Have you ever been turned down by a good looking guy? No? Then you don't know how soul crushing it is to approach a pretty girl and get turned down by her. That's why I don't have a soul.
Seriously though, plain girls are easier mentally for a lot of guys to talk to. Guys are "supposed" to be confident and able to talk to women, and that can give them all these anxieties when they talk to a girl they actually want to be with. Imagine telling a guy you liked you liked him. Unless you're super confident you'll be a nervous that it'll go wrong, he won't like you back, you'll look like a buffoon, your feelings will get crushed., etc. Guys have that nervousness all the time because girls we like are girls we want to sleep with and girls we want to sleep with is any girl that's somewhat attractive. Don't let anyone lie to you otherwise.
Keep being friendly, that helps a lot, or have your girlfriends set you up. Unless you tried that and you haven't enjoyed the results.
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For some guys it is intimidating. They figure that they are not good enough for the model type so don't go for them. It is very common for the extremely attractive women to go dateless. Just out of curiosity, what is your type, what do you like in a guy physically and otherwise?
I kind of know what you mean but I'm the quiet type.
My glamour and plain friends get more play than me
I dress somewhat fashionable and get called pretty a lot by acquaintances strangers esp if I'm being hit on
Less attractive or bad quality guys use to approach but now things have changed. I'm a little more talkative and have higher confidence/esteem
I still haven't kissed a guy but I have much better quality men coming my way than eve before. Then again I got older so maybe my maturity level changed
Well to be honest, a guy is gonna feel intimidated by a girl that much hotter than him. If you're a Barbie then you kinda need a Ken to match. Well maybe G.I. Joe since Ken was a bit "HOW You DOIN". Basically the average guys are gonna go for average girls. maybe you need to change your environment and put yourself around more high status guys. if you're really pretty then you need to be going for hotter guys or richer guys because the more average guys are gonna feel intimidated by you.
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That's weird.. I honestly prefer girlie "Barbie" girls over Plain Janes, also many of the answers from other guys here what they prefer seem very strange to me, are you from the USA by the way?
The reason why it's like that is because most of guys around your area are too intimidated to approach you or/and assume(!) that you have a bad personality if you're also 'high-maintenance'Well a couple things, if you are very attractive then guys will be intimidated by you because they insecure. Second, if you are a 'barbie' then most guys think you look fake and they don't like that. Third, men are generally attracted to women like there mothers, and not a lot of us have Elle McPherson for a mom.
Don't kill yourself trying to LOOK good. If you look good, you look good without a bunch of makeup. Believe it or not men DO have particular tastes in women, so don't feel like every guy SHOULD go after you for your looks, but don't because of some personality flaw. Just be friendly and don't sit around waiting for guys to talk to you... that doesn't work. Good luck hon
Well I think the "plain look" brings more of the girl you take home feel. The "high maintenance" look to me gives me the feel of like blowing money and very expensive dates. And when sh*t gets tough you are out of there. Also plain jane is like the sit at home and chill watch a movie type. When HM is going out a lot
There could be a million reasons to explain this.. we wouldn't really know unless we knew you personally. I'm not bad looking at all. But iv never even kissed a girl..not gay either. Could be bad luck, maybe guy feel like they would have to get to know you better before going out with you...tonnes of reasons
Many guys don't like what looks like high maintenance. If it's a nice day, you don't want someone wanting you to keep the convertible top up so her hair doesn't get messed up. Making you wait a half hour while she gets gussied up for a trip to the market. Get's up a couple hours early to paint on a face for work instead of spending that time cuddling. Basically when you see a cute plain jane, she just seems like much less work, and after being out in the world all day a guy likes the idea of a chill relaxing home environment and a high maintenance looking girl doesn't convey that probability.
1. They're more open.
2. They're more in number.
3. They seem more knowledgeable.
4. They're more practical.
5. They're more fertile.
6. Guys will drool over what they want, but will settle for what they think they deserve.It's probably because guys think you're too good for them, and out of their league so they don't bother to try. You may have to be the one who approaches so they don't think you're not interested.
I'm not saying that this is true in your case, but my experience and the perception of most guys I know is that the higher the Barbie quotient is, the higher the maintenance/drama quotient is.
The hope is that the plain Jane isn't as high maintenance or has hopped on as many d***s as the Barbie girl.
Guys go for low-hanging fruits/attainable types of women that's why they love these plain Janes.
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