Is it OK if your boyfriend says he miss another girl?

[Anonymous]

Is it OK if my boyfriend misses another girl. He says their just good friends. I called him out on it and was like if you miss another girl, maybe I should leave. He responds, "what? Not like that. I miss you more." Is this normal? I feel like he likes it when I'm insecure and jealous. Help me. I'm a new at this relationship thing.

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

Uh... maybe he was honest and they're really just friends? Ever think of that? Ever think that maybe he just misses her because he MISSES HIS FRIEND? Yeah OK, so maybe it's a little annoying to hear that he misses someone of the opposite gender, sure, but c'mon, my best friend is a girl too, and if she left, I would miss her too.

As for you being insecure and jealous. Let me start by telling you that jealousy is never a good thing. Period. Never ever ever. It's always detrimental to a relationship and it does nothing but hurt the other party, and make them feel insecure and nervous, or if not that, just hurt and pissed off. Not cool.

You want help on how to deal with this? Here's a tip. Ask yourself: has he ever done anything to warrant jealousy? Has he cheated before? Has he ever looked like he was cheating before? Do you really think that he's the cheating type? If the answer to any of this is yes, then dump him. If the answer to any of this is no, then drop it, and trust him for a change. It's that simple.

But as I said, it sounds to me like he just misses his friend. You can understand something like that, right? Take gender away from the equation, and what would you see? Does he still look like he's pining for someone else, or does he look like a guy who misses his friend? Think about it.

[Asker]

Thankyou. :) I've been worried about this and I didn't understand because she is a recently new friend. Not someone he's known for years. But he's never done anything to make me think that he would cheat. Iv'e been cheated on before though and I don't want to go through it again. I thank you though. I've been doing good lately by not being jealous because I know he will have many friends like that and it's just something I have to get use to.

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

Sorry, I wasn't sure how long he's been friends with her. But yeah, I can understand why you'd be upset. I've been cheated on, by all but my most recent of girlfriends. All I can say is try not to let past relationships cloud your vision when it comes to this one. Your boyfriend is not your ex.

Good luck with this.

[Love4j]

I'm going through the same thing.. she is new.. how could he miss her.. l have this red flags

[allscorpio]

My boyfriend has a ton of girl-friends that he knew before me, and some that he met online before me as well. He still has plenty of them as Facebook friends and even texts with a few of them. When I have brought up the fact that it bothers me, he has stated that he loves me and they are just friends. It has taken me a long time to view them as "friends" knowing that they met online. When I did online dating it was to meet someone for a potential relationship, not just a friendship, so that was a difficult idea for me to understand. I have been working on the not being jealous of him texting other girl-friends, especially when we are together, that has taken some work.

The worst thing was when I was busy and had to put in a few Saturdays at work he hung out with one of these "friends" twice, and that really bothered me. Mostly because I do not know this girl at all, and I don't know how she feels towards him, and also because he hadn't hung out with her since before he and I met. That definitely made things a bit unbearable for a few days. It's hard to not be jealous when you love someone, but you cannot let it rule your life. It will make you miserable if you do.

[Starling]

It'd annoy me. But if he was friends with her before you came along, then that's that.

[Onyehatara1]

I also have the same issues and she texts him saying thanks love to like everything , she even sends her pictures to him