I am going to be the lone responder I guess who will say:
The only way to know is to ask her.
Most of these posters, most of whom are male seem pretty convinced based on what they would like it to mean when pretty girls have done this sort of thing to themselves so, here's an honest alternate response based on experience from both sides:
I am naturally this way with people and have had to teach myself not to be.
I touch people I am comfortable with and even get rough and silly.
It is not the way I am with people I am actually attracted to romantically or sexually.
I guess because it is ultimately immature because of it's puppy-dog quality and sexual feelign for myself are an adult scenario. We were all like this with each other in childhood, remember ?It was just goofing around, sex does not change everything to be about sex.Sometimes it's still just puppy-dog silliness.
I do this with people I really like but do not want to sleep with, no matter what books others may reference about body language and subconscious desire.
When I like someone, I tell them.
From the other side of things, more your side:
When I was a teen and started experimenting with bisexuality, I had this happen to me with girls who were either teasing or curious but, mostly just being girls. Girls are more encouraged to be open emotionally and physically- heterosexual female friends kiss more, for example. Usually I can feel the difference but sometimes in those early sexually frustrated years even I misinterpreted some girls' signals I thought I was getting, some of it was wishful thinking on my part.
I notice you made a point of mentioning you have muscular arms- seems like you're already biased to think girls will all be lusting after your arms so if a girl touches them she must be flirting?
I am not trying to be mean or contrarian ( I know I am far from 'hot') but :
I and many women actually don't like muscles, like some men preferring small breasts or heavier women.
She could very well be a cocktease and could just be doing it to make herself feel desirable thus boosting her confidence. But if I were to play with a guy's arms and running my fingers down his back I would be looking for us to eventually makeout or f***. Especially the back part. If I were to be running my fingers down his back I would be tempted to kiss him. But I could only do this if I had serious feelings for or was in love with the guy and would feel so guilty if I had a boyfriend already. There is the slimmest chance that she could be falling in love (more like lust) with you or the idea of you (you have sexy strong arms which translates in protective and provider of a good f***) and falling out of love with her boyfriend (shes clearly bored by taking him for granted). It seems like she thinks you can fufill her romantic and sexual needs because he boyfriend doesn't. I can assure you that if you fall short in anyway of how she idealized you she will drop you like a hot potato and either stay wothher boyfriend or just find some new cock. Tell her you are not her toy and that if she has needs that she can go buy 50 Shades of Gray, The Notebook and a vibrator. She may very well see YOU as the forbidden fruit she can't eat because she has a commitment with her boyfriend. She is turned on by the fact that you probably really want to f*** her silly. You see her as a forbidden fruit as well for the reasons you stated. But once you guys have a bite of each other it'll turn bittersweet or just straight out sour. It'll never be sweet because you both or at least you have a conscience.
She's definitely flirting with you. Not cool to mess with you like that when she has a bf! I've seen so many girls like that...they turn into a huge cocktease with other guys when they have a boyfriend just because they can. Tsk tsk lol
Either:
A) she is a cheating hoe and will definitely do the same to you, or
B) she is a cocktease and screwing with your head, or
C) she will only go so far with you then string you along.
I can tell you one thing, she isn't worth your time. If she's a A, you're not the only side piece and you don't want to be risking STD's now do you? If it's B or C, she WILL mess up your head and you may develop issues that ruin future relationships. Whatever you decide to do will have an affect and would put serious strain on your relationship should you find yourself in the same position her boyfriend is in right now. I have been the douche, I have been the fool, and now I have changed my ways. Even if you sleep with her and get away with it, you will always remember that time and it may eventually warp your perception of women. Personally, I would take her flirting as an ego boost and go bag a hotter, single chick.
She's clearly teasing you, avoid her at all cost. Had a girl do the exact things to me and then saw her doing it to another guy. She tapped my shoulder and giggled behind my back even grabbed my hand without asking and playfully swung it back and forth. She had a huge smile on her and a smirk in her eyes. We've only talked once and she used to follow me around looking for me even doing stuff to get my attention like being loud. She seemed very clingy yet the quiet type. Yet she's very flirty with strangers and smile a lot and it's very cute. She even appeared sad when I wasn't around her like she was missing me being apart of her. We weren't even boyfriend/girlfriend just acquaintances but she made it seemed like she wanted to be more than just that. I really just see it as an ego boost as she seems to have low self-esteem and just craves attention and company of men.
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After reading your comments to other users, I say definitely PURSUE her. She is probably bored of her boyfriend and thinks of him more as a good friend than a lover. You turn her on, he does not. You and her have fun together, they do not. There's no point in staying in a relationship that is no longer fun and cannot grow.
It is very hard for a any female to just break off a relationship cold and risk being alone. She is most likely looking at you for a possible future. I say tell her you are interested but you are not a homewrecker. If she wants to go further with you she's gonna have to cut the umbilical cord.
Stay away from her.
Don't think you're anything special. If she can do that while she has another man as her boyfriend, she can flirt with other guys if you become her boyfriend.
You really want to be with a woman like that?
She is obviously attracted to you but whether she would act on it is another story. As you say, she has a BF. She could simply be using you to pump up her ego. Some women just love getting attention from men, even when they are in a relationship. Of course, some people are just flirty touchy types but even then they tend to be touchy with people they are attracted to in some way.
She is probably just blindly flirting with you. No girl wants to be the cheater so when we flirt and claim we never notice we do, or she's a huge tease.
now that's what I call an actual slut.
to be more clear:
a slut to me is a girl that would even go after a guy even if he's taken or she is.
she wants you tho, that's for sure.
She is attracted to you but she should not being doing that. That means that she is getting bored with her boyfriend or isn't getting the attention that she needs
No, she's attracted to you and since she has a boyfriend she thinks she can tease any guy but not just any guy (you). Those are some pretty good signs when a girl is interested in you.
yes she's attracted to you, but since she has a boyfriend stay away from her. My ex has a boyfriend but I know she still has feelings for me but I don't want anything to do with her until she's available
Sounds a bit like flirting, but might just be a sign she's really comfortable around you.
Even though she has a boyfriend, she is interested in you but likes it on the flirtatious side to see how you would react.
I had a girl do this to me and she only liked me as a friend. Well should did most of this stuff
Sounds like she's flirting & teasing you
I think you just landed yourself a "sunshine girl" lol...don't read too much into it
I believe you just answered your own question.
Shes a cocktease, not worth your time.
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