How do you define a douche bag?

[Anonymous]

I feel like men and women have two slightly differing ideas on a douche bag type guy.

What Men think a douche bag is:

* That guy who has good style, puts a bit more effort into his look

* He's got " game " easy with the ladies

* Primary focus is " hit it then quit it"

* Arrogant or over confident

* Thinks that he is somehow better then every other guy in the room ( you get that idea from his demeanor)

*Rude, mean, - makes men wonder wtf is remotely attractive about this guy to any girl who dates him

Women Seem to Think:

* Guy who is primarily focused on sex " hit it then quit it"

* Guy who swings through multiple women

*Doesn't respect her ( but people have variations of respect here...)

What confuses me is that there are a lot of quality guys who also:

* Dress stylishly

* May seem over - confident

* Easy " has game " with the women

* Just looking for casual sex with a casual female

*How mean / rude a guy can be could be subjective to his encounters with female. But decent guys I'm sure are less likely to be rude in that a**hole way lol

So how do you exactly define a douche bag? I feel like men call other men douche bags like how women call other women sluts so easily. Mislabeling people based off of limited information, stereotypes, or BS assumptions because they don't know any better.

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Oh and men are more comptetitve so maybe that's why guys call other men douche bags so fast to make themselves feel and seem like the better female choice over the other presumed " douche bag " guy?

[Red_Raconteur]

To me a douche bag is:

--Disrespectful of other people's feelings (usually this involves women's feelings, but this can apply in other situations as well)

--Cocky to the point of arrogance and annoyance

--Acts like an a**hole either purposely to get what he wants or unknowingly but is too much of an a**hole to realize his behavior is inappropriate

I have one guy friend who dresses well, can get women interested in him easily, and is just looking for casual sex. However, he's not an a**hole. He's upfront about what he wants and won't lead a girl on and use her. He only pursues girls who also only want casual sex. He is confident in himself but not arrogant.

[naturaldisaster]

You'll meet plenty of douche-bags on this site, if you come across them like I have.

A douche-bag is someone who is selfish, arrogant, someone who talks about himself and doesn't give a minute for the other person to speak their mind. Someone who does not care about your feelings and your thoughts and decides you're not worth it.

MY definition of a perfect douche-bag.

[secondbestkiller]

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Also, it's just pretty synonymous for a**hole in my book.

[Red_Moon]

I just generally consider those men who have no respect for women at all douche bags. There is more to a relationship than sex, and women have opinions on things too and they deserve respect, those men who are only in it for the sex and don't respect women at all are the true douchebags

[Anonymous]

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[naturaldisaster]

I was gonna "write" the definition but yours is way better.

[Asker]

ha ha oh that's what it is...

[naturaldisaster]

Oh I know.

[Jager66]

lol, spot on!

[Opinion Owner]

:P

[LoveBambi]

I automatically think 'shower bag' every single time.

[Jager66]

youve worded this question as tho you think you already know the answer. your wrong .

[Asker]

This question is very vague and opinion oriented. Not really a right or wrong answer. Everyone is justified in their own views. I don't get how you missed that but whatever. Answer or leave.

[Jager66]

i did answer, I think your opinion on the subject is misguided aka: wrong. just because you fail at comprehension is no reason to get your panties in a twist and start with the snippy comments.

[Asker]

No you didn't answer the question at all, you just pointed out a needless point - what's worse you didn't even provide any type of rebuttle as to why my opinion was even wrong. This question is asking ' HOW DO YOU DEFINE A DOUCHE BAG?" not " what do you think of my opinion on douche bags?"

Come on now. It's in big white letters. So quit the sass. Answer or leave.

[Jager66]

if you scroll down tad you will notice I answer your first question in an Anonymous User's response about jersey shore.

then, here, I respond to your other 2 questions near the bottom of your post. I have answered your questions and chose not to elaborate simply because I don't feel like it.

just because you struggle with reading then use snippy and unfounded remarks as a crutch does not change the fact that I have answered your questions.

[Asker]

You agreed with a playful opinion of another user? Wow so insightful.

" I chose not to elaborate simply because I don't feel like it."

Do you know how stupid it is to make a claim and not give it support?

Oh right I forgot.

man. you people get more and more retarded on here with each given second.

I'm not being mean either - I'm being honest. What you posted was so unbelievably stupid within this entire conversation.

[Jager66]

Obviously I wasn't going for best answer! so a couple simple ones is what I gave, feel free to disregard them if you wish. All of this should be readily apparent to even the slowest of simpletons.

That being said, just because an answer is not what your looking for does not mean it is not an answer. why are you having such trouble grasping this simple concept?

[Uglyfatass]

A Cocky arrogant fool.

[Asker]

lol there are some typical guys who are cocky and foolish - but still respectful and generally caring about their partners and selves?

[Uglyfatass]

I'm nice & respectful and still single.

[Asker]

Okay...there's def a lot more then just how nice you are that dictates opposite gender attraction. Male or female.

[Uglyfatass]

True but nice guys always finish last.

[Asker]

while your young. I'm a very decent girl I'd like to say, no drama, I clean, I cook, I go to school, I work, I help whomever needs it, easy going, fun to be around etc etc...yea still no boyfriend. All the guys who do get interest, only get it when I go out and show my " badder " side or whatever. Young people don't care about decent worthwhile people. They're too clueless to recognize it. So don't be so down about it.

[Uglyfatass]

May I ask how old are you?

[Asker]

Lol 18. Yea yea, I know I'm young but I've always been a bit mature for my age. Or so I've been told. All my life :P

[Uglyfatass]

More then most 18 year olds? Why no username?

[Asker]

I dunno. I've met some other pretty mature 18 year olds too so. because I don't wanna show it. People leave bitchy comments and then block you. They behave a lot better when you go anonymous because they can't do anything to stop you from firing back at them.

[Uglyfatass]

LOL that's true. Look at my user name, I'm used to being fat and ugly.