She suddenly stopped responding to my texts, but she's into me

[Anonymous]

Theres this girl I met at school which obviously is into me; she always says "hi" to me every time she sees me even if I'm far away, she notices me and waves. Also she's very friendly toward me and enjoys talking with me, seems to like talking with me more than other women I know. She also makes strong eye contact with me when we talk, it's like I can look into her soul and see that she totally wants me the way she does it. I got her number and we texted back and forth a little then I go on to ask her if she wants to get together for what is obviously a date. She said that she was unavailable during the days I was free but then after I got to that point in the texting, she suddenly stopped responding to me; she didn't respond to my last text after that. So I wait a couple of days and send a text, still no response. Then send another text the day after that, still no response. Been almost 2 weeks since she ignored the first text, its really looking like she's ignoring my text. I still have not hear back from her since that night.

What is going on here? She's obviously into me. The only thing I could see that I have done was asking her out because that preceded her spontaneous text avoiding behavior. But that makes no sense, being asked out should be what she is waiting for! I can't figure out what is going on. Why would she stop responding to my texts? does this mean she spontaneously lost interest in me in a matter of seconds after being asked out? please give me some insight

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this spontaneous text avoiding behavior I'm seeing with this girl is something I have seen with other women I have got numbers from. This isn't the first time this has happened to me. It seems to be some kind of pattern. The girl will unambiguously be showing signs of interest, we will have a nice text conversations, but when I go on to ask her out on a date, that's when they spontaneously stop responding to my text. I can't come up with an explanation that makes sense. help!

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The instance I discuss where she suddenly stops responding to my texts after being asked out is actually the second time I asked her out. I had actually asked her out once before, but she wasn't available on my schedule in that case..forgot to mention this.

[JustChris]

Maybe it was too soon to ask her her out. Why couldn't you just let the conversation end without having to ask her out? And also I think another reason was maybe you didn't ask her out in person. It's the holidays so she's probably busy doing other things and whatnot. It's almost New Year's Eve. My advice is from now on is to take things slow with girls. Just get to know them and keep talking to them with the intention of not going out since this is happening to you for some bizarre reason. Keep it friendly but not too friendly. Switch up your game until one works for you.

[starglazer]

Well, what may seem like her "obviously being into you" Maybe she was just being friendly. So when you asked her out she realized you took her friendliness the wrong way, but she don't know how to correct the situation. Therefore she is ignoring you. If she was really into you she would have responded in some fashion by now, but that is my guess.

[Asker]

Her never having been interested and was "just being friendly" doesn't fit. I've already considered that possibility. There is one key thing that she has done that rules it out: she sometimes gives me this "look" that she wants me. It's this deep look into my eyes like she wants me. Women who are "just friendly" NEVER DO THIS EVER EVER! ...I am still puzzled to understand her behavior why she won't respond and I haven't heard from her in almost 2 weeks.

[Asker]

So what do you think about JustChris's answer below? Do you think he has a point? I need a female perspective on his advice. is it possible to turn a woman off by "asking out too soon" as he suggests?

[starglazer]

Looking you in the eye doesn't necessarily mean that she wants you. She could just be the type of girl who is not intimidated to look people straight in the eye. Almost always if a girl is truly interested she wouldn't leave you wondering for 2weeks unless she shy and is waiting for something. But from what you have said, she doesn't seem like she would suddenly become shy when you asked her out. And yeah it can be a turn off if you ask too soon because it may seem a bit desperate

[starglazer]

Not that you are (by the way) just perception. However, if she is interested she won't think that because she wants you to ask her out.

[Asker]

well it wasn't just a simple stair into my eyes. Its a special kind of look that you just instinctually recognize as meaning something...it was no ordinary stair she smiled alittle when she did it too. It was an unmistakable act of flirting with her body language...its like when a girl sees a guy at a bar that she likes and she wants him to come talk to her, she stairs him down and then confidently gazes in his eyes and when he looks at her, she smiles to signal to him. THATS THE STAIR I SAW!

[Asker]

So if you know a guy at school, you think he's cute. And you always talk to him when you can when you see him. And one day he gets your number and after have some small talk through texting without really getting to know each other, he asks you out...this would turn you off and make you not like him to the point of cutting off contact?

[Asker]

I forgot to mention this in my original post. I had actually asked her out once before, but she was unavailable on the days I was. She still responded to my texts after this ask out. Its the second time I asked her out when she suddenly stopped responding to texts. This is such a weird situation I'm in..nothing makes sense.

[starglazer]

If I wasn't interested then to avoid saying no, I might not say anything and hope the situation just fads away. So as not to make things awkward and if I see him again and he ask about it I might say I didn't see the text or had to suddenly change phone. This is only if I have been talking to the guy a little and liked him as a potential friend but otherwise would just say no because making up things require more effort then I would be willing to make.

[starglazer]

Ooh and I see. Well you know. She really could have lost her phone or something like that.