If a girl rejects you, should you persist anyway?

[NothingGoldCanStay]

I have heard of guys standing in the snow at 3am and begging for the girl to give him a chance and after the second day the girl gave in. So is persistence attractive or not?

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To clarify I am not speaking personally, I am in a relationship, I have never chased a girl who rejected me, well not since maybe 7th grade or something. I have too much pride. Just wondered because although it seems desperate have friends who have done it and gotten really lucky. Like they have hooked up really hot babes by doing it. That is why I was wondering.

[SoShimie]

Well I always have my rule of saying no at least once before accepting a guy cause it shows how much he really really does want me...

It depends though, if it is an ex then persist to the point where they know you do care and you won't regret not chasing them but not to the extent of stalking and stuff... Keep talking to them and being there for them.. But if they get annoyed, it's okay... But if they get annoyed.. Like PISSED annoyed, then gtfo. Don't persist to the point where you're invading their personal bubble.

Hope this helps somewhat..

[charlie_girl]

Depends what circumstances she has rejected you. If you don't know her and she rejects you STAY AWAY. By continuing to pursue her, you will only make yourself look even more desperate and stalker-like. If this is your ex, persisting my be OK depending on the situation. But bear in mind if a girl knows your in love with her in spite of rejection she will think your a push over, so either way it's not doing you any favours! Good Luck

[Habakkuk]

good answer, depends on the circumstances, sometimes you don't want to look weak/detached/uncommitted and flake out, other times you don't want to look desperate...

[NothingGoldCanStay]

what if he is not a stranger but not an ex?

[charlie_girl]

well what is your history with her?

[Anonymous]

as long as you stay confident in your persistance to get her it's all good. but when you resort to begging that's desperate and girls don't like that (unless of course you are an ex who screwed up and some begging is in order and you're putting aside your pride for us then it's ok)

[Anonymous]

Honestly in my experience if you keep begging her to give you a chance. Your only making things worse. Because your coming off more and more desperate. And desperation is a HUGE turn off to most women.

[Gregs]

Well the girl "gave in" if ou give in to something does that mean you are attracted to it?

Persistance has it's merits tho

[misterbill71]

I give in to my cravings for a cigarette all the time... just because you "give in" doesn't mean you don't want something in the first place... it just means you have reservations. A lot of girls, especially younger girls, might be attracted to a guy but reject him due to social pressure from friends or even just due to the fear that he's not really serious... or a billion other reasons... but they "give in" to the attraction they are feeling despite their misgivings.

[Gregs]

ou don't really want to smoke, you are addicted to the chemicals, if you wanted to smoke you would just go for it but you know it's no good for you.

[misterbill71]

actually I really enjoy smoking. but I do know that it is bad for me, and since I don't want lung cancer I keep trying to quit. :\

anyway maybe it was a bad example, but my point is still that you can "give in" to something that you already wanted (like say a slice of chocolate cake).

[Gregs]

but then you regret it and beat yourself up over it, that's not a good way to have a relationship. Isn't better to find something you really want and will feel good after having it?

[KH11226]

it truly depends on the individual. For me, if I'm not into the guy. You can climb Mt. Everest, if I'm not into you, I'm not into you, but there some who if they see the good in you, not by going to their house at 3am lol, but by helping her with work or if that person is nice to her all the time, that can change a person's mind and the girl might say "You know what he seems cool, I'm gonna give him a shot" I always say try to be good friends with the person first and you may grow on her.

[prettylittlelady123]

Once I've said a definite no, it means no. Begging a girl for a chance in my opinion is one of the most unattractive qualities! And it makes me feel guilty and yucky, so its best for us both if you don't embarrass yourself and just walk away :)

[FierceMegan]

Generally speaking, If she rejects him, I think he should move on.

[Anonymous]

if it like the third time and she still says no , wait awhile fourth time and its still a no don't keep on persisting she's just going to get annyoed

[Anonymous]

Persistence can very easily turn into being annoying. If a girl rejects you, she isn't interested and you should move on to another one.

[Anonymous]

persistence = attractive.

begging/whining = NOT.

[Anonymous]

No. She rejected you, find someone else