What does it mean when a girl lets her emotions out in front of you?

[Anonymous]

This girl has a very strong personality, at least with me. She is very nice and friendly to people but when it comes to the matter of me, she can be a cold and distant and extremely mature and rarely shows me a playful side, like she does with others. We get along fine but when I try to do nice things for her she seems to get mad and closes off. Like if I offered to buy her a soda she would usually deny but with others she will accept.

Sometimes I feel she likes me but tries very hard to hide it. She is always being "mean" to me and calling me names, putting me down and naming all my flaws. She tells me she does not hate or or dislikes me but the truth is, she doesn't go around telling people the things she tells me, I play around and tease her and I can be mean to her at times but even when we are both doing OK and I'm just talking, she starts calling me stuff.

Yesterday we were talking and we discussed this very same thing and I was extremely upset she could do that to me when, even when I have been a jerk, I have done a lot of things for her and always offered support and she knows she can trust me. All of a sudden, she started crying and telling me she gets very upset when I'm mean to her. It really broke my heart to see her crying and I promised her (she doesn't believe me) that I would never do it again.

I don't know what to do, we obviously like talking to each other but sometimes the tension between us is so strong. People see this and we are usually playful with each other but sometimes, not so much and we have fights.

What makes a girl act like this towards a guy?

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Our friends tell us we will end up together because we argue so much. We argue playfully in front of them, its funny because we have everybody laughing and its like we know each others' replies in advance and its like they are watching a comedy. However, when we are by ourselves sometimes our arguments are heated and I feel so guilty afterward because my temper gets the best of me. I like her and I felt so bad when I saw those tears because she is very strong and I never saw her so vulnerable.

[MyThoughts]

She likes you but stays strong because she deosnt want to let you in and get hurt..she rather not have you at all then get denied or looks stupid because her personalty is very strong she deosnt want to look weak or be vulnerable it front of you...but you you guys argue she takes your opinions and what you say about her to heart because she like you and obviously cares about what you think...She crying in front of you because she has nothing else to lose because it feels like she already lost the chance to be with you and kn ow she feels foolish.

[PrincessP]

She obviously is very interested in you, but maybe you're not giving her any signs back and she wants to keep her distance to avoid getting emotionally hurt. As girls we try to stay away from heartbreaks because it simply SUCKS to cry in your room and not want to go out and live life. Maybe she just needs more from you saying you are interested in that kind of relationship or you're not interested and she can sense that but still wants to be part of your life.

[Asker]

Its weird that she acts that way to me, cold and dismissive and when I just tell her I'm going to leave or stop talking, she tells me that instead of dealing with the problem, I'm just running away from it (you know, me making her upset and just not wanting to deal with it). But the thing is that when I try to talk to her, she gets very stubborn,specially if she is mad at me and I have to chip away her walls little by little and she lets them down but then puts them back up, its frustrating

[PrincessP]

Oh yeah, believe me it gets tiring for her to do that constantly, one day maybe she'll finally realize she doesn't have to be so defensive but you're gonna get tired faster than she'll come to that conclusion, for now I suggest you ride with the wind and relax and let things go more than usual because it just isn't fun to be constantly on the defensive.

[Anonymous]

She likes you but she is immature. She has odd feelings of guilt maybe because she wants you.

[Baby-Gurl]

She likes you a lot.