant. I said "I don't know, you win. I loose..." I was kind of joking, it wasn't serious.
It didn't feel like one of those heavy moments where people confess they are head over heels for someone because I'm not. I still feel like we are trying to get to know each other and learn to be completely comfortable.
I was kind of stressed that day so I didn't really pay attention as to whether or not what I said made him uncomfortable. Nothing he said or did after that stood out as abnormal.
I don't know if I should text him and ask what's up or not. I was genuinely enjoying his company and getting to know him. What did I do wrong?
We have a lot in common and saw each other semi-regularly for the next several weeks. We seemed to form an actual friendship, coupled with regular sex. I am going through a difficult time in my life and he seemed to genuinely care and even said I could call him anytime I needed him, even though he lives 40 minutes away.
Neither of us is interested in being monogamous (we are both polyamorous). The last time we were together - he said "call me tomorrow", kissed me softly but shortly and then left. I called him the next evening but he didn't answer. Over the next few days I texted him a couple times with random thoughts and to say hello (like I had been doing). Prior to this we would chit chat every few days via text.
I didn't hear from him for a few days so I finally asked if he was mad at me (he has asked me the same the question before when I didn't reply to his texts (because I didn't get them)) . He said no, he was just busy. I haven't heard from him since. It has been over a week.
The only thing I can think of us that the last time we were together our conversation went down a certain path and I casually said something to the effect of "When I met you I had planned not to like you, but apparently I do." I think he asked what that meant. I said "I don't know, you win. I loose..." I was kind of joking, it wasn't serious.
It didn't feel like one of those heavy moments where people confess they are head over heels for someone because I'm not. I still feel like we are trying to get to know each other and learn to be completely comfortable.
I was kind of stressed that day so I didn't really pay attention as to whether or not what I said made him uncomfortable. Nothing he said or did after that stood out as abnormal.
I don't know if I should text him and ask what's up or not. I was genuinely enjoying his company and getting to know him. What did I do wrong?
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We talked about FB the last time we were together and how we were both on there. So I looked him up a few days later, thinking nothing of the fact I hadn't heard from him - and sent him a friend request. He seems to be a bit of an FB friend whore with around 400 "friends" so I find it odd that he hasn't accepted or denied my friend request. He has logged in since I sent the request because the other day it showed in my news feed that he changed his profile picture and updated his employer info.
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Wow this site needs better editing options... sorry for the double post... I had meant to put that info in the original post but I forgot about it the second time I typed this up.
The first time I had it all written out - hit preview question - was forced to sign up and was never taken back to my post. :S
The first time I had it all written out - hit preview question - was forced to sign up and was never taken back to my post. :S
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LoL. Our text conversation:
Me: Even if we are just FWB - no one deserves to be ignored.
Me: If I freaked you out because I said I liked you or were bored of me - I at least deserve an honest explanation if we are going to go from talking every few days to not...
Me: Even if we are just FWB - no one deserves to be ignored.
Me: If I freaked you out because I said I liked you or were bored of me - I at least deserve an honest explanation if we are going to go from talking every few days to not...
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Him: wo wo wo.. settle your nerves. I dropped my phone in a puddle and had to go til Monday to get a phone. not all my numbers transferred
Me: oh... well then you have horrible phone luck then.
Him: don't get me started on it. I had such a sh*tty weekend
Me: oh... well then you have horrible phone luck then.
Him: don't get me started on it. I had such a sh*tty weekend
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