Have you ever noticed this about introverts?

[dIO_oIb]

Physically attractive introverts are typically seen as "sexy, dark, and mysterious" people.

Physically unattractive introverts are typically seen as "weird stalker-esque, will probably turn out to be a serial killer" types.

Physically average introverts just aren't even noticed.

I noticed this last night. Complete bullsh*t. :\

[FlightAuror2]

So, my being looked over or ignored is, in a way, supposed to mean that I'm physically attractive? Sorry, but I don't buy it... I'm much more inclined to agree with a statement such as "Introverts tend to be quiet, thoughtful, to themselves, and ponderous people, which leads them to constantly appear busy, therefore no one wants to bother them, and thus they get 'looked over' very often."

These statements also don't take into account the status of the observer (introverted/extroverted). An extroverted person may see a physically attractive introvert and decide to not only notice them, but to also approach them. Whereas an introverted person seeing the same physically attractive person would shy away from saying anything due to their own introverted tendencies, and possibly due to insecurity or lack of confidence, and thus its not to say that the person isn't noticed, but that both people simply weren't meant to meet based on their being mutually introverted.

As to whether unattractive introverts get labeled as stalkers, there certainly is a fair share of creepy people in the world, but I'd rather think that these people are more conditioned by their environment to keep to themselves and being so introverted and possibly less popular either in school or among their own group of friends they end up having certain tendencies (gaunt features, looking around quickly, avoiding eye contact for longer than a second, fast speech). These sorts of body language statements would lead some to stereotyping that one person or another as appearing creepy, when in fact that person may be one of the nicest, most considerate, people you could ever meet.

Hopefully that all made sense lol I've attempted a lot of reasoning on this sort of topic and trying to figure out based on the reactions of others whether they find me attractive or not, because I never get approached or anything, so I looked for whatever signs I could find, then watched other people and noticed that I've never witnessed anyone getting approached at all, which led to even further reasonings that thus I've come up with this: "Regardless of whether or not someone finds me attractive, it won't mean a damn thing if we never meet." Therefore I don't have to become more extroverted, necessarily, but I do need to be more open to interactions with others. I don't have to change who I am. I like who I am. I just have to show others who I've become and hope that someone takes enough interest.

[Comet]

Dude.. you're definitely extrovert according to this... post!

[scar1]

first of all this generally only applied to female (guys generally aren't nearly as casual about labeling people creepy, serial killer- eske ect.). its only true to some degree and its more with reserved/unfriendly people than it is shy people. also it depends if the person strong (as far physical strength and/or fighting skills) and/or how strong he looks, of course this generally only applies to guys.its also the same way with socially awkward people but worse and you have to be very easy on the eyes not be considered creepy (average or even slightly above doesn't cut it. also you referred to youself as introverted but shy...what? (I copy and paste this from dictionary.com link

in·tro·vert [n., adj. in-truh-vurt; v. in-truh-vurt] Show IPA

noun

1.

a shy person.

2.

Psychology. a person characterized by concern primarily with his or her own thoughts and feelings (opposed to extrovert).

3.

Zoology. a part that is or can be introverted.

[dIO_oIb]

"Psychology. a person characterized by concern primarily with his or her own thoughts and feelings"

I'm not shy, I'm just more consumed by my own thoughts than socializing.

[scar1]

ok I understand now your question sense since reserved/friendly would fall under def 2, it was just confusing when you said that are not shy your just introverted

[dIO_oIb]

when I say introvert I mean people who either don't like, or choose not to, socialize. The basic psychological term. This applies to both men and women, a girl who is physically unattractive and "antisocial" will be perceived as an outcast and creepy.

[scar1]

yes but generally speaking its women that do that and other similar things (atleast in America) and like I said when come to being in outcasted in such a fashion there are other factors in play and it I was clear it was the context that confused me (not the statement itself

[scar1]

I meant "incase it wasn't clear"

[Scorpi]

Thats me lol. The only reason I get guys is cause they think I'm attractive (that sounds kinda stuck up, but I didn't intend for it too :/). Otherwise I am the most awkward, shy, quiet person around. Its the only reason I get guys looking at me at all, I don't have the confidence or the flirty personality to back it up. To be honest, when I guy thinks hits on me I instantly think somethings wrong with him or that he's desperate for even talking to a loser such as myself lol

[IHateMeganFox]

You look pretty so no need to think that way.

[Scorpi]

Well thanks, but its sort of an automatic thought. I still see myself as a nerdy 14 year old girl with terrible hair and horrible eyebrows lol. And I'm not really sure what happened with the last sentence in my answer, I kinda screwed it up. Its mean to say 'when a guy hits on me'. Not sure why I wrote 'think'.

[imperatriz]

No way, it's more like physically attractive introverts are interesting psychopaths that will turn out to be a serial killer and physically unattractive introverts are considered to be plain ol' socially awkward nerds.

[Whistling_Dixie]

Good logic!

Go with that my pretty! (Wringing hands in evil ways)

[Xx_DRE_xX]

I feel so much better about myself now.

[Anonymous]

I'm not too sure what an introvert is but this question reminds me of my hate for Edward Cullen

[dIO_oIb]

LMAO. Ahahahaha!

[dIO_oIb]

You're probably going to get BA for that.

[Anonymous]

its true, because you judge them on their appearance only, an annoying personality can make a hot girl ugly, a sweet personality can make an average guy really attractive... It's not bullsh*t.. people go on whatever they're given, some really like introverts, some think they're stuck up... some don't like extroverts and think they're obnoxious..

[dIO_oIb]

you bring up really good points.

[Whistling_Dixie]

Who told you that I killed anyone?

Who? Who?

Just kidding, Hahaha! Ahem, Hahaha!

Really! Who told you? I din't! I swear! It was all an accident!

Seriously, that's just a proof that looks matter, no matter anyone says, eh?

[dIO_oIb]

right.

[peace-love-couture]

Yes, I've definitely noticed this haha

Why is it bullsh*t? You don't seem like you'd be an introvert...

[dIO_oIb]

I am. The reason it's bullsh*t is because it's complete bullsh*t lol.

[Kain6th]

It's bullsh*t because humanity is f***ed up like that

[peace-love-couture]

You seem like you'd be the outgoing type haha, sort of like a class clown(NO OFFENSE)

[dIO_oIb]

none taken lol. I'm actually fairly quiet, I don't talk much unless someone talks to me first generally. Although I'm not shy, I just choose not to be so open.

[bellybuttonlint]

Batman is one of the prime examples of what you call physically attractive yet introverted.

But you are right though. How you look is how you are treated for the rest of your life.

[dIO_oIb]

Batman is such an awesome example for this! I can't believe I didn't think about that.

[bellybuttonlint]

That's part of his appeal. He's probably even more popular than Superman because the fact that he's introverted and a billionaire playboy. People would describe him as "sexy" whereas someone like Spider-Man wouldn't be deemed as sexy, but certainly wouldn't be deemed as "stalker-esque".

[scar1]

if you replace introverted with reserved/unfriendly that would be an awesome example

[windy-rose]

Depending on career choices, intelligent nerds tend to be in this category too.

[dIO_oIb]

what does career choice have to do with this?

[windy-rose]

That was probably the wrong word, mad sense in my head. But I've noticed that people who go into techy-sciency fields tend to be introverted around other people generally. And that it somewhat gets amplified after you've immersed yourself in it and fewer regular folks catch your references or even know much about the things ya want to talk about.

[vishna]

SO true. All the guys who are drooling over hot are the mysterious sexy ones yet the quite unattractive ones are the people most are afraid of. Then the average ones are looked over like they are invisible.

[RememberWhenItRained]

that explains things :P I fall into the third category.

and yes, I was thinking about this not too long ago.

[Dylan1989]

The third one is definitly me! I don't know if people see me as weird or stalker-esque, but I know for damn sure I'm never noticed.

[Anonymous]

I'm not a serial killer... I just like to run over people

[dIO_oIb]

HA.

[FierceMegan]

Generally speaking of course, I would see it as correct.

[Pearlescent]

Wow, when I think about it that does seem to be how they are viewed at my school... sad really...

[Dan2287]

That puts me between average and unattractive. Awesome..

[Visionaryxx420]

I...I... Never f***ing knew that...

And people call me dark and mysterious all the time... GREAT SCOTT.

[Anonymous]

I agree completely. I'm tall and athletic so I get off easy. All the time I am told I'm good looking. The only two times I've had sex were female friends that seduced me.

[Anonymous]

Guess that tells me why I'm not really noticed...then again, I never really wanted a lot of attention. I wasn't popular in high school; I didn't care

[Black_Swan_12]

haha, Yes. I was thinking about posting a similar question.

[Anonymous]

I fall under the first catagory and it always works for me

[Anonymous]

Too damn true, lol. You forgot to add "creepy" though.

[BackAgain]

Not really the attractive ones are seen as stuck up

[ZenQueen]

what does that make an ugly extrovert?

[dIO_oIb]

idk, I haven't focused so much on extroverts in social settings, but when I do I'll let you know.