So I am or was seeing this guy. Everything is going smoothly and shows a lot of interest. He'd normally ask to get together and we have a great time.
Now I'm not so sure if he even wants to see me anymore. A week ago he set up a date and had to cancel because he had a cd release for his band and had to train a new bassist in a week. He's cancelled a couple times before (we've only been dating a month btw) so I asked if he was just not into anymore and if not it was OK just say so. He said its not that he isn't interested, it's just that he's super busy and he's got a lot on his plate. So I said "ok I understand, let me know when you want to come out". He says "I will! Thanks for being cool! :p"
No contact from him in a week and I went to the cd release yesterday. He says hi we quickly catch up and disappears. I went alone and didn't know anyone so I felt so stupid for going. He was doing stuff for his band, getting ready and he didn't talk to me much the rest of the night. After his show, I asked "is everything alright?". He responds, "what do you mean?". "I mean you're acting weird. Different". "Nothing, let me finish and we can talk". He comes back and says he has to leave because he has to work in 3 hours. So I wasn't very impressed so I said "ok bye".
I sent him a text later letting him know "I just wanted to know what's going on?". He says "? Nothing. I did get to talk to you :( I'm just busy busy with the band. You have to understand I have a lot of stuff to do when we play. But hey! Thank you for coming!". I respond with "oh I was just not feeling a good vibe is all, I already knew you were busy. I'm just confused? :/ no problem! Congrats! Was a great show!".
I don't know but I have this awful feeling I'm not going to hear from him. I mean he hasn't texted back. This whole time I've been good. I do my own thing, I hardly text him unless I have to, I gave him space due to his busy schedule so I know I'm not being needy. What the hell gives? Has he lost interest? I don't even know what's going on. Perhaps I'm so dense that things are clear, I just might not want to except it?
Please guys! Help!
Now I'm not so sure if he even wants to see me anymore. A week ago he set up a date and had to cancel because he had a cd release for his band and had to train a new bassist in a week. He's cancelled a couple times before (we've only been dating a month btw) so I asked if he was just not into anymore and if not it was OK just say so. He said its not that he isn't interested, it's just that he's super busy and he's got a lot on his plate. So I said "ok I understand, let me know when you want to come out". He says "I will! Thanks for being cool! :p"
No contact from him in a week and I went to the cd release yesterday. He says hi we quickly catch up and disappears. I went alone and didn't know anyone so I felt so stupid for going. He was doing stuff for his band, getting ready and he didn't talk to me much the rest of the night. After his show, I asked "is everything alright?". He responds, "what do you mean?". "I mean you're acting weird. Different". "Nothing, let me finish and we can talk". He comes back and says he has to leave because he has to work in 3 hours. So I wasn't very impressed so I said "ok bye".
I sent him a text later letting him know "I just wanted to know what's going on?". He says "? Nothing. I did get to talk to you :( I'm just busy busy with the band. You have to understand I have a lot of stuff to do when we play. But hey! Thank you for coming!". I respond with "oh I was just not feeling a good vibe is all, I already knew you were busy. I'm just confused? :/ no problem! Congrats! Was a great show!".
I don't know but I have this awful feeling I'm not going to hear from him. I mean he hasn't texted back. This whole time I've been good. I do my own thing, I hardly text him unless I have to, I gave him space due to his busy schedule so I know I'm not being needy. What the hell gives? Has he lost interest? I don't even know what's going on. Perhaps I'm so dense that things are clear, I just might not want to except it?
Please guys! Help!
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Sorry for the long post.
He introduced me to his mother at the show. She hugged me and told me she hopes to see me more. Although I'm not sure if he told her about me before?
He introduced me to his mother at the show. She hugged me and told me she hopes to see me more. Although I'm not sure if he told her about me before?
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Thanks for the comments everyone!
I went to a pub with my brother the very next day and saw him with his friend heading towards the pub. When they saw me, they waved at me and went the other direction. I was pretty shocked although 15 min later they came back and sat at another part of the pub without saying anything.
As they left an hour later, he waved at me and left.
A friend of mine went into my phone and texted him "F*** you if you don't want to talk to me".
I went to a pub with my brother the very next day and saw him with his friend heading towards the pub. When they saw me, they waved at me and went the other direction. I was pretty shocked although 15 min later they came back and sat at another part of the pub without saying anything.
As they left an hour later, he waved at me and left.
A friend of mine went into my phone and texted him "F*** you if you don't want to talk to me".
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I didn't think it was something I would of handled things but she said I was being too nice and he deserved it. My brother also agreed so I left it as is.
He responded and thought I was on a date with my brother (whom he hasn't met) and he didn't want to "cramp my style". I told him he basically was since the show and that the last time I checked, guys didn't have the time to date anyways. And the guy I was with looks a lot like me. Maybe because he is my brother?
He didn't respond back.
He responded and thought I was on a date with my brother (whom he hasn't met) and he didn't want to "cramp my style". I told him he basically was since the show and that the last time I checked, guys didn't have the time to date anyways. And the guy I was with looks a lot like me. Maybe because he is my brother?
He didn't respond back.
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