Can any women and any girls tell if you experiment on them on what attracts them?

[DragonLord]

gag members I have 2 quick questions about dating yes also online dating so please bear with me and also tell me the truth thanks.

if I pretend to be jerks/bastards as in treat her like trash use her dump her etc. and also be myself a nice guy/good guy do you think any girls and any women find out I pretend to be something I'm not? if you don't mind answer it both online and offline thanks and yes if I ever experiment on her

to find out what attracts women and girls will she be able to tell if I experiment on them don't worry I tell my friends the truth and I will ask them don't tell anyone yes I also tell my parents if they saw me treat her like trash like crap and I ask them tell nobody about it

And if she finds out I was experimenting on them to see what women and girls really wanted and what are they attracted easily a 2 part question for this question is what should I do if she finds out about my experiments so I can find out what women and girls really want and what really attracts them easily if she catches on?

and if she finds out do you think I should tell her the truth or do my best and continue my experiments on her like lie to her? Since bastards are liars thanks for your time and if you like to know my age I'm 24 and if I put myself out there I might experiment on them and yes I still live with my parents I have no jobs,i have no cars etc.

if you think my experiments is wrong or sinful idea then tell me why they say"oh I want a nice guy" when in fact she jump to bastards then you see why I'm experimenting anyway thanks for your time and your honesty

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Everyone I'm sorry if this question offends anyone or if it upsets you I'm only curios I say if meaning if I do that I'm not saying I will and I assure you I'm not bashing anyone and I'm not jealous of anyone

[Mr_is_fine]

I doubt they will find out if you are being nice to one girl and an a**hole to another, unless the women get a chance to talk to each other.

If she finds out, she will probably dump you, you won't get a chance to lie or do whatever you were planning on doing in response.

I don't have a problem with you doing your experiment, its a learning experience for you. But based on what is known: women really like the bastards becuase physically attractive guys are a**holes typically, and women feel that his good looks overshadows his flaw of being a jerk. And nice guys fail becuase theyre typically unattractive, not becuase theyre nice. So from this, it can be predicted that you will get dumped faster with the women you are experimenting being a jerk on than the women you experiment being nice on.

[DragonLord]

i also mean if I date certain girl because some reason they want hot guys,sex and drama that's messed up they need to stop being stupid if they don't want to be experiment on like I might try

[yopyopyop]

The thing with online dating is that it gives you lots of imagined impressions about someone.

Reality often proves things to be completely contrary, as soon as the first date.

So the best thing, I'd say, is to chat as little as possible, and meet up in reality asap.

Regarding "experimenting", it's useless to pretend. Jerks are native jerks. Good guys are native good guys. I wouldn't be able to treat a woman badly, and if I tried, not only would it be ridiculous (what would be the point?) but it wouldn't be me.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

Sorry but the reason you're not getting any play isn't because "you're a nice guy". That's a copout that some guys use to make themselves feel better and avoid the real issue. The problem is, the self proclaimed nice guy often has unattractive behaviors and mannerisms that repel women. But as long as he keeps saying "it's because I'm nice" he'll never see the real issue.

for example, some "nice guys" are very clingy early on and needy. They act overbearing and desperate that you finally walked into their life, even though you barely know each other. This is just one example of behavior that nice guys do that women don't like.

[DragonLord]

so I suppose never say I love you never call never talk to her tell her to shut up bitch I am a true nice guy and have a kind heart but they hate that so that's why I ask if I experiment could they tell?

[pr3ttybr0wn]

Honestly I don't think you're being very objective at all.

[DragonLord]

so what am I suppose to do as a fellow nice guy? Let her cry to me about being use and she give him sex while we wait till marriage and they don't I don't get it I know I'm very thin and I know I'm unattractive not hot but they always go back for more crying to nice guys and have sex with sick bastards and drama and I'm sick of it.

[Mr_is_fine]

prettybrown, you mentioned unattractive behaviors and mannerisms, but I don't think that's what is really hurting nice guys. Its usually becuase theyre physically unattractive. Many "niceguys" are typically ugly, out of shape and have no fashion sense...you agree?

[pr3ttybr0wn]

I would have to agree with that.

[DragonLord]

@Mr_is_fine thank you dude that's so true and they ignored us all because we are either unattractive or out of shape compare to sick bastards he is attractive but they always go out with him and I agree with you that's so true and if you don't mind read my question and answer the question thanks

[pr3ttybr0wn]

The reason I think you're not being objective is because you're painting every other guy who attracts women as a "sick bastard" or a jerk. Really, they're all like that? It just makes you come off jealous to bash people you don't know because they're getting what you want.

[DragonLord]

I'm not bashing some women fall for fake nice guys who really is a jerk inside as soon as he gets sex he treats her like crap then she cry boohoo who fault for chasing hot guy hers not mine. Some guys give us us true nice guys bad reputation bad names because he pretend to be nice then boom she became clingy to him I'm not jealous it just don't add up. please help me understand better thanks.

[DragonLord]

I wanted to apologize to you ma'am for now I'm confuse like they don't say what they really want like when they say oh I want a nice guy I want a guy with a great personality but she does the exact opposite and date bastards who is a hot guy and he treats her like like crap and treats her like she is nothing then cry to the true nice guy about it and moan bitch and complain about it. That's why I'm confuse for now that's why I ask this question so I fully apologize to you ma'am.

[elliesaur]

I'm sorry but I don't get your point. Clearly there's girls out there that go for nice guys and girls that go for jerks. If you lie to them chances are they won't even believe you're actually a nice guy because come on, who the hell does that? That's not a way to get girls, man.

[DragonLord]

i doubt any of them is still a virgin waiting till marriage they might have have sex with a fake nice guy aka a sick bastard and moan,bitch and complain about being mistreated and they either go back to him or date a another sick bastard and she hates geeks,nerds,both I say this because I'm both a nerd and a geek you know I'm 50/50,nice guys and good guys. While we wait till marriage and she don't.

[DragonLord]

like they don't say what they really want like when they say oh I want a nice guy I want a guy with a great personality but she does the exact opposite and date bastards who is a hot guy and he treats her like like crap and treats her like she is nothing then cry to the true nice guy about it and moan bitch and complain about it.

[DragonLord]

and one more thing before you ask yes I'm still a virgin I'm saving my virginity till marriage and I expect her to do the same and yes that's my dream wedding we both married as virgins and we are virgins on our wedding nights

[elliesaur]

That's great that you're waiting for marriage, but don't judge the people who don't. And the girls who say they want nice guys and go for jerks are just not the kind of girls for you, that's all. Guys also say they want a relationship and as soon as you put out, they're out of the picture. And we also feel hurt and used, but that's no reason to try and hurt them back. Yes people lie and deceive, but don't bring yourself that low.

[elliesaur]

If anything, try being straightforward to girls you meet in the future and bring this issue up and see what they have to say. Meeting girls who are into nice guys is a bit harder, but not impossible. Don't do something you'll regret later on.

[gaggleii]

I don't it's really necessary to "experiment". I think the rules of attraction are pretty much established i.e. confidence, charm, swagger, intelligence, social competence, a certain level of indifference, and, yes, physical looks.

I don't think I've covered every single factor that influence attraction but there's tons of information online (some true and some bullsh*t) that can delve into a lot more detail than I can in just one answer.

[Mr_is_fine]

ok wtf?!

[DragonLord]

like if you act like a bastard or be myself a nice kind guy I might try and experiment and see what women and girls really want and/or what attracts them I mean why should we be nice if that never builds attraction then a bastard gets women see what I mean when they say they want nice but they chase bastards who treats her like crap