My girlfriend tortures me, emotionally.

[Anonymous]

I don't know why, but I seem to be getting hurt over and over again by her. She knows I love her so much and think the world of her, so maybe she abuses that because she knows I will always forgive her.

The latest example, she spent 2 hours last night talking to her ex on Skype, when I asked if I could see the convo (she often wants to read my texts etc / fb msgs sent to friends) she said she had 'accidentally' deleted it.

The day before, we were at a music festival, she got some other random guy a bottle of water and she let him kiss her on the cheek. The same day she gave another random guy her mobile number so that she could find a friend in the crowd who was hanging with said random guy.

I don't know, I just feel so sick all the time, and how nonchalant she is about this, and always says 'why don't you trust me' when I bring these things up. But wouldn't she feel sh*t if I was doing all this stuff with other girls.

Sigh, I don't know what to say or do, I love her and I don't want to leave her, but I feel so sick.

[jimmajam]

First off. You're both insecure if you're asking to read each others texts, Facebook messages and Skype conversations. That's not how it works. You both need to trust and respect each others activities outside the relationship. If either of you can't do things with other people and have your own lives outside the relationship, there is no point to be together. It will only cause these types of problems every time you're not together.

Secondly, it sounds like you're both way past that point. I can't say if she's doing it intentionally, but either way, what she is doing is completely disrespectful. When you're in a serious relationships there are certain things you don't do out of respect for your partner. You don't let other guys kiss you on the cheek and you don't excessively flirt with other people. It's common sense.

Put your foot down and lay out how you feel and what needs to change. She might respect you for it. She might tell you to f*** off and she's not doing anything wrong. Either way you need to face it.

[Bleep]

I feel your pain, maybe you and I both need to leave our gf's. Even though I must say, your story is a lot more brutal.

[Anonymous]

If someone were to really care for somebody I believe they would have more respect than to do those kind of things. Esp since you have talked with her about it. Girls don't like it when guys talk with exs or catch him even lookiing at another girl let alone speak to one. It works both ways. I feel just by the limited information here that you can find better. I know you love her... but I also feel that you are afraid of being alone. But that's what family and friends are for. You will always have somebody. And one day the one that actually deserves you will come along.

[This_is_a_complement]

The things you wrote about her doing aren't that bad (the way you described them), but if she would react negatively to you doing those same things then maybe you two have some issues to work out.

Two people can't expect a relationship to last if they can't trust each other.

[confused6502]

if she cared about you she wouldn't be doing any of the things you mentioned...letting some guy kiss on her neck...thats not some girl who deserves you. you could do so much better and get a girl who treats you right and doesn't hurt you.

[BCRanger10]

You love her, but you are just a toy to her. I was in your position once. She is not worth your emotion or time. She does not love you at all.

[Anonymous]

She'sgonna keep doing this as long as you allow her to. Tell her to stop or that you'll leave. If she doesn't stop, leave. You love her but she's making you unhappy, it's not worth staying with her if it carries on like this.

[Moloch]

Dump her, she doesn't care about you.