Why did he lie to me...?

[Anonymous]

Me & my friend have kinda become more than friends, we have known each other for 7 years now. But the other day I saw he wrote on some girls Facebook that he loved her, which he also tells me, so I asked him about it and he said there was nothing to worry about as she is a lesbian, but he lied as she isn't a lesbian, so why did he lie too me I asked him to be honest, so now I feel like he is just using me he told me that he wasn't and that who put things like that into my head, he started talking about when we first met and that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me, also that he wanted me to move in with him. He even remembered the girls name I like which I want to call my baby one day! Is he using me or does he really like me?

[themastaplan]

hmm the lying about a lesbian part is SKETCHY...real sketchy.

sit back, go do you...it looks like he may be keeping his options open at the moment. I mean if he had said he lvoed her over the internet but to you in person its a completely different meaning almost, more personal in "person"...anyways keep your guard up, don't be so available to him. By doing that you're letting him know that you have a life and you're making him think well maybe she has other options.

Dont invest your all into this right now, make sure he has his mind staright, that you won't tolerate lying...especially over something so small and stupid - he was probably trying to avoid making it a bigger deal than it really is but what I've learned is to just be honest, it builds trust and a stronger relationship...

hope this helps, good luck

[gss99]

Come on. You know the answer to that. This guy is bad news. He's a manipulator. You need to find out why you are attracting those kind of guys and even moreso, why you are dating a guy like that. Well, if he's telling some girl on Facebook that he loves her, he's probably having sex with her. Sorry. Best to just dump that guy immediately and move on. I hope to God that you don't have a child with him. Do you?

[italykam]

Doesn't sound like a good guy to me. You clearly caught him in a lie. Maybe he remembers the girls name and stuff, because he is trying to stay on your good side, but if he is telling other girls that are not lesbians, that he loves them, then he is not solely attached to you like you are to him.

[greycadillacs]

It sounds strongly like he's playing the field, and now that you caught him he's trying to cover up and lie to save himself

[Peter_guo]

he want new girls. but he don't wnat to lose you now, untill he found some girls he think better than u, he will leave u.