I appreciate that your thinking of the future but the way you sound doesn't really feel like thinking in loving terms.
The girl I love with all my heart is jobless, and I have no idea how long this condition will last. I hope she finds a job for her sake etc. but it would not make any difference to how I feel for her (in terms of loving her or choosing to be with her).
What is your real concern?
My advice is understand what your really bothered about. For the right person, you would not question leaving them if you have the choice. I could imagine your questioning wether this person is "really" bothered about you or is just "taking advantage" possibly?
I can say one thing simply, if your even considering not waiting for someone then your not truly in love with them. It may not mean they are not right for you, it may mean you have not reached that place together or that you will not find that true love with them, but it does mean your not truly in love. Once truly in love you no longer have a practical choice, love will only allow one choice, the choice of the "us, no matter what" (assuming the other person would be happier with for that pairing)
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Personal experience: been told to "hold back my partner" because I couldn't find a job too. She found a job and it was her first. And instantly she felt she was moving forward in life and I wasn't. Even though I had a higher education. Eventually she couldn't stand that anymore and dumped me (for someone else, leaving with what money we had). 7 years down the drain. Because I guess she wanted nice things NOW. But who knows. Never talked again.
Anyway, found a well paying and cool job soon after she left. And life is great now (career, girls, money). But I haven't really heard of it before that a girl stays with an unemployed or unsuccessful guy. And I would gladly stand corrected.
with the current job market, finding a job for such a high paying career may be difficult. a lot of well educated guys I know are taking career path changes temporarily and working at places they might normally find "demeaning". one guy I know with a business management degree is working at a chick-fil-a.
sometimes you have to settle for second best until you can have your first choice. see if he is willing to work somewhere while continuing to look for his dream job.
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