Why would you girls think that a huge guy will hit you?
To be honest, I Haven't think of hitting a girl.
Personally, I don't find the "swol look" to look, or be attractive. I don't meen to sterotype but body builder type guys tend to be overly obsessed with their body muscles, cocky, rude, arrogant and massive dbags. Plus muscly guys rarely go out with a average loking girl (like myself) so I don't even bother with trying to even talk to them because I already know they we wouldn't give me the time of day. So if one ever hit on me It would obviously be a prank, and I would immediately start laughing or say, "ha-ha very funny. Now where's the cameras?"
I'm already shy around guys no matter the size in general. So I'm alreasy pretty wary and of male attention. Especially because I am 5'3 and 110 lb. From a male stand point I could be easily overpowered and be seen easy target because of my size. On top of this, a guy being that huge compared to me doesn't help. Yes, any guy could be a possible threat to me, but being a blue belt in kick boxing and purple in brizillian jiu-jitsu I KNOW I could and I would eventually maneuver my way out if I ever got into a dangerous situation, but with a guy with such a huge body mass I wouldn't even stand a chance.
From what I understand women aren't scared of being beat by muscly, men they're afraid of comming off as an easy target and being overpowered. Their affraid of the size of the man and how they could EASILY use their size advantage as a weapon. They're afraid of the damage that man could cause.
I can see two sides to this. My long-term partner is a huge powerlifter and bodybuilder, and I find his muscles and strength very attractive and masculine, unlike some of my girlfriends who think it's too much muscle and unnatural.
However, one point they bring up as an issue is the disparity between us. He's 330lbs and I'm a short 105lbs. His bench press is over 600lbs, and I can do about 25-30lbs when I do that (rarely) at the gym lol. So he's probably *20+ TIMES* stronger than me. I find it hard to wrap my brain around the thought that it would take a whole room full of me just to lift the same as him.
So obviously if he wanted to he could very easily hurt or even kill me without any effort at all, even accidentally (he could roll on me in bed and I would literally suffocate under the weight of his muscles). And my friends find that thought scary. But that's completely irrational - it's like saying that just because you own a gun, you're going to kill someone. It's just paranoid nonsense.
But I think that could explain why a lot of women appear to be scared of dating big muscular guys. And probably if they just get to know the guy and his personality, it would change their perception and they wouldn't feel at all 'scared', just as I don't.
I'm not afraid of being with a musclier man... I personally don't find muscles attractive, but I also find muscular men quite intimidating. Not exactly because I'm scared they will hit me... I'm scared of the damage they can do. I think most women find that attractive - they feel protected by their man.
I have really low self esteem and I can't help but think of myself as so annoying and undesirable that someone would want to hit me. Maybe that's why I'm intimidated by muscled men...
One thing I would like to say - doesn't the same argument apply to fat people? I hear quite a lot people say "I'm scared of him/her! She might eat me or sit on me!" Again it's not the fact they have any intention of doing it, it's the consequences and fear if they did.
That's a really insightful post. Thanks for sharing, I never would think that a girl with low self-esteem would think that way about a man who is really fit.
I'm not sure I had a girl say the same thing about me and I'm not even that big yet.it's people not understand and just letting fear take over..The hole big thing and anger is stupid yeah sure there are some guys that's I'm sure are big and have a short temper is it because they are big?More then likely not it's the person that there are being big just makes it worse.Even people that use steroids less then 5 percent had riod rage.
I have always thought women go crazy over the athletic, muscular guys because it makes them feel "protected", whatever that means. Well built men are what women dream and crave for. To hear women are afraid of the very kind of men they want is illogical.
Maybe it's supposed to be illogical, I dunno.
I guess, because of there past mate. I feel bad about those girl's having a abusive bf.
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Generally speaking, body builders tend to 'date' extremely attractive females. In some cases, they even seek out trophy girls . Average looking girls like me do not stand a chance with guys like this. They tend to get a lot of female attention and they have their pick of the lot. Why the hell am I going to subject myself to complete humiliation and embarrassment by even conceiving a guy like this will give me the time of day? For me, it has nothing to do with concern about him hitting me. Because, I don't care how big he is, if he lays a hand on me, I will throw boiling water in his face and kick him in his balls.
I have NEVER met a muscular guy specifically seeking out an average type of girl. If I did, I'd probably be in complete shock and think it was some type of joke.
I'm a muscular-ish guy who tends to date more for personality then looks. On other hand though, I am relatively shy, so someone who can offer 50%+ to a conversation is a must.
It depends on what you define as "muscular". I'm very fit myself as a swimmer so I'm used to my own bulky build, so I wouldn't be intimated by a muscular guy I think. As for body builders that look like those dbags from Jersey Shore, I wouldn't date them just because they seem like dbags to me. It would turn me off to be with a guy like that because I feel like those "typical" body builders have nothing for them aside from the pride they take in their bodies. It's very superficial to me, it's as if they had nothing more to offer. It might be just some stereotype of course but I've often seen those stereotypes confirmed nonetheless, so it's important to me. If you mean muscular as a chunky guy with a good build, that's perfectly fine by me though. But as I said, I AM bulky myself, so I can't speak for the frail-looking, weak girls out there.
nice answer.
Not every muscular guy hits girls, and it's not ONLY muscular guys who hit girls. He could be super skinny, and I'd still be cautious of him. Big, muscular guys can be intimidating though, and I understand why. They're bigger than you and stronger than you, and if they wanted to, they could easily take advantage of you, and that's frightening sometimes. But as I said, shorter and skinnier guys can hurt a woman too, but maybe more women feel that bigger guys are more likely too? Since they are stronger and bigger so it would be easier for them to? I don't know, I'm just guessing here.
Well, with me, I am scared of more muscular guys because I have been in two abusive relationships and they weren't even buff and they did a lot of damage. The man I am with not is strong and muscular, and he hasn't ever been aggressive towards me, but if they are scared, they have probably had a man hit them before and figure it will just hurt more because of the muscular man having more strength.
I am def freaked out by muscular guys, first off, it doesn't turn me on, I'm more into the skinny but toned. 2nd yes I would be scared they'd hit me, they could A.be using steroids B. Get drunk and uncontrollable or C. The increase of testosterone can because them to hit a girl out of anger (in my theory and understanding of it)
Not saying that any muscular guy would hit a woman, but it's understandable to be freaked out because one hit and our face gets smashed in. Not a nice thought.
That thought has never crossed my mind. I love muscular guys (as long as it's not to the extreme). Just because a man is muscular doesn't mean he'll hit a woman. Scrawny little punks beat on women too.
I'd love a muscular guy because that's freaking attractive & I'd feel safe(r) with him around...but then I'd be scared that he'd overpower me...if you get my drift.
I'm only 5'2 108 pounds, so if a guy wanted sex, he'd have a damn good shot with me. I'm PETRIFIED by that...seriously...
For me I;m just not attracted to muscular guys.
As for some girls being afraid of them, I think it's the whole huge guys are on steroids and guys on steroids are crazy and beat their girlfriend thing.
In many cases, muscle-building is a compensatory pastime.
I love muscular guys. I know how hard is to get that musculs, I mostly respect people who build their bodies for years. And I never thought that a big guy willing to hit anybody, why this...
Not because I think they'll hit me, just because really muscular guys tend to be aggressive in general. I know that's a generalization though, sorry :P I'm sure plenty of built guys are gentle-natured.
I've never thought of that... all my boyfriends have been muscular and I wasn't afraid of them. Maybe they're afraid you'll hug them too hard and they'll choke to death?
its not really that much abut muscles..the face matters..does he have this ï am a world wrestling champion"look on his face.. or he has a ï am normal cute guy"look on his face
They tend to be cocky and full of themselves. I can't handle the attention all the time and l hate being pushed over and controlled.
I'm personally not, but I can understand why certain girls could be. They possibly had a bad past with abuse.
um no... I don't know any girl who's not into muscular guys because of that reason.. I wouldn't be that's for sure! muscles are hottttt..
That's not true in my case, I just don't find muscles appealing.
I am not visibly overly muscular you can tell I am built but what most people I think mode scary is the fact I am almost 6'6
I like muscular guys , I never heard of girls being afraid of them besides most of the women beaters I know are skinny anyway.
I'm not afraid, I just find big muscles unattractive.
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