I love my boyfriend, but I don't like his habits

[Anonymous]

Long story kind of short.

Me & my kinda boyfriend(aren't exactly together at the moment) , we started dating last September, & dated until January, got into arguements about his habits with weed and just other arguements between our relationship.

we didn't talk for 7 months and didn't get along, and we just started talking again, last month. I didn't ever think we'd be together again. so I feel colser than ever with him, and he wants to get back together, but I'm afraid of going through the same things that bothered me last time we dated.

He's always there to care for me, treats me better than anyone has before, loving, sweet, everything I want in a guy. I love him. but there's a few problems.

I don't feel like his first priority sometimes, I feel like his friends come before me at times. like I will make plans with him, he will either say he's busy, or hangout with me for a little bit, and says he has to go do stuff, meaning find weed, smoke weed, whatever. I don't have a problem with weed, just have a problem that it sometimes comes between us. I don't like it, and I've said something before about it kind of, but like he gets mad. I know you can't change a person and you have to accept them for who they are. but like it makes me mad sometimes. I'm actually glad to say we're not dating yet, because I always get mixed thoughts alot, like am I holding on to something that will never change, or could it overtime? I love him, but sometimes things just get out of hand. I sometimes ask myself why I'm still holding on, when things get like this. what should I do? I love him

[Haliedaisy1]

You've pretty much answered that last question right there about why you're still holding on: It's because you love him. And I see it must be hard for you to have to deal with his habits, but don't let that stand in your way. If you really care about him and want to stay together then you should just see past his habit. Remember, loving someone doesn't mean you have to love everything about him, it means that even though he has his flaws you still accept him for who he is and whatever he brings along. If his habit bothers you that much then try compromising. Explain to him that you feel like its coming between you guys and you want to find a middle ground where you can both have be satisfied. If this isn't enough for you and/or him then maybe it is time to move on. Hope I helped and good luck with whatever your decision!

[Asker]

thanks!

[Kirrena]

I know you don't mind the weed, but he wouldn't be this way if it wasn't of the weed. I understand how you feel, I myself am in a similar situation... Although my boyfriend is in his early stages of weed addiction. I can already see the weed affect on him. He's become less motivated, lazy, and irritable. It's like all he looks forward to now is getting baked. I know we love each other but his lack of commitment in the relationship gets me wondering if it'll be worth it in the long run.

I can't give you any advice because you've been through this a lot longer than I have.

[Asker]

thank you!