How to act like bad ass and still be a nice good person?

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Everyone I need some help here how to act like bad ass and still be a nice good person and how to give a"I don't give a f***" attitudes and still be a nice good person at same time here is an example of a video and it's     since he is a bad ass and another example is han solo from star wars since all nice guys and good guys do finish last don't lie I know it's true if it's not true name one woman date me when I'm nice to her all the time and being good to her and I'm super skinny and I know I'm unattractive. And I just wanted to know how to act/or be a bad ass and still be a nice good person at same and don't worry I'm going to guard my heart be smart and be nice all at same time the truth is I hate being single and yes I'm still a virgin and I'm waiting till marriage. And all bad boys get all women and all beautiful women and nice guys and good guys get nothing only thing we get is single mothers and old women in her 50's please don't report me this question is very serious and I'm not attacking women and I'm not bashing women I just wanted to know how to combine of how to act/or be a bad ass and still be a nice good person at same time thanks and if you have tips as well please feel free to add them.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

"since all nice guys and good guys do finish last don't lie I know it's true "

Until you learn why this statement is wrong, I don't think you have much of a chance, to be honest.

The problem isn't being nice or good.

Though it's amazingly difficult to get this through to some guys.

Some guys are like the enormously overweight girls on car-crash television, telling an audience of booing members that "You is all just jealous!"

They love to avoid looking at their flaws. They want their "flaw" to be something positive about themselves. Like "The reason they can't get a girl, is that I'm too nice".

I bet at job interviews, when they are asked to list one fault about themselves, they are the sort of idiot who tries to get away with "Sometimes I work too hard."

The problem with the single nice guys isn't that they are nice. Or too nice. It's that they are boring. And boring guys, who don't have any of the obvious "jerk" qualities, mistake the fact that they are not jerks to mean that they are "nice". As if nice was default.

If a girl has the choice between (1) Nice and Boring, or (2) a Jerk and Interesting, she will often choose (2) over (1).

But it's not the Jerk aspects that are attracting her.

This is the single biggest mistake that most so-called "nice" guys make. Because they don't want to face the ugly truth that they may be boring. They would rather shift the blame to the girls, and say it's because I'm nice and girls don't like nice.

That's crap.

The average girls order of preference would be :

(1) Nice and Interesting.

(2) Jerk and Interesting.

(3) Nice and boring.

(4) Jerk and boring. (This last category may be a theoretical example only)

If nice guys want to get the girl, they have to first really understand why they're single. Why they haven't gotten the girl yet. And that will mean admitting that they are on level 3 there.

If the nice guy thinks "Girls dig jerks. Therefore I'll become a jerk", do you know what he's doing if he changes nothing else about himself?

He's going DOWN the ladder. From (3) to (4). He'll be even less likely to attract a girl.

A nice guy has to go UP from level (3). If he changes one thing about himself, he'll go straight to number (1). Be more interesting.

If he changes two things about himself, becomes a more interesting jerk... well, it's more work and he'll only get to level (2).

Pay attention to this grasshopper. It's rare that anyone on this site takes the time to type all this stuff in plain English, and lay it in front of you so-called nice guys. Mostly because we've learned from experience that you so-called nice guys rarely listen, rarely want to be told that the fault is with you and not with women in general. And rarely change.

I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt here.

Han Solo wasn't a jerk. He was a nice guy.

He just wasn't boring. His little conflicts with the ladies made him interesting.

There's a difference. Learn it.

oOsweet~o~nessOo · Accepted Answer

Honestly - it's just about knowing when to care - and when not to care.

that's all that " I don't give a fudge" is really.

Obviously you can't go around the world complaining, moping, and whining about every little problem and circumstance.

Also when those issues happen, you just reason with the situation and stay calm. Don't get all over dramatic and stupid.

Plus, you have to be honest with yourself. Build your confidence by accepting your flaws and attributes as they are.

And if there's anything you can do to better yourself like working out, or doing a reality check on your personality - then do it.

Don't just sit around and wallow in your pity - make your life what you want it to be.

Don't follow those dumb ass stereotypes hollywood creates in the movies for the " bad ass," or whatever -

Just be a genuine person overall.

Once you achieve the mentality - you won't need to prove anything because people / girls will already know.

Eriss · Accepted Answer

Simple: look to men that both women and men love. You know, the kind of character that you would want to be, want your son to be, the kind of man you would want your little sister or daughter to marry and emulate this man.

ex: chuck norris, bad ass / good man

how to be a nice person:

-faithful, loyal honest, fun, walk tall, have good manners, do the right thing be chivalrous, RELIABLE, consistent, chivalrous, always be a gentleman,

how to be a badass

-speak your mind, know when to shut up swear sometimes but not too much, walk tall, never back down, never back peddle, make someone earn the right to know your vulnerable side (dont show too many people)

the list really goes on but here ya go

BluStar2252 · Accepted Answer

Always be yourself never change, but if you want to be a bad ass then just have the attitude. And when a girl talks to you don't get excited play it cool. But you are most likely to get an immature girl and if you are looking for a real relationship then be you and someone is going to love you for you babe. Sorry no advice about how to be an ass hole to women because that I what I think of when I hear bad guys. And my neice is 21 dating a 39 year old man and he is a sweet heart and that is why she even gave him a chance

olylowlife · Answer

Don't "try" to be anything. Just act yourself, you can only act for so long you might as well just be how you really are. People will like you for how you are.

snowangle · Answer

Go to Facebook and 'like' the Brotips page. Then look through all their tips. It's really good advice.

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