Im a pretty attractive guy, I'm not some hot guy, but I'm definitely not average looking or ugly. Every once in a while I get asked if I do modeling or get suggested that I should for example.
I go clubbing, and I have been rejected by ugly women. It blows my mind. why do ugly women reject a guy who is above average? In fact, why are they rejecting any guy who isn't digusting for that matter? These are women who have no options because theyre fat and/or ugly, so I would expect them to be "taking what they can get".
These women are alone the whole night getting hit on by no one (Im the exception that would give them a chance), so I would think that would get them to figure out that theyre undesirable and need to settle for anything that comes along. And if someone a guy is above average, that is a catch of a lifetime for them, but they still turn their nose up.
Can anyone explain this for me please. This is some unbelievably irrational behavior right here.
*Even though the title is talking about attractive guys getting rejected, theyre also rejecting average looking guys. This too is mind blowing. they should be accepting any guy who isn't disgusting.
The girl in question vastly overrates her own attractiveness. Also, in an environment where there are a lot of less-attractive or overweight girls, she might still have another chance with other guys who are willing to hit on her. Some girls like being flirted with strictly for an ego boost, not because they are genuinely interested. Pull out if you reach one of these girls and move on. She wasn't worth your time anyways.
I completely agree with BlackCatAnon's answer, so I only have one question to ask... If you are exceptionally good looking, then why are you approaching these women in the first place?
You say you're the "exception" and that you actually give these women a chance. But then you turn around here and talk about how ugly/undesirable/ and (or) fat they are... Last time I checked, a person who talks about "those" types of women isn't "giving them a chance", more like they're assuming that because these women are apparently ugly on the outside, they must then be obliged to accept and/or hook up with any hot stud who approaches them. That's called looking for what you think is going to be an easy f*ck.
Ignoring the common stance of personality, types and character versus looks and so on– what makes you think the girl is fishing for someone anyway? Why does a girl, any girl, in a club automatically have to be there to hook up? Some people want to get lost in a crowd, meet friends their own age (note: friends), enjoy a social atmosphere whether or not participation occurs, or just forget about life outside of the background music and the drink in their hand.
And why on earth would you think another human being must 'settle' for anything they don't want? If I gave you a dead animal and said, "You won't find better fur anywhere," your first reaction likely won't be, "Oh goodness, you're right! I should take it home and clean it now..." Likely I'd get a strange look, perhaps some negative stilted conversation, and the interaction would end, with you sans dead animal.
There is absolutely nothing irrational about anyone turning down sexual advances that are unwanted, no matter the reason or circumstance. I may dare to venture and say, irrationality is your inability to accept that it can occur.
Simple answer to your question: "Because she really doesn't want anything to do with him" or, "She's not there to get picked up."
Why are you hitting on an ugly woman, buddy? If she's not attractive to you then dont. Also, she probably is rejecting you because she knows you think she's ugly or because she's just not attracted to you... how attractive we are does not determine or guide who we find attractive. Hence why many beautiful girls are with average joes.
Its because they are bitter and they think that you're just using them.
Think about the other hot girls that tool ugly guys at clubs. They dance with them and play around with them on the dance floor because they are "safe".
They are all over him sexually, playing with his body and giggling. And the poor guy thinks she likes him.
Then he asks for the number and they freak out and leave.
Its the same sort of thing. They think the guy is being a sleazeball and they don't believe he is being genuine.
And sometimes its just because they are bitter and want to get back at men in general, it has nothing to do with you personally. It has everything to do with all the men that's treated her badly before you came walking up.
The solution is to be genuine with her, and make it to where she understands that you're just looking to have fun and not turn it into something more.
Or you can always just move on and talk to someone else. There are plenty of other women you can talk to.
I think uglier women have problems because hotter women get treated better, they see it and they hate it.
So when you talk to hotter women they are going to have better personalities "in general" than most uglier women.
But when you meet a hotter woman with a bad personality, its much worse than any uglier woman with a bad personality.
Less attractive women do have standards which may not necessarily be about how attractive the guy is, but more about the type.
But anyway, who's to say it doesn't go the other way. Less attractive get less attention from more attractive/attractive men. They may face a lot of rejection/lack of attention, so when an attractive guy come's along why would they believe you are genuinely interested.
You are basically hinting it yourself, you're piking them because you think they should be easier, perhaps they can see through that. Perhaps you behavior when trying to pull them changes because you think they should be easy (and again they can see through that).
Also do you 'work the room'? Girls may reject a guy on those grounds alone.
Well, judging by this question, you seem like an a**hole. Women aren't attracted to guys that are obviously a**holes, no matter what they look like. And we can smell jerks like you from a mile away (at least I can, I guess I can't speak for other girls).
not everyone is going to find you attractive. they might find you below par yourself. beauty is in the eye of the beholder. just because you think your are attractive doesn't mean others will and vice versa
I think the real problem you have is handling any kind of rejection. It's sad to hear you say you feel like these women were done a favor by you approaching them but it just confuses me. If you think they are so repulsive what do you want with them anyway? Wouldn't you think they rejected you outright because it's not likely an above average (so you say) guy would be interested in them for anything than desperate end of the night at the bar sex?
Maybe its just the reasons why you are approaching them , they probably know that you are approaching them just for a hook up and would never think of anything more than that , and they don't want just the hook up .
what works with 8s, 9s, and 10s doesn't always work with 4s and 5s, and that goes for men AND women. some unattractive people think that attempts to pick them up are just a cruel joke. you have to be friendlier with them and make a connection before hitting on them.
Because you don't know how to talk to them? I'm guessing it's your personality. If you think you can just approach them at the end of the night after all the other prospects have failed and be like here I am I'm better then you then you're probably doing something wrong. =P
Here's my theory. And anyone that knows me, well they know my theories always prove to be 100% true.
Here's what you said about yourself...I'm a pretty attractive guy, I'm not some hot guy, but I'm definitely not average looking or ugly.
Well there's your problem then. These ugly girls are looking for the real hot guys, and apparently you just aren't hot enough. Even you yourself say so. Don't you think these ugly girls can pick up on the fact that you're not hot enough? Obviously since you're trying to pick up on them, this implies to them that some of the prettier ladies are obviously not interested in you, otherwise you would have one of them all over you. So why would these ugly girls want to give you the time of day, when obviously no other girl is giving you the time of day? Clearly they just don't think you're hot enough, just like the rest of the ladies in the club feel the same way about you obviously.
I have somewhat the same question and I'm a dude. However, when I think about it this is what I think:
1) She doesn't have high self-esteem and thinks she is ugly so if you seem attractive to her she imagines you must think she is easy and she doesn't want to act or think of herself as a slut so she has to reject you.
(Alternatively she may she herself getting somewhat attached to you but because she imagines you just want sex she foresees heartbreak).
2) All girls enjoy rejecting guys because it gives them an ego boost. The fact that she already has low self-esteem about her looks means she gets to feel pretty good about her value for a while because she rejected an attractive guy who came up to her and not the normal lame ones. In her mind she is thinking or perhaps unconsciously feeling, "He just wants sex so I have to reject him so I don't look like a slut but the fact he came up to me must mean I am more attractive then I thought. Yay for me!"
3) Hmmm...I had a third one but now I forgot it. Ah yes, this one is good. She thinks there is something wrong with you. It might sound weird at first but it actually makes a lot of sense. From the outside you look good so this girl assumes before you come up to her that you are an attractive alpha guy. Then you come up and start hitting on her. All the sudden she thinks "I'm not that attractive why is this guy who seems out of my league hitting on me? Only beta guys who always end up being worthless hit one me. This must be too good to be true. There must be something wrong with this guy. Maybe he looks good on the outside but he must be a beta male and something is wrong with him because I know I'm not the hottest girl here."
Alright there you have it. I've had the same experience of you so my rule is at the club: Don't hit on ugly girls. Just go for what you want.
I've a question to your question :p How was it actually going on? cuz I see lots of people saying that you are the jerk because she didn't like your personality and she just don't look at physics. It's hard to speak a lot in clubs the music is loud, most people are drunk. I want to ask before she reject you do you spoke a with her or does she really like reject you when you appraoched her? Cuz in the way she didn't even try to talk the thing about she looks at personality is all BS and clearly look for an ego boost.
Anybody else think that UrGfWantsMe is a fake profile? Just look at "her" profile, it's so obvious this person is just trying to bash women on here by pretending to be one himself, so people will take it more serious.