Nice guys, tips and the truth?

[Anonymous]

Be nice : YES

Be Romantic : GREAT

Be gentle : AMAZING

BUT DO NOT BE ALWAYS AVAILABLE .

See that's the thing about nice guys , they are always there for you to the point that it appears that a girl is the only thing going on in his life .

Women don't like that , women like attention YES but what women like even more is EARNING your attention .

When we dress up , go to the gym , watch what we eat ; we do it so you can notice us and getting your attention is an achievement just like studying really hard for a test and getting good grades . We feel proud that what we are doing is working .

That's why women feel bad when you don't notice the little things like a haircut or change in style , because if you didn't notice then we haven't achieved anything .

OK so imagine a really nice guy who loves a girl just the way she is and she knows he will never ever stray because he is wrapped around her finger . Why the hell would she dress up ? go to the gym ? , its not like you noticing her will get any better , because she already has your full attention . So she WILL GET BORED AND TAKE YOU FOR GRANTED . I mean if she calls unnoticed and wants you to carry her bags while you miss a poker game with your friends , then know that you are taken for granted . YOU HAVE RIGHT TO HAVE YOUR LIFE . YOU ALSO HAVE A RIGHT TO BE TAKEN CARE OF EVERY ONCE IN A WHILE , INSTEAD OF YOU TAKING CARE OF HER ALL THE TIME .

I know IT SUCKS but its THE TRUTH

TOTALLY nice guys are not sexy ALSO TOTAL JERKS aren't sexy either .

You can be nice but also have a life , just don't put a girl on a pedestal unless you know FOR SURE that she is crazy about you as much as you are crazy about you , then she will value you and treat you like you deserve .

Don't show all your care all at once , take it day by day and let your love grow , so you can give HER a chance to cherish YOU AND BE NICE TO YOU FOR A CHANGE .

Let her work a little for your approval ( IN MODERATION , don't an ass)

We like security and a man who knows what he wants ( doesn't always give in for the girl ) is a man who can take care of a family .

Feel free to disagree , but I believe that's the truth .

PS : this DOES NOT apply to all women , we are not all the same BUT it kinda applies to most ...

SO Makes sense ? , Discuss

I'm anon because I KNOW a bunch of people will attack me lol

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PS : THIS APPLIES TO DATING , when you're not actuallY in a relationship with a girl yet .

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ANOTHER THING , MEN : ITS NOT YOUR FAULT , YOU NICE GUYS ARE AWESOME , I would totally appreciate a nice guy since I've been raised by an abusive father .


BUT THIS IS THE TRUTH , I AM SORRY , I just want to help you guys out .


You deserve better than what youve been getting .

[beastman88]

i don't really see how this is a question. more of a statement, should really of made this an article/story, or a reality check. by your "statement" id say your damned if you do and your damned if you dont. my ex claimed I went out too much with friends or whatever, but whenever I would ask her out shed never want to do anything. from my experience women or girls rather because I figure real women know what they want out of life. girls have no idea what the hell they want, they always want to have their way that's all I know. generally they are not satisfied because I figure there generally just not happy with themselves, so how can they be happy with somebody else? as soon as my ex dragged me down to her level she was done with me and moved on. everything I've ever done for her didn't matter at all really. I think she was cheating on me though for at least 2 months before she broke up with me. she's a f***ing whore and I really f***ing hate her. whores please don't bother trying to be in a relationship just be a whore and that's it. don't be a man eater

[beastman88]

all just sounds like stupid game playing bullsh*t to me.

[TouchTheSky]

I was ready to cry ;( I am one of those nice guys, but when I read about the poker part, I just laughed hahaha that was funny, I would never leave my poker game for a girl, never did never will, I remember my girlfriend call me out to meet, but I had a big tournament in poker I just didn't respond her, sorry poker is more important than you girls.

[Asker]

hahaha , yeah I knew a guy who whenever his girlfriend called him HE WOULD RUN TO HER , she ended up cheating on him . I mean ofcourse she did , she feels like she isnot with a man . AGAIN ITS NOT YOU GUYS FAULT , its just the ugly truth . I'm sorry .

[TouchTheSky]

I am not that clingy, I am there when the girl really need me, not whenever she wants.

[Asker]

exactly :D , Don't worry you're good .

[TouchTheSky]

I am not worrying :) And not sure I am good or not but, I am really looking for true love, and true love require to miss each other :D

[Asker]

I completely agree :D

[FASTERonfire]

I love this question. Relationships should be about equality.

Never put someone on a pedestal above yourself or they won't be able to see you worshiping them at your feet. They'll end up looking off at the possibilities. It works the same way with girls liking other guys.

The key is to bring each other up so you're at the same level.

You can stand on that pedestal together and well that's pretty awesome.

[Asker]

:D exactly

[Anonymous]

I don't think most guys do this, though. Very few will let a girl walk all over him. Also, I think this applies to after you're in a relationship. Maybe a message to not get married too?

Are you sure it's not that nice guys are physically unattractive?

[Asker]

Nope , physical attraction has nothing to do with it . Its all attitude .

[Opinion Owner]

Ah, just me then.

How would one show that they are not that kind of a nice guy when initially approaching? Snap judgments and all that

[Asker]

Just don't be clingy and don't make her the center of your life , go out with her have fun but show her that you have a life other than her . If you're the one always text messaging or starting conc=v , stop for a bit let her do it . It shows to her that if she takes you for granted , you can easily leave

[Opinion Owner]

That won't be a problem. I meant the initial approach. I can handle the stuff afterwards.

I have told numerous times that girls put you into a category upon meeting you. Basically, it's possible relationship, discard, or f***. I would like to avoid one of those, and avoid the girls that do the latter altogether.

[Asker]

well just be funny ( sense of humor is the best ) and polite , if she doesn't respond to it then she is probably high maintenance ,

[TurbulentDan12]

I think this is very true unfortunately. The only thing I personally don't understand about this, is that if the girl really does enjoy your company, why should you ignore her on purpose to not seem available?

[Asker]

No no no , I mean if you're in the begining of dating her and have no idea if she is REALLY into you , then don't show EVERYTHING by being there all the time , have some time for you and your guys so you won't be taken for granted , plus some time apart makes the heart grow fonder . But I mean is you're like married to her ( THEN YOU KNOW SHE LOVES YOU ) then show her all your emotions :D

[TurbulentDan12]

Ok understandable. I think yes you shouldn't drop your life for a girl you're just getting to know, but if you're free it doesn't hurt to show her some attention. It lets her know that she is appreciated. Personally, I'm one of these prototypical "nice guys" and I don't think I could pull off some of the games that jerks play to get girls to desire them more. And I don't really want to

[Asker]

No games , moderation is key , just don't be nice to the point of being taken for granted , I just hate when chicks take you boys for granted.

[Moloch]

“Ok so imagine a really nice guy who loves a girl just the way she is and she knows he will never ever stray because he is wrapped around her finger ”

This is why every man should have options. Don't put all your eggs in one basket.

[Asker]

Its more like showing the girl that if she takes you for granted you CAN leave , but don't cheat on her ( not what I meant ) :D

[Moloch]

Nah you said not girlfriend boyfriend so you can't cheat. While you're dating, it's impossible to cheat because you're not exclusive. When you have other girls, you'll place less importance on each one of them, making them know that you CAN leave, like you said.

[Asker]

Yeah you're right , lol I just got the impression that after you girlfriend her , you will still consider your options , my bad lol

[carlo]

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