Why do I like shy girls?

[Anonymous]

i really like shy girls that are really pretty or cute, like there is often times an innocence about them, and I always feel like they're good girls. I'm also not looking for pre-marital sex, and very much look for commitment. my friends who I feel aren't looking for what I'm looking for, say my standards are too high or they aren't even taken back by the girls I find attractive even though I find them so great and cute. I don't understand how you couldn't like such a girl, but they're more sexual so maybe its something subconscious to do with that.

also I wonder, if guys can be so attracted to cute, quiet girls, why does it seem like all the cute girls are never attracted to cute, quiet guys? I find more outspoken obnoxious girls unattractive. but why are girls attracted to that in guys? not to mention these guys tend to be players. why can't girls be more attracted to the shyer, innocent, good guy, like a lot of guys find girls attractive for being that way?

[Aaammm]

late but true, cause I am too just quite, by birth, and yeah due to some frequent changes of primary schools, due to my dad, who is a business man. Its made me a bit more quite and shy. But in higher school, many guys attracted to me indirectly (they see me, when I don't see them back), and shy guys tries to speak me mostly on projects and subjects. I am quite smart in doing work completely, sometimes helps others in core subjects, but less as my shyness made them freak a bit.

So what I noticed is, as I speak less or one word answer, many times-many times I sensed they used to get a chance to see my face more, rather my answers. And here they scan our facial and eyes throughout, and sometimes guys becomes cute or sexy to me, and this effects my mind so weird.. ha ha.. :D only girls knew my few talents, rather guys...and this made them a bit more curious... I don't show my shyness every time, but only when some one tries to speak other than subject stuff, and see me as whole, when I don,t even try to catch their eyes..lol, do you know some other stuff? Girls sometimes become jealous on me indirectly, and it reflects on their behaviors and eyes.. ;P.. So be yourself, and if you want to date, make some courage to meet them privately, and just ask some other than personal stuff, this will make them more near to you and try to figure you out after comfortable with you...then ask some personal stuff like their interests and hobbies etc, etc, and yeah its a bit hard, unless you don't figure it out, and be sure there are less guys and girls near to her, like library or lunch time, where you can open your interests to her. (my experience as a shy girl) ! but beware all shy girls are not innocent, and they don't jump to you in first contact itself...he he.. ;) just saying.!

[bijinbijinbijin]

im a cute shy girl, I rarely approach a guy because of it. If I think a guy is really cute and cool then I will be nervous and wonder what he is thinking about me, is it good, bad, is he thinking of having sex with me.. I do not get approached by shy guys probably for the same reason I don't approach a guy, but I do get approached by every other kind of guy and they always end up being no good for me. I think shy guys are attractive. I get the feeling that I might have a lot in common with a shy guy, but unfortunately we are both shy and we are only just looking at each other from across the room.

[peace-love-couture]

I like shy, quiet guys.

I rather the good guy over the bad boy any day. I'm quite fond of a guy in my government class. He's really cute, but shy and somewhat quiet. Plus, he's nice and has a good sense of humor.

Some girls just think shy means insecure.

[Anonymous]

ahha. I totally agree with you. cute and shy ftw!

again, I think girls are attracted to really obnoxious guys because they think (because of our culture) that they have a lot of self confidence... personally that's bull. eventually tho, I think girls learn that the player type is just a disaster for a relationship, and pick better guys. I know at least one example of this happening. the girl always dated the player type, kinda slutted herself out, but now is in a stable relationship with a shyer, better guy. so yeah.

[cyrus7]

shy girls seem more submissive which is why they are more attractive to a majority of guys (most guys are dominant), girls are not attracted to quiet guys because quiet guys seem submissive and a submissive guy is no good

[Asker]

woah who says a submissive guy is no good? or even that a shy guy would actually be submissive at all?

[cyrus7]

submissive guys don't take what's theirs and are submissive

[Asker]

i feel like any form of dominance over another person in a relationship is just a recipe for disaster though. both people work at a relationship, one does not run a relationship over another.

[cyrus7]

that's where you're wrong, most girls want a strong dominant guy for a partner

it's always been like that ever since caveman days

[Asker]

doesn't it seem like that is the very characteristic that leads to so many girls being left or cheated on or hurt? I'm not saying I can't be a man, but its not that girls ever give shyer men a chance anyways, so how would they even know?

[a7aaaa]

nerfus yes loner yes but i dont consider myself shy i hope not some people consider me rude and i kinda agree by the way what is wrong with fucking another girl while being in a relationship !

[Anonymous]

It's funny that you'd say shy girls are usually innocent and good girls. I'm quiet and shy, but I am for sure not innocent. Don't judge a book by it's cover!

[doctorwhofan23]

Not innocent in what way

[Asker]

i think outward appearance says quite a lot about someone. but there are a lot of fake people out there too.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not fake, but a lot of people assume that I don't drink, party, that I've never done anything with a guy, that I'd never say anything bad, things like that. I'm a nice person for sure, but I'm not a nun.

[Asker]

you don't have to be a nun, lol, but while these things you're mentioning are turnoffs they can be overlooked, especially if you're responsible about them. besides people can make mistakes, but the past is the past, and people can change.

[Opinion Owner]

Haha but none of those things was a mistake. I like partying, and I like hookups occasionally lol. I tend to settle down when I'm in a relationship, and I'm faithul as can be. But when I'm single, I like to have fun. People usually over look that though because I'm shy.

[Asker]

i like having fun too, but I'm shy, and I've never kissed a girl or anything. I've been to some smaller parties but they haven't been all that fun for me. I'd like to try clubbing but there aren't any cool clubs around. but I mostly just like going out with friends to eat or to the mall or something, that's fun enough for me most times. I'm just not one to fall weak to peer pressure and wish there were more people like that :S

[Opinion Owner]

Haha you sound like me.

[Asker]

how so?

[Opinion Owner]

I would prefer to go clubbing over just getting really wasted at parties or the bar, and I like just chilling with my friends, going to a movie, going for coffee, or shopping, things like that. But there's nothing to do where I live so I end up parting just like everyone else haha

[Asker]

yeah you do sound a bit like myself, lol.

[a7aaaa]

you properly a loner like me than shy

[alysaa16]

im shy myself so you no two lefts don't make a right but opposited attract! I don't like the players but I don't like shy guys because I don't get to know them as well shy+shy=awkward silences haha

[Anonymous]

Lately, I've begun to like shy, quiet guys more. (I'm a shy, quiet girl.) I've found that there are some guys that can be quiet, shy, and self-assured.

[Asker]

so you're liking shyer guys better now?

[Opinion Owner]

That's right. It's harder to get to know anything about shy guys, but I had a class with this shy guy and he turned out to be charismatic in a quiet way. I only wish it were easier to meet shy guys! Shy definitely isn't a bad thing in my book...

[Anonymous]

Not really, I guess based on my observations shy girls liked shy guys more but I guess being handsome is one thing that you should have to attract them

[MalibuBeach]

I think guys prefer the loud girls than the shy ones like me :(

[Asker]

well most guys are immature and are out for sex and a good time and the obnoxious girls generally give that to them :/

[alltheabove1212]

false. I prefer shy girls! If they're cute too, damnnnnn :)

[a7aaaa]

if its only for sex other than that a shy cute girlie feminine (not feminist that is the total opposite of it:) is for me if i want to fuck a girl that acts like boys i would fuck a boy i would take a wild guess and say boys are more better acting like boys than girls!

[Anonymous]

Because it makes you feel like you're the one in control! lol

[menina]

People say that opposites attract...

[Asker]

but I'm shy as well. I look for similarities and a connection.

[menina]

I'm like you, but (unfortunately) we can't choose to whom we're attracted to.

[Shaun]

Because they're better people.

[Asker]

so theoretically, shouldn't it be the same for both guys and girls?

[Shaun]

I think it is.

[doctorwhofan23]

Shy girls are so cute

[Asker]

yessss

[doctorwhofan23]

I love shy girls

[Asker]

theyre the best!

[doctorwhofan23]

Being shy makes it hard to talk to them

[Asker]

i sort of agree.

[doctorwhofan23]

I almost think it would be better if a friend helped you meet a shy girl

[Asker]

yeah possibly.