Is she playing with my feelings?

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i like a girl .we used to talk daily on fb,mobile messaging,phone calls...when I told her about my feeling she say no to me.we were so good friends that we used to share each and every thing with each other.she become so angry that she stops talking to me.she blocked me on the fb.she changes her contact number and told every friend to not to her number to me.i have tried to contact her a lot but she refused to talk to me...why did dhe talk to me so much.is she playing with my feeling.does this may happens that  she started hating me.i have send so many times frnd request on fb from different ids.but every time she just block me.what went wrong with her or with me...we were in same class from the past 2 years.the current status is that she is committed with another guy.

redmenace · Accepted Answer

It seems like you're a good guy. Just maybe genuinely clueless. I want to help you out.

This is why she's acting like this.

1. She doesn't like you like that. She ONLY sees you as a friend. It's not a good feeling when a really close guy friend develops feelings for you. You feel betrayed. And you feel like he lied to you.

2. She feels betrayed because you presented yourself as a friend and gained her trust, so when you told her you have feelings for her, it feels like you took advantage of her trust and her friendship.

3. After telling you she's not interested, you insist on contacting her. This will creep any girl out.

4. She has a boyfriend

I hope this helped you somehow. I know this may not make sense to guys, but this is usually how a girl feels if a close guy friend confesses he has feelings for her (and she doesn't feel the same). Just move on. Say you're sorry. There's a possibility of being friends again in the future- just make sure you don't lie to her again and really just want to be friends.

JonnyBG · Accepted Answer

I see where you're coming from. A simple "no" does not justify an answer, not after being as close as you said. There must be something else going on with her, because you can't simply go from being very good friends to complete resentment from one to day to the next. Blocking someone and treating him as radiation poisoning is not a logical response to someone's feelings you don't agree to. In any case, I always feel you at least owe someone a valid explanation.

I'd suggest you put your thoughts and feelings together in a email towards her. And hope she'll read it, there's not much else you can do in this case. Be the better person and just honestly tell her how you view the situation, but refrain from guilt tripping and accusations! Leave it to that, because poking her for contact will come across as harassing, and you it probably already has.

guy532 · Accepted Answer

She has every right to do what she has done.  You asked once and she turned you down.  When that happens you either move on or just be there as a friend and nothing more.  You invaded her privacy by being clingy and pushed her way too much and she found it weird and annoying.  She is not interested, move on, you're just making a fool of yourself and turning into some weird stalker.  You messed up big time, I hope you learn from this mistake or you're going to have major problems later on.

Blobb · Answer

Dude that's on the verge of stalkerish.

If she's not interested that's that. Personally I think it's really dumb to stop talking to someone you were friends with because they told you they liked you. A "not interested" should suffice and continue on being friends but, in this case you messed it up.

If a girl did that I would class her as psycho and just bail bigtime.

Anonymous · Answer

"i have send so many times frnd request on fb from different ids." - Honestly, that is creepy as hell... I don't blame her for blocking you at all... If a girl says no, that means no. I know sometimes some girls will tend to say no just for the guy to try harder, but those are the kind of girls you don't want to associate yourself with in the first place, so, just go into any kind of friendship/relationship that no literally means no, unless she specifies otherwise.

Guysensei · Answer

dude... wtF leave her alone. she f***in blocked you and you still try to keep talking to her? You're harassing her dude.  If a girl is not into you then move the f*** on, don't stalk and harass her

marythom · Answer

well what are some things that she is doing?

Is she playing with my feelings?

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