...wait what?
Did she do this during the relationship or before you two got together? If it was before you got together, you really don't have much room to be all butthurt. I get that you'd be surprised/a bit disappointed, but the past is the past. Unless you start seeing repeating behavior during your relationship, I don't see why you think you have any room being mad.
However, if it was during your relationship, it's more understandable to be upset. To still try to even things out by sleeping with someone in return is just stupid and immature. You have every right to be angry, but how you want to handle it is ridiculous.
Also, if this was PRIOR to your relationship, why in the world do you think you're justified doing the immature thing of "levelling the playing field" just so YOU feel better about your high and mighty attitude?
You sound way too immature and self righteous to be judging her based on past experiences of her.
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I know how you're feeling. The idea of my now-ex hooking up with random girls just made me angry inside. During the relationship though, we were so good for each other that I overlooked it. I know there had to be things about my past (maybe not sexual) that could've made him angry as well. I chose to remember that he did those things before he met me, and that meeting certain people can cause you to change your views and beliefs a lot.
During the relationship, things were great, and I'm so glad I had that relationship. That being said though, as soon as we broke up, he slept with a girl he just met that night. THAT made me angry, and I saw it as a totally different story. That was an insult to our relationship, and showed me where he was at in his life now. What someone does before they meet you is a lot different than what they do after.
Was she with you when had the one night stand ? and maybe you should confront her about it either way if it's bothering you, I mean give her the oppertunity to show her side.
I agree with you though, I feel the same way about people sleeping around but then again that's your feelings and how you see things, you can't expect everyone to see things that way or act that way.
I'd say just calm down, talk to her about it and go from there.
Also a one night stand would make you act exactly how the people you resent act, so that's not really a good idea if you want to be taken seriously about your morals in the future
Well if you do it now it would be cheating. Unless she is much older than you she must have been very young when that happened. Some girls do silly things.
Look at it the other way - presumably she's better overall than the other 3 women (otherwise why would you be with her) - it's not like she's blaming you for having had sex with those "inferior" girls?
NO. THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A LEVEL PLAYING FIELD.
Do not cheat on her! That is not the answer. Was this before she was with you, or while she was dating you?
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so you automatically believe her friend? how do you know her friend isn't a lowkey jealous bitch and said that to cause discord in your relationship? its kinda alarming that you feel so strongly and your feelings changed so fast about something that you HEARD from another girl. you also sound very hypocritical. you talk all that mouth candy about how your so morally above casual sex, and then your thinking about having a one night stand to get back at her and level the playing field. psh
You both have very different ideas on sex.
You're a prude.
She isn't.
You two should break up.Obvious troll.
You've asked various versions of this before.
Cheating =/= promiscuity in the past
So no, to answer your question.Leave her then she deserves better
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