My boyfriend still talks to the girl he cheated on me with?

[Anonymous]

We have been together for 8 years, we have two children. He cheated on me with someone from his work about 6 months ago, he came clean about a small portion of it then and I had to learn the rest on my own. It happened 3 times, he ended up quitting that job because of it. He still talks to her on Facebook they message each other all the time. Its off and on, in the beginning he was talking to her a lot and then he stopped because it was hurting me, and I just found this he started talking to her again on Facebook. He says they are just friends and that's it nothing more. He says I am making it out to be more that it is. I don't know what I should do? I was starting to trust him again and now I find this out. Am I really just being that stupid? or am I just over-reacting?

[Cobalt]

You do not get to remain friends with someone that you cheated on your wife/husband/fiance/boyfriend/girlfriend with if you have any intention of remaining together. He's already proven that he can't be trusted with this woman, its far from unreasonable for you to be hurt and concerned that he continues to have contact with her. The fact that he's willing to do this when you have children makes it even worse.

If he really sees no problem with this then he's either a jackass or a moron, and if he does realize it but continues anyway then he's just a piece of garbage.

[kheserthorpe]

No, you're not being stupid.

Tell him he lost the right to be friends with her. Its not about being vindictive, its that if he really wants to be forgiven, he needs to recognize that he needs to go a little out of his way to put you at ease, and part of that would be cutting all contact with her.

[Calee16]

I'm in the same situation. He cheated on me and says that their lifelong friends and I said that doesn't matter. He had an affair with her. You don't get to continue with relationship with her. I promise not to talk to her anymore and every month I asked him and he lied and said he wasn't talking to her anymore but he was every single month. So couple months ago by and I find out he tried to have another hook up with her. I just found out he's been talking to her still. I'm done. I deserve better

[ShelbyG]

You are defiantly NOT over-reacting, In fact you are under-reacting. You need tell him to stop all ties with her or your leaving. That is such BS. If he loves you for real he will stop talking to her. They are not just friends even if it is just Facebook

[txmade]

Not trying to be negative, but id prob leave him if it were me.There's no way you can expect someone to trust you with that person ever again. He has no reason to tth unless he is, or is planning on seein her more. Its not like he has kids with her and HAS to tth.