Just for clarity, I was that guy that responded in the other post.
Here are some ways you can intentionally or unintentionally disrespect a man:
1. Criticize him in public, espcially in front of friends or his boss. This is killer. With men deriving much of their self-worth from work and the respect of other men (and to a lesser, but significant degree, women), if you tear him down even unintentionally, it can be hard to recover, especially for a man that isn't secure in himself to begin with.
You may think it was a joke that he couldn't put together that desk-in-a-box, but he probably didn't. After all, men are "supposed" to know how to do this stuff. Rational? Not always. Hurtful? Quite possibly. Error on the side of caution and refrain from commentary that could be construed as disrespectful of his capabilities inside or outside of the home.
2. Make disparaging comments about his friends or family. Men, on average have fewer friends than women. What few friends we often keep around, we treasure dearly. If you launch an attack on one of our mates, you're talking about us indirectly. If the man you are with is mature, most likely so will his friends. If a man lacks maturity, and has friends that genuinely are lacking in the personal development category, then you need to question your choice in men.
The saying "bro's before hoe's" didn't come out of nowhere. Watch the show Band of Brothers. Millions of men love this show and for a very sound reason. Loyalty and sacrifice to the team will always take precedent. We get angry when other men disrespect a good leader, or otherwise act out selfishly. We also prize those men who will do anything for a friend. The saying "no man left behind" really means "no man". Attack a man's friend's and you attack him personally. If you feel his friends are without reservation, lacking, that means you need to leave the relationship.
3. Any kind of emasculating comments that are said out of spite cut very deeply. Tell a man he isn't earning enough money. Tell him that he isn't very good in bed. Tell him that he is awkward or otherwise incapable. Tell him you think of him as a "nice guy". If he ever had feelings for you before, any of the above will certainly hurt him on the inside. All of these things translate in his head as "not man enough for you".
As men, we feel the need to prove ourselves, to our fellow men, as much as to the women we are trying to win over. It is a fierce competition and many men up losers. A mature man wants and desires love, but will be incapable of attracting a stable woman unless he is master and commander of his own world. Respect is more important to a man, because it is the prerequisite of love.
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I...would rather be loved personally. I love the work that I do and so I feel the love from my coworkers, clients, prospective clients, just people in general. Yet if I have nothing to do I will sit and read and observe the happenings in my peripheral vision. It is interesting to see how people act when they think nobody is watching them, if you are a man of faith then you know you are always being watched however.
Relationships are just means for men to get sex and domestic favors. Why would it be that big of deal to them? Work means money and money also gives men access to sex and luxuries. What good do relationships do them?
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Well, we like both, and we woldn't want to have to CHOOSE which was more important. But these days, we don't get a lot of respect from women, so a lot of guys would say that respect was more important day to day...love is something more evanescent, but we think respect is solid and can be earned.. Love is more of a chance.. you know?
What a GREAT question~Men have a need to be respected, don't underestimate that. Being loved and respected goes hand in hand when it comes to relationships because women wouldn't even give us the time of day if they didn't respect us.
i agree I would rather be respected then to be loved but if I can get both that would be amazing but if I have to choose id go with respect
Ummmm
Since when is both NOT an option?yes...
Not for me.
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