My boyfriend made me feel very insecure about my body, he apologized but it's not enough

[Anonymous]

He knows I've always had insecurities about my self image, and he's made some comments about my boobs being small, or about the little bit of cellulite on my thighs, and that's been tough to get over (I still actually can't, the only way of coping is not thinking about it). Well, today he criticized my weight.

I'm 5'7", 145 lbs. I have gained some weight and yeah, I suppose I could be skinnier but I'm definitely not fat! So I told him I'd eaten some fries and he started telling me if I kept eating that way then soon I'd weigh more than he does (he's just a bit taller than I am, so only just a bit heavier). I used to be at 132 lbs. but then my doc gave me some medication which made me gain some weight, and I've been struggling to lose it. I work out and eat clean, it's not like I eat trash every day!

H was so mean. Then he apologized but the damage is done, now I feel obese and disgusting, I don't care if now he says he messed up and that he still finds me attractive, I just don't feel secure in my body and wish I was smaller, both in weight and height ('cause he's a bit insecure about me almost being as tall as he is). I don't know how to get over this, I'm sure he really does feel bad, but now I don't even feel like having sex with him due to this.

[LJHam]

I know what you're feeling. A few months ago I actually had a guy tell me he couldn't stay hard because of my weight... I was NOT obese either. At first it really hurt my feelings, but then I realized his impotence problem was NOT my fault.

You're not over weight by much at all. If you're boyfriend is insecure because you're the same height as he is, that's HIS problem. Never feel bad for your height. I'm 5'8" and I love it. I never have trouble reaching things up high. I can see over people in a crowd. It's just plain awesome being tall. If shorter guys have an issue with my height that's simply their problem, not mine.

You're struggling with self image issues so work on loving yourself - body & all for who you are. I started hitting the gym last Jan and have lost over 25lbs so far and it feels great. But I love my body as it is now... even though I'm still over weight.

Remember Eleanor Roosevelt's quote:

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."

[lananoel]

Well you just said it like twice and hinted it a third.

- you are almost as tall as he is

-you weigh a little less than he does

- You said ' cause he's a bit insecure about me almost being as tall as he is"

Hes INSECURE! Why do you need to fix your weight? IF he needed to communicate that he thought you were getting a little heavy he should have done a better job. Try and help him with his insecurity issues.. Whatever method you feel is best. He is a small guy with little mans syndrome.. If he didn't want to feel small he should have picked a tiny chic. Not a normal sized one.

[justjumpit4]

He's the one with issues. Even with your weight gain, you aren't near being heavy.

And as harsh as it sounds, why do you want to be with someone who makes you feel awful about yourself?

[Anonymous]

Well you have a right to feel the way you are. He was being very insensitive towards your feelings, even if he didn't mean what he said.

Now, it's just a matter that's in your hands. If this is becoming a big issue for you, then there's always the gym there ready for you. If that's not what you want or are asking for, then he's just got to earn you back as consequence of his harsh words.

[Xx_DRE_xX]

In that medicine they generally have something similar to like a steriod effect were you blow up from eatting I think(dont take my word for it) but yeah your definitely not fat. I guess ou could just keeping working out until your off your meds.

[martyfellow]

So, just start making comments about his body until he gets the hint and stops this behavior!

[Jay_C]

Well friend, you're going to have to die... That'll teach the bitch! Haha! No I'm just kidding. Just leave him. No guy should ever insult a woman. Regardless whether they hate or like each other.

[Anonymous]

He just needs to eat better and gain several sounds then his problem will be resolved