How appealing is it to have a deep conversation with a guy for girls?

[sirspauldo]

I'm not too good at flirting, but I'm really good at starting up a deep conversation. Is that seen as attractive or is that more likely to put a guy in the friend zone?

[DaniJ]

I think it is a million times better to have a deep conversation than to flirt. Flirting is fun, but it doesn't build a real relationship that has any possibility of lasting, since it isn't based on love, but rather on infatuation. Deep conversation (or even just mildly serious) Helps you get to know each other better and cuts a lot of years off of the dating process... (if you're headed for marriage anyway).

One thing you must remember, though the world has been deceived for generations: There is no such thing as the "friend zone". People fall for friends every day. (as in, it happens every day, not people actually fall for their friends every day... that would be weird.) The only time there is ever something that could emulate a "friend zone" is when one of the people is unattractive and they happen to be friends, but it really doesn't have to do with their friendship. There is a reason that married people say that they married their best friend...

I like having deep conversation with guys that I like because it seems like he is truly, genuinely interested in what I have to say and how I feel. Even if I don't particularly like the guy in a romantic way, it is nice to have someone to talk to, and although it is fun to flirt, after a while of flirting with someone only, I start to feel like we aren't going anywhere because we don't have anything real to talk about and we are relying only on infatuation and physical attractions to keep us going (which won't last long... Once she's 70, the attraction is gone. XD)

[DaenerysTargaryen]

I dig men who can carry on with good conversations. Flirting is just like a parcel of the bargain if girls are to fall in love so when we see guys who can be really himself and can respond to conversations and can have a good laugh about things, its a plus, plus point. Personally, I'd be impressed and I'd give second date or so to that guy.

We don't immediately put guys on the friend zone unless he totally and apparently doesn't show any sign of interest on us. So if in two weeks all we do is talk and then he doesn't even ask me out for dinner or doesn't even send a single "take care" or whatnot. That is definitely to be shoved to the friend zone...

[sirspauldo]

that helps a lot thx

[redmenace]

I think it's very attractive and refreshing! If anything, I feel like that takes you out of the friend zone because I would feel like we're connecting on a deeper level.

[aidsleen]

straight to the friend zone.

no flirting, followed by deep conversation, you may as well be gay in her books.

Unfortunately, you can't trust that girls want what they say they want.

You need sexual tension.

deep conversations with previously established sexual tension can work, still kinda dangerous though.

[sirspauldo]

i really don't know how to flirt well, tips?

[rickyjoebobby]

save the deep conversations for pillow talk, I agree.

[-Darling]

idiot.

[aidsleen]

thanks for the input -Darling.

very enlightening.

How exactly am I an idiot?

if there is no sexual tension, nothing happens.

what part of that is wrong?

Sexual tension is the ONLY thing seperating just-friends from potential partners

i wish there were a way to see the gender of who agrees/disagrees with an answer, but they are all girls.

as for the asker, chances are you flirt a bit already, it's a natural

[-Darling]

i don't have deep convos with guys I like. I tell as little about myself as possible and try to avoid answering personal questions. The less they know about me the easier it is for them to imagine me naked in their head, FACT.

[redmenace]

If they're just looking to have sex with you, then yes, the less they know about the girl, the better.

-Darling: Please take care of yourself. You are far too precious to just give yourself away. I hope you meet a man who will truly appreciate you for who you are and not just use you for your body.

[-Darling]

Awh! you're too sweet. I have a boyfriend who does like me for who I am and I have had plenty deep convos with him, lol. But being the mysterious girl is just fun sometimes, harmless fun. just because I like fukkin with their heads doesn't mean I am giving it up. That's also a FACT lol.

[redmenace]

I'm so glad you clarified! Just lookin out! ;)

[Anonymous]

My ex was just like you and I was In so in love with him so it does not matter to me.