Guys:If you saw your girlfriend grinding on 2 of her guy friends what would you feel?

[Anonymous]

what would you think? I saw my ex's new girlfriend grinding all over her guy friends. And right in front of him.

And on top of that she kept walking by me staring me down, and then she would jump on my ex start making out with him. He hates PDA. But he seemed to have feed into it. They were clingy and gross...

But anyways she was grinding with men besides her boyfriend (My ex)

How would you guys feel if you saw that... he kind of kept looking away and walked to a table closer to me...

[Freetobe007]

I'd think she was making herself look like a sleazy, attention starved, desperate type female while trying so hard to make somebody jealous.

She looks like a hot fckn mess. Girls kill me when they think they're being smart by letting other guys rub their penises on them in front of their man or a guy they're interested in. IT'S STUPID.

It makes you look like you don't respect the guy, like you're so self absorbed and self centered that you're not even going to be considerate of his feelings and how she's making him look like he has a loose girlfriend.



That situation should make you smile because his present girlfriend is a dumb a**. Not only is she a dumb a**, but apparently she's very selfish. I remember I was dating a guy for a few months. We were at the club grinding and this guy came up to the front of me and started trying to grind on me. I didn't feel comfortable because I don't want to be sandwiched with two cocks wtf so I pushed him away, but before I did, the guy I was dating tensed up and stoped moving like he was uncomfortable. I sensed he was pissed. I can't even imagine doing that to my boyfriend. That gir's a b*tch.

[Freetobe007]

btw, girls don't just stare other girls down for no reason at all. She must be threatened by you for some reason...she's not a very smart girl to let all of that show

[Asker]

This answer made me smile! loved it! lol at least I have class. days before me and my boyfriend broke up she did the same to my ex. and truth be told days later he broke up with me. I want to defend him though, as that was his college crush, but I am mad at him. I hope he learned a lesson!

I have a feeling the reason why she stars me down may be because he may talk about me here and there. what other reason is there? plus I was a great GF, she is taken by him, because of the money he has.

[Freetobe007]

Lol, let her continue to make a fool of herself :) The more she acts like that, the more of a sh*tty girlfriend and a trashy, stupid female she makes herself look. Not only that, but she's making you look really good :) It's females like that who give us classy, good natured girls such value :) because they're so disappointing. She's a f*cking idiot and her terrible behavior is extending the range of your value in his eyes sooner or later. :) Feel wonderful.

[Asker]

Hehe :) Yeah its great feeling like the bigger person. I hope he realizes he was an idiot leaving me for her. Thanks hun. I just can't help but still want him. :)

[Freetobe007]

Sounds like the break-up is fresh?

Your welcome :) seriously, she's MAKING YOU A THREAT because she's lowering her worth when she does childish, immature, disrespectful sh*t like that. She's making any classy girl who doesn't act like that a threat because she's decreasing her worth as a girlfriend. Who doesn't want to have a SO that they can truly look at and completely say "My SO is number one...even if just for me <3" apparantly he can't do that with her if she's acting like that

[Freetobe007]

I guess she's so self centered with her own feelings about you and getting attention that she doesn't realize every time she acts up, she raises the meaning of what you had with him and she's increasing the value of you as a woman ESPECIALLY if you were a good girlfriend. Because for him, that's like going from a 5 star hotel to Motel 6. She better get her sh*t together.

[Asker]

Lol. I was great. And I am sure she knows that. For Christmas I bought him something very sentimental. From the heart. And he cried, saying it was the best present he had ever received. plus I did not have to be bought lol.

PS someone on here, just told me to get professional help. I think some people should think before they act like a therapist. I myself am a licensed Therapist. And I have been told nothing is wrong, and that loving someone is just painful. Stupid jerk for commenting that.

[Asker]

Oh and yes. semi fresh. We broke up in March :(

[Freetobe007]

Aww, what did you get him?

The fact that she's even a gold digger like that already makes her low value! I dated a rich guy and my blood would boil just thinking about girls using him for his money >:( he was a damn good guy and no gold digging, lazy azz b*tch who's just in it for his bank account deserves him!

Lol, but you've shown nothing here that says you need professional help...wtf

[Asker]

Whe he was young he had every edition of these funny looking monster toys. when he moved, they were all lost. They were never packed. He told me about them, and how he would stare at them for hours. And I had to order them from england. :) He was so happy :) and a few other things. I really out did myself then :)

Haha yeah! doesn't it bother you. they go out and he buys all these expensive drinks for her. And she goes up asking to put her drinks on his tab. I always tried to give him money..

[Asker]

and yeah. Sure I am sensitive, but I am not crazy. I told him off. lol. and yeah WTF indeed!

[Freetobe007]

It just bothers me because it's like wtf that's some fragile connection you have if a large portion of it is her seeing what she can get out of your wallet and it pisses me off when guys do that for girls who don't deserve it. Especially if they end up bitter and blaming their poor choice making on girls who did nothing to them.

Sounds like you two had something real sweet :) I don't know I don't think he called you crazy. I know it's a sensitive topic for you, but I saw the question about your rape

[Freetobe007]

and how you like rough sex...that's what he could have been talking about when he said you need professional help. No offense sweetie, but you do seem a little obsessed with him

[Asker]

Rough sex? Lol no. My friends and I use the same account. But that for you to believe or not. A few of the recent ones were mine. But not all of them.

[Freetobe007]

wtf why do you guys share the same GAG account? it's not difficult to make up your own and you really want them having access to your personal questions and messages? It's okay, you don't have to try and save face. Everyone has problems. Don't get so defensive.

[Asker]

Haha. I'm sorry, I am not getting defensive. My gal pals sometimes post at my place. Two of them don't use it often and such.

[Nelly-Nells]

wow that's weird. I mean I dance with my guy friends all the time but I don't grind that's just crossing the line. Espically if your boyfriend is watching. Kinda sounds like maby she was trying to make him jealous and he was trying to make her jealous by walking closer to you. I don't know just all around weird. But I know one thing for sure if I was still with my ex and grinding with a guy friend ohhhh I'd be in so much trouble with him. He knows I party hard and sometimes do stupid stuff if I get to drunk but that would be like break up sh*t

[Asker]

haha! tell me about it! not just 1! but 2! its gross. I think things were not going well between them, and maybe she felt like flirting with them. but she is just not that into him. and I think she is just using him for his money, and such...

[ambertaylor]

I don't think girls in relationships should grind on anyone except their friends or her boyfriend whilst in a relationship.

Wow, she sounds super classy haha, his loss right!

Sounds like she's an attention whore and she probably gets her kicks and thinks she's superior with how she acts and her attempts to dangle your ex in front of you, good for you for rising above it. With a girl like that, it's going to end badly, sounds like he probably felt pretty embarrassed to be seen out in public with a chick like her.

[Asker]

Thanks amber! :)

i am pretty sure he is regretting his decision by choosing her over me. Now I don't know if he did. but she played a big part. But she was even screaming at the bartender to turn up Justin Bieber. And he hates Bieber lol.

My friend yelled at me to stop looking at them. They heard turned around, and I was so embarrassed they heard. but she kept doing it. and even grosser... sighs I want him back...

[ambertaylor]

Anytime :) nahhh you really don't want him back now, he's dirty and used. hahaha ahh I love that, she sounds like my ex's new girlfriend, exactly the same, she's really cringey and over the top and I know my ex hates it so it just makes me happy knowing that I'm happier being single. It's natural to watch them sometimes though, you compare yourself to her I bet but really, in all seriousness, she sounds like a poor piece of work that's not worth bothering with.

[Asker]

Sounds like we are in the same boat! and yes I was thinking about if when or every we got back together I wouldn't want to sleep with him unless he got checked! lol. and yes I do compare myself to her. she is an attention whore in my opinion. and she is short, chubbier, has a birds nose, and when she smiles you can see her gums. whereas I am not 30 pounds lighter since we broke up, tall, and pretty. he downgraded! and you are so pretty! if you still like your ex, he may realize he lost a gem!

[ambertaylor]

Yeah exactly, in my opinion it would be too much water under the bridge and you'd always be worrying if he'd leave you for someone like that again. Pfft being single is so much easier!

I'll never know why guys always give up the perfect girl for someone like that but it's always fun to laugh at the downgrades! I'm not bitter though, good luck to both our ex's and we're both probably better off without them, I'm happy to wait for someone better than to rush in to bed with the nearest whore.

[Asker]

Haha likewise. I just don't want to give up on this one. lol. and yes good luck to the both of us! I love how hard she tries. I am not bitter as well. but I find her pathetic! lol

[ambertaylor]

Nooo give up on him! You broke up..for that..where is his mind. If he came crawling back, he'd think he could do that again. Don't dooooo it. Find someone nicer who isn't dating a skanky embarassment. Sounds like the new girlfriend is threatened of you, I bet she goes home and cries some nights haha.

[The_Suave]

Dancing with people is one thing... Mock F**ing grinding dirty dancing sexual innuendos is another.

How can you trust the other person if that happens? I sure as hell wouldn't be pleased. It's cheating in my opinion. If you're in a relationship that's it you don't say oh I'm going to go to this guy's house or this girl's house for a few hours I'll be back later... Nor do you go out on the dance floor and start dry humping people.

So nah... that's bogus.

[Anonymous]

lol She would probably be my ex. I have low tolerance for that.

[Asker]

Lol! exactly! and on top of that she is obnoxious. Guy friends or not I would never do that! its terribly un classy. And she seems very insecure. I hope they break up. She is the reason why we broke up...

[visual]

They won't make it very long. It's good that you're not with him.

[Asker]

:) He was great to me... I can't help but continue to want him back. Things were rough between him and I a month before we broke up. We had massive passion. But when she is not around. He always comes up to me and talks to me. And to be honest. He is not so bad. She was his college crush. If we did ever end up together I would rather he get that out of his system. Not saying I agree with him for doing what he did., I don't know...

[Opinion Owner]

And she's only being encouraged. She sounds like the kind of girl that goes after what she wants and when she has it, she moves on to the next thing. He'll learn his lesson if he hasn't already.

[Asker]

lol hopefully. There are rumors that he regrets breaking up with me. karma is a bi*ch

[Tamikaze]

I don't get people these days. Everyone seems to be so in to proving how cool they are with ridiculous behavior that it is proliferating.

Back in the day, your boyfriend would have yelled at you and broke up on the spot, you would have been labeled a whore and no one would want to date you, just have sex with you. Blip

As far as her PDA displays with him, every relationship is a new chance for a new dynamic. I was with a guy for 3 years who said he had previously hated PDA but he loved it with me. Well, until he got over playing "house" with me and went back to his playboy ways.

So, he may not have done anything in public, but there is a strong chance he had a lot of resentment over what she did and the night was not so great when they got home, if that is some consolation.

[Anonymous]

I think he is stupid if he doesn't leave her. And on another note. I have read all of these posts, and your comments. My conclusion is that he still have feeling for you. You say that he is NOT into PDA, and yet he goes along. You were with him for how long? If I saw my Boyfriend doing that, I would leave him. Also I think its interesting he still hangs around the same area. It sounds like you guys run into each other a lot. If he didn't have feeling for you, he would try to avoid you, especially with a whore, and insecure girl like that. Believe me, this girl seems threatened by you...

[Asker]

Thanks hun! Lets hope you are right!

[hemingway]

Seems like with the looks she's giving you plus the pda, maybe she's trying to "prove to you" that she's a better girlfriend than you were. Or something dumb. Like, "hey look, I'm allowed to grind with whoever I want and my boyfriend doesn't care". But who the hell knows. They seem like they're in a lame relationship if they do that. Just LAME.

[Asker]

Haha yeah I am over their crap. I just want to have fun now. Maybe one day he will regret leaving me, but for now I need to have fun. And their relationship is lame lol

[carlo]

I've just seen some of your previous questions and what happened with your previous ex. In my opinion you are deeply vulnerable, and although you might actually have deep feelings for this guy anyway, what happened to you before seems to me is playing a big part here in how you feel about the whole situation. Like the hurt you got is too big, and now being rejected like that it's just too much to bear. In my view you should seek someone professional to help you deal with your feelings. Please don't take the "you are deeply vulnerable" or "seek help" as an offense or something to beat yourself about, because is really not the case. It's like you have broken bones now, and you need time to heal. Good luck

[Asker]

Who are you to say I need professional help? You have no right, and in my oppinion you have obviously never love anyone. And I am not vulnerable. Sure I get upset. But this ex is always on my mind. and has been for some time now. Don't go responding saying people need help when hearts are mearly just shattered.

[Freetobe007]

QA, I just checked out some of your previous questions and QA, no offense hun, but I can't deny...some of your behavior you spoke about seems unhealthy. I know you're heart broken, but it's not a good idea to obsess over your ex like that and try to attach the idea that he's not over you to situations that happen between you guys. Because it's almost like you're looking for reasons that he may not be over you and if he is, then your feelings are just going to be hurt that much more.

[Freetobe007]

No offense girl, but there is a difference between love and obsession. I don't know if I would say you need professional help, but you may need to not be giving so much thought, time, and heart into the idea that he may not be over you :/ because you'll be so disappointed if he is :(

[Asker]

Seriously Granted they are not amazing. But when you love someone and that happens. you acts that way. Do not write on my wall judging me. and on another note. I am not hear for confrontation. And another thing. I am a Therapist, and women act this way. I have seen far worse on hear. Do me a favor do not even comment back. Thank you.

[Asker]

Forgive the grammar. but I will say one thing. I am not obsessing , and yes I love him. But do not write a comment telling someone to get help. There are far worse posts on here. Thank you. And have a nice day! :)

[Freetobe007]

QA, are you addressing me or Anon's answer? And why did you suddenly decide to go anonymous?

[carlo]

The comment I make hear is rather for other people who may be reading than for you. I don't think women act this way. Saying so leans easily into women (or guys) who 'love' abusers and that's dangerous. I don't think your Boyfriend is allowing with his Girlfriend to do this because he JUST 'loves' her, I don't think you only love your BF, but rather there are other emotions and past things mixed with this. &this does not mean you are unable to love or a bad person, it just means you have a vast range of emotions

[Asker]

Freetobe, I am not the only one that uses this account. Sure this is my account but I allow friends to use mine as well. That's why. A lot of the past posts were not even mine.

[Asker]

However, a few happen to be mine from the past few weeks. But not all. I find it humiliating how some things were posted. AND NO I DID NOT POST THE ROUGH SEX ONES. sure a few regarding my ex. lol

[Asker]

AAAAAAND I don't date dangerous men. Most of my exs were pleasant, thank you very much :)

[Freetobe007]

QA, you really don't have to make this into an argument or act like you need to defend yourself. Carlo and I were just trying to help

[Asker]

Lol I am not turning this into an argument. And I will admit I could move on. But there are just so many reasons to why I can't. And for one its because of her. I hate it when people act that way. I am upset, and can't get over him, because of who he is with now. That's all. I hope you all can understand that :)

[Freetobe007]

I can and I hope you understand that I'm not trying to attack you. I'm sincerely trying to help you out :)

[Asker]

Lol. I know. And I apologize. I was just like. they are not jussssst MINE. that is why I was so confused.

[carlo]

well the fact that not all of your previous posts were yours explains a lot, in particular the rough one;) So, lots of my comments were for a girl who I had pictured very differently, the situation does seem normal now :D

[Asker]

Lol! I was like huuuuuh? Very confused. But I will admit a few regarding te whole boyfriend thing and wanting him back were mine. But not all of them. Glad we cleared it up ;) but last night when I went out I was getting hit on a lot. I feel like now is the time to move on. And if he comes back great. If not I will always meet someone else :)

[yptan37]

Depends on what the relationship means to them? It might be an arrangement that they've agreed on and are comfortable with. Personally, I don't like open relationships so if that had happened to me I'd pull her away. If she resists, then its game over

[idontgetit123]

Glad to see there's a lot of guys who feel the same way I do when it comes to gf's grinding on other guys...My ex (at the time gf) wanted to "dance" with other guys and she said she was willing to let me do the same...I was just like "What the f***? Are you serious?" I couldn't believe she was even trying to make this kind of deal with me...I tell her I hate it when she grinds on other guys and I wouldn't do the same...She does it regardless...What the hell!?

[Prof_Don]

Knowing myself...

...if my girlfriend did that (and I was in the club at the same time as her), I'd walk outside cauz frankly I don't wanna see that. I wouldn't want to WATCH that. :-X

When she looks for me, I'd tell her I'm outside, then tell her outside privately that I don't want her grinding on guys.

If I hear ANYTHING from her outside of compliance, that's a deal breaker and I'd be single as of that moment.

[Phoenix52]

I'd laugh on the inside and start chatting up new girls. This 'girlfriend' of mine has just degraded herself to f*ck buddy at best, no more than that. And she won't be considered my girlfriend anytime soon, until I see some changes in her behavior.

[Tears019]

Lol I see her doing stupid stuff all the time. there is a pic of her being all handsey with his best friend.

[Asker]

Lol sorry I posted from my other account by accident lol. and yeah I don't think she will change

[Phoenix52]

I already know what's gonna happen. This girl liked him when he was with you. She wanted him when he was already taken. So now, since he split up with you, he lost attraction in her eyes and she's going to take advantage of him for it. If a girl is serious about her boyfriend, she wouldn't be emotionally torturing him or playing these bullsh*t games. She's a c0ckteaser.

She only made out with him because YOU were there. So she wanted to claim him in worry of jealousy.

[Phoenix52]

But anyhow, if you want your boyfriend back, try talking to him about it. Don't lose your temper or anything - stay civil and make him realize that you were the better catch. Other than that, I don't see why you'd want to wait for him - you're better off moving on because even if you do get back together, the same sh*t may happen again. Can't trust him.

[Asker]

Yeah. But the problem is we broke up nearly 3 months ago. I want him back. Not a single day goes by where my heart weeps, lame I know. I just don't know what to do... I want to be honest with him. But the fear of rejection is too much. But something tells me, we are still not over...

[Asker]

Also I am always calm when we speak. I smile, am friend, and was supportive when he told me he went after her when we broke up. But I called him days later, and telling him that it was a bit rude he was bragging about her. and said it seemed like he was trying to convince himself and me that he was happy. during which I remained calm, but was a little emotional. but all seemed fine...

[animalwithin]

It would definetely make me angry. I mean if she was joking or something, maybe but in your case, It would piss me off. I'd never be with a girl who would do that though, that's really inconsiderate and disrespectful.

[Gawesome]

8&(#@$ be cray cray. I'll tell her straight up 'Don't let the backdoor hit you on the way out.'

If I'm starting to understand girl drama, I think she's trying to make you jealous? Or she's completely drunk. That's just messed up man...

[Prettygurl12]

I know that wouldn't go over very well at all with my boyfriend. It goes both ways though. He doesn't grind on other girls and I don't grind on other guys and we're good. I know if I did, he'd dump me in the blink of an eye.

[DeepBlue]

Doesn't sound like he upgraded. He'll be single again soon enough.

[Asker]

Haha! I hope so! he crossed the line!

[FlaggLives]

I'd dump her ass without thinking twice. Let her grind on whoever she wants to grind on once she's out of my life.

[huntusa]

Well if he is Ex. then why are you worried about him and his gf? Have your own life and enjoy it.

[Asker]

Because I love him still. and she is only using him. and I don't care what people say. I don't want to give up...

[huntusa]

I commend your love for the guy.Reality of the situation is that it's one sided love.He doesn't love you even for some reason you manage to get him back right now sooner or later he will hurt you.

Shower your love on someone who deserves it.

Good Luck!

[Asker]

Last night was a rude awakening when I went out. I am getting sick of chasing this old ghost of mine. If he can't realize he lost me, a great girl, then he doesn't deserve my love. Lol. Thanks!

[huntusa]

It's just that you are yet to learn to move on.

[Bleep]

I would toss a table over, rip off my shirt and throw her out the door.

Nah but seriously, that'd be the end, I'd just cut her off right there, no explanation needed.

[GuyAdviceFromGuy]

I'd find two hot girls and dance with em, then we would do the train dance, boy girl boy girl boy girl just grinding back and forth like a chain of monkeys having sex.

[EPhantom]

If I had a Girlfriend that did that to one guy, it would be over. That's something for her and I to do, grinding is past making out in my mind.

[Tears019]

Yeah terribly un classy of her

[Anonymous]

one time at summer camp I grinded with this girl, then I found out she had a boyfriend and I felt kind of bad for doing it. so yes I would probably not like it if I had a girlfriend and she was grinding all over other guys.

[schlierkampification]

I think she would be finding her own ride home with one of the guy friends she was grinding on if she was my girlfriend and would no longer be my g/f.

[FaceInTheCrowd]

If you were the dumpee, don't worry, because he's kicking himself every time he sees you.

[Tears019]

You really think so :/ I hope so. I miss him, and I just hope he realizes he misses me...

[FaceInTheCrowd]

Considering how much of an embarassing trollip this chick is ... yes.

[Asker]

Hey sorry I posted from my other account on accident. and yeah I was the dumpee. and he kind of dumped me for her. I know I shouldn't care anymore, but we were great together..