There's this girl I have a crush on at uni. I met her during the first week, but I don't really see her that often.
I initially had this gut feeling that she might like me, but I didn't know for sure. After a while, I started to realize that I was starting to like her.
I noticed that she was quite open and chatty with other people, but when I tried to talk to her one time, she looked taken aback and she left shortly afterward. All I asked what how had her day been. I asked her friends the same question beforehand.
She and her flatmates were having a party at their flat which I went to (this was the day after the time she seemed taken aback). When I came in, she was watching TV. I asked her something relating to the programme she was watching. She looked at me quickly, looked down and turned back to the TV. It could have been she just wanted to get back to the programme or that me talking to her made her feel uncomfortable and/or nervous in some way.
Later that evening, I made another effort to talk to her. When I was sitting down, I asked if she wanted to sit down. I tend to do this anyway, because I feel its the polite thing to do. She said she was fine and sat down somewhere else.
Later she sat down near me. So I tried making some conversation. I asked her how her day had been. This time she answered more comfortably, So I asked her about one of the subjects she was studying and how she was finding it. I told her an anecdote about something funny my mum had done when she was studying the subject. She smiled and replied that she probably would do something like that. I felt like I was getting somewhere at last!
I got nervous after that though as I've always been a fairly shy guy, since I had a crush on her that didn't help. I looked at her arm and said something like. "Oh, you've got something on your arm?". I reached for a tissue and wiped her arm with it. She didn't seem to get upset or react in a negative way. But I felt embarrassed so I got up and threw the tissue away.
Later, her friend asked me about where I was from. So I replied, she replied that [my crush] was from near there and turned around to her. She asked me where about in [place] I was from? I told her, but she didn't know where it was and I didn't know what to say. The conversation fell apart after that.
One day, I met her in the uni shop and I didn't really know what to say. But since I was facing her, I thought it would be rude not to greet her. But I was so surprised to see her (it had been a while since last time I'd seen her at the party), I said something like "Oh. hi [her name]".
I wasn't smiling when I said this, she said in a low tone "hello" back to me, but I sensed that she seemed uncomfortable and/or nervous. I think she looked down after I made eye contact with her as she replied.
I saw her the other day when I was going to a lecture, I smiled and said hi to her. She smiled back with a beautiful wide smile. She actually looked happy to see me.
I initially had this gut feeling that she might like me, but I didn't know for sure. After a while, I started to realize that I was starting to like her.
I noticed that she was quite open and chatty with other people, but when I tried to talk to her one time, she looked taken aback and she left shortly afterward. All I asked what how had her day been. I asked her friends the same question beforehand.
She and her flatmates were having a party at their flat which I went to (this was the day after the time she seemed taken aback). When I came in, she was watching TV. I asked her something relating to the programme she was watching. She looked at me quickly, looked down and turned back to the TV. It could have been she just wanted to get back to the programme or that me talking to her made her feel uncomfortable and/or nervous in some way.
Later that evening, I made another effort to talk to her. When I was sitting down, I asked if she wanted to sit down. I tend to do this anyway, because I feel its the polite thing to do. She said she was fine and sat down somewhere else.
Later she sat down near me. So I tried making some conversation. I asked her how her day had been. This time she answered more comfortably, So I asked her about one of the subjects she was studying and how she was finding it. I told her an anecdote about something funny my mum had done when she was studying the subject. She smiled and replied that she probably would do something like that. I felt like I was getting somewhere at last!
I got nervous after that though as I've always been a fairly shy guy, since I had a crush on her that didn't help. I looked at her arm and said something like. "Oh, you've got something on your arm?". I reached for a tissue and wiped her arm with it. She didn't seem to get upset or react in a negative way. But I felt embarrassed so I got up and threw the tissue away.
Later, her friend asked me about where I was from. So I replied, she replied that [my crush] was from near there and turned around to her. She asked me where about in [place] I was from? I told her, but she didn't know where it was and I didn't know what to say. The conversation fell apart after that.
One day, I met her in the uni shop and I didn't really know what to say. But since I was facing her, I thought it would be rude not to greet her. But I was so surprised to see her (it had been a while since last time I'd seen her at the party), I said something like "Oh. hi [her name]".
I wasn't smiling when I said this, she said in a low tone "hello" back to me, but I sensed that she seemed uncomfortable and/or nervous. I think she looked down after I made eye contact with her as she replied.
I saw her the other day when I was going to a lecture, I smiled and said hi to her. She smiled back with a beautiful wide smile. She actually looked happy to see me.
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(On the day of the party, I was drinking. I didn't drink before I came to uni. Her friend teasingly called me a "piss head", after which [my crush] said the same thing. I've read that its a good sign that a girl might like you if she teases you.
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Anyway, do you think she does like me? Or do you think that maybe I was wrong initially and I just want to see the signs that she likes me because I've developed a crush on her?
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I saw her last Friday. I talked to her and she seemed more comfortable with me. Later. I found that somebody (I'm pretty sure it was her) had left me a note. It said she thought that I was a really nice guy, she knew there was a connection between us.
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and that my smile brightened up my day. I haven't seen her since then. I haven't told anyone else about this note, because I thought since she left it for me - she probably is too shy to tell me verbally how she felt - and I should keep what she's said to
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me between us. I think she's waiting for me to make the first move - in asking her out - now. When I next see her at a time when she is alone, how should I approach her and be sure that it was her who left the note. Thanks.
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I'm going to just tell her next time I see her by herself. I'm just going to be honest and accept whatever she says. The note could be a fake from someone else, but either way I feel I should tell her.
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It turns out the note was written by her friend as a "drunken mistake". I still feel the girl responds strangely to me. But maybe she just doesn't like me.
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