Why do ugly guys hit on me?

Question

okay, I know I'm not ugly. I am thin, I get a lot of compliments, and I frequently get honked at when I am walking to and from school (kinda annoying, actually). No, I am not a slut. The problem is that its only the ugly, fat ones that approach me. I'm not saying that I wouldn't want to be their friend, and I'm sure they are good people but I am not attracted to them. I don't understand why they think they have a chance, like if by some miracle I would say yes. Its terrible trying to let them down in a nice way.

so, my question is: why do men hit on women who are so out of their league ?

please don't call me conceited, I'm just very blunt and I say what I feel.

randalx2 · Accepted Answer

Don't let these omegas get you down. There are 3 distinct types of people namely alpha, beta and omega. The Alphas are usually good looking but also have other stuff going for them as well so don't assume they are just pretty faces. However they are very rare in society. You're usually left with the beta guys (Cool average fellows who usually do take pride in themselves but don't have quite the leadership traits of an alpha), then the outright losers i. e the omegas. These guys usually are your typical ugly wussy guys. A shame too, coz if they did improve themselves they wouldn't be considered ugly for instance if they worked out, had better grooming etc. Don't have mercy on these idiots. They want a good looking girl but are very harsh to her when she in fact says she wants a good looking man. Then all the B. S about being shallow etc will be thrown your way, and you need to be sharp to spot the hypocrisy of these guys. They will hit on you regardless because its pretty much coded in a man's genetics to be visual. They mythical chubby chasers or guys that go for ugly girls usually do so out of a lack of options and will say that they are not shallow etc. Don't believe it. My girlfriend is very attractive and when we go out these wuss guys will watch from the shadows. When she is alone shopping they will track her down and start hitting on her in the worst way. I'd say they have pathetic game. They will even admit to being married etc and once you see who they "settled for" its no wonder why they are still out there looking for hot girls. Most on here won't understand you which is why this post is so long. Disregard the omegas and be alpha ;-)... only alphas understand alphas... the haters can start they tirade now.

Phoenix1991 · Accepted Answer

maybe they find you attractive as well? Not all compliments are gonna come from people you might find attractive as well.

evangely · Accepted Answer

Jesus christ, you bunch of bitter, judgmental hypocrites.. Actually yes; there is a league. If you're young, take care of yourself and the way you look, have ambition (work hard to get somewhere), then from your perception you're in a different league to some 40-something, podgy drunkard, and YES, you really start wondering what's going on inside their head when they're asking you for your number. Leagues shouldn't be seen on a scale from negative to positive, but a standard of lifestyle, and mostly you hope for someone to attract that falls in a similar kind of lifestyle. How the f*ck is this girl arrogant or conceited? The only thing that I can read from this thread is that you all are struggling with the countless rejections you've had to endure. Your need to respond negatively to this thread makes this quite obvious; why else would you reply if you can't simply ask this question neutrally? Pathetic.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

ugly guys have nothing to lose so they hit on girls. its like a numbers game. a lot of ugly men have been taught, that it doesn't matter how bad they look, they still have a chance at getting a decent looking girl if they use their personality so that's why they do it.

it does not make you conceited or bitchy to notice this.

it's funny how people are acting like you're wrong for thinking that some of the guys who hit on you are ugly. like it's so horrible not to find every single person on earth attractive. if you don't act gracious for sexual attention by men you don't find attractive then you must be a bitch.

CommieDearest · Accepted Answer

There's nothing wrong with letting them down nicely. However obsessing over it and your superiority complex is pretty undesirable. PS I've live in a city and every girl gets honked at walking down the street, doesn't matter what they look like. I get honked at in oversized sweats and I'm no super model. Maybe you're letting things get to your head.

Misty_04 · Accepted Answer

Because they might not consider you "out of their league" as people have completely different perceptions of their own attractiveness and that of others. Quite simple really.

Shyguy_1988 · Answer

If you think you are out of someones league I'd say you're conceited. I don't think that leagues exists, yes I think some guys go just on looks and not compatibility because guys are very visual, like a overweight unhealthy guy hitting on a skinny health freak girl... not really compatible, anyway but obviously women are visual to, you're proof of that. Also on top of which it takes a lot of courage for a guy to do that in the first place. Something like this shouldn't bother you, sure you are not attracted to them, but don't call them ugly because YOU'RE not attracted to them. Reason I think you have more growing up to do is the fact you bluntly call them ugly and say that rather then you're not attracted to them as well as take this as an insult over a compliment. Just politely say you're not interested and move on. That is more proper and nice thing to do, also blunt and gets your point across.

john5246 · Answer

I think the answer to your question is actually IN the question. Take a step back and re-read it.

You don't think guys can sense a girls personality by her looks at all? The "ugly" guys have nothing to lose that's why they'll hit on anyone. Same with black guys, they holla at every chick because they got nothing to lose and everything to gain.

Anonymous · Answer

Oh wow, you get honked at, last time I was in the city these ugly black girls were crossing the street one of them was fat too, and the guys were honking and yelling out the window.

Guys do this all the time, don't feel special.

Prilee1992 · Answer

ugly, fat ones have no fear about approaching women because they got nothing to lose, handsome guys tend to lose 'face' quite frequently which is not true as they thought

ledfoot64 · Answer

maybe they think you would be great going out on a date and besides nobody is ugly on the outside it's inside is what counts a girl can be really pretty on the outside but when they talk is what is ugly about them and what they are thinking

Vegvisir · Answer

You're probably a lot uglier than you think you are

Hartmut · Answer

Well, excuse them for having the hope that you might have enough of a heart to even give them a chance, rather than just reject them right out.

RyanRyanson · Answer

You can't control the people who approach you, only the people you approach. Suck it up and go after what you want, or stop whining when what you want doesn't go after you.

Kain6th · Answer

Any girl who thinks a 'league' exists is not worth it at all imo. You have more maturing to do woman

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe you're standards are a tad too high. Someone you may not find attractive right away could end up being someone you really connect with. It sounds like you are WAY too judgmental and maybe the guys you find attractive don't find your cockiness appealing. Humble yourself, you might learn more about yourself that way.

JohnE · Answer

People are allways guna do that so its normal. And maybe you have a high standard? What's your deffenition of ugly lol

Metal189 · Answer

saying you're hot, without proof, is bragging, no proof, no truth

naturaldisaster · Answer

A male likes an attractive female, therefore he will do anything just to get her attention.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm very blunt and say what I feel too. You are conceited.

Anonymous · Answer

Studies show that ugly guys are the most prolific at hitting on women. Hollywood has made billions selling them the fantasy that they can get a decent woman. Their failure to ever land one results in them hitting on EVERYONE.

truckjunkie · Answer

Maybe they dont want to date someone that thinks their shit dont stink?

Anonymous · Answer

Someone sounds shallow and stuck up. Yes honey you are conceited you have spoiled princess syndrome

Anonymous · Answer

There is that self confidence that all girls find so appealing. I'm sure you are dating one now right?

ani123 · Answer

people can't control who theyre attracted to

EvilPimp · Answer

Because you're ugly too?

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