My brand new boyfriend went skinny dipping/hot tub with friend and girls?
Hi, I have a boyfriend since 3 months, but he likes me for over a year. I needed a bit convincing, because I wasn't sure if I wanted a relationship... Show More
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1st thing...its never a good idea to say "i love you" for the first time through a text msg. maybe you were just overcome by emotion and couldn't hold it in any more. this is something that should be said face to face. additionally, only a coward breaks up with you over the phone or using a text msg.
he might like you, but he doesn't respect you. or else he would not have put himself in that situation to begin with. a person in love with someone does not get naked and into a hot tub with someone else. I can see maybe...MAYBE a spur of the moment...hey! lets all get naked and into the lake!" skinny dip. but taking time, making a decision to get naked in a hot tub later on? and worse, have the girl on his lap? what if the tables were turned around, what would be going through YOUR head if you were the one who decided you were gonna take off all your clothes and sit on some dude's lap in a hot tub? what do you think could possibly happen? could you assume that maybe the guy that you're sitting on is gonna get turned on? maybe he's gonna put a move on you. then what? there's no way that you could get mad at him because nobody would blame him for thinking you were interested! could you honestly say that you were just wanting to talk and were shocked that he tried kissing, grabbing, or feeling you up? oh yeah, it was a tight fit, so his hands were already all over you.
hmmm...sounds bad. there's no other way to put it gently or be subtle about this. if you really really like this guy? you've got a few things you need to think about.
What Guys Said 6
I thought at first you were bothered by the skinny-dipping, until I read the whole question. I guess I could kinda see about hanging out with the other group, but I don't know why the other girl had to sit on his lap... to be honest, well, wouldn't he get an erection? That's a very intimate question.
It sounds like you forgave him -- at least you told him that... but you really haven't, and I don't blame you.
OMG this guy is playing with multiple girls at a time...dont get too serious with him you are just another coin in his pocket~!
This guy is a drama queen.
If you wave around a sandwich in front of a hungry bear, don't start crying when it bites your hand off.
Cause and Effect.
Case: He's f***ing around with other chicks? ( Yeah, he was, why would he jump into a hot tub full of naked women.. ( and naked guys!?! WOW he was really desperate at that moment ))
Effect: Dump his ass.
If you want drama, you will continue to date him. If you do not want drama, you'll move on.
All he will have are excuses.
It's funny you seem to imply that it would somehow be less bad if she were hot! Anyway, did he get a boner when her naked ass was on his lap? Did he feel up her boobs? Did she touch is d*ck? If not, he's probably pretty sincere when he says it was nothing and he wasn't into her. And if he's clearly more attracted to you than her (if you know she's not that hot) then you have little to worry about going forward.
Sounds like you aren't happy and there's no way you're going to change the guy. So find someone else. Life goes by so quickly, before you know it, you're 40. So stop with the suffering and on to better things and people who love you.
What Girls Said 3
yeah he's gonna cheat on u. probably already did
why didn't he invite you? id ask him that first.
It's okay thing to hang out with a group of male and female friends, that's no biggie. But once nudity is brought into the picture you're getting into a gray area. It's uncomfortable to think about your boyfriend being naked with naked women around, but if there's no physical contact between your boyfriend and those girls then it might be okay. But he definitely crossed a line by having a naked girl sit on his naked lap. That's a definite no-no, how would he feel if it was the other way around? Sounds like there are two possibilities here and neither of them are good. Any guy who's got a stable head on their shoulders and cares about their girlfriend wouldn't put themselves in a position like this because they know it would only hurt their girlfriend and make them think the worst even if it was innocent.
Possibility one: He's the type who likes to fool around. The fact that he "had" a crush on this girl and was sitting with her naked doesn't paint a good picture. It sounds like he might not be over those feelings for her and he doesn't care how his actions with her affect you. He just wants to please himself.
Possibility two: He likes drama. It's possible that he has no interest in cheating, but he does have an addiction to drama. So he put himself in a questionable position and then made sure you knew about it so he could start a fight.