Do you ever really get over a crush?

[Anonymous]

I'm just curious to those who have ever fallen HARD for someone but never really got anywhere with them, how long its taken for you to get over that crush, if at all? Did you get over that person after weeks, months or years? Did you get over that crush after you finally moved on and started dating someone else? Or do you still have feelings for that person whenever you happen to run into them? Does that feeling ever really go away for you?

I'm mostly curious about guys opinions on this but girls are free to answer too! Thanks!

[Anonymous]

Not really! I have a crush on a girl right now and I know that she has one on me as well. Our situation makes it difficult to approach one another but, its been going on for years. She and I both know our situation but, if she was willing to meet me half way I would definitely do the same for her. Sometimes I wish that she would be on here asking this exact type of question and I answer her. Every time we get around one another we have to hold ourselves contempt. That's very hard for us both to do. Since its not you that I'm talking about you should try to message him on Facebook or something to at least let say hi to break the ice. I hope things work out for you cause you're living what I'm living. You can also post your question on Facebook to get more answer.

[Anonymous]

Does starting to fall in love with someone who has stated they're not into you count? It's hard and it hurts, but you have 2 choices. Bear the pain and eventually you will start to recognize them as a friend only, or cut them out of your life and pray that you have changed enough yourself that you don't feel the same way if you run into them again. How much would your life be affected if you lose that friendship? If the answer is "not that much", they create some distance. If it's a lot, remind yourself how much the friendship means and realize it's worth fighting for, and by that I mean fighting to keep your own emotions in check. Take it one day at a time. If it's still hurting too much, take a few more days and slowly get used to be just friends.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for the BA :) Update: He's one of my best friends now! Even though I still have an attraction to him, it's purely physical, the feelings are strictly platonic, and it doesn't hurt anymore.

[Asker]

Yay! That's at least a good update. Its too bad you didn't end up together but its nice to know you're such good friends now and that it doesn't hurt anymore.

[McGarrett]

Well when I was younger I fell hard for this girl I met and we didn't really end up going anywhere. I had a HUGE thing for her, even after she got a boy friend. I felt helpless for a while. But to completely get over her, it took me about a year. Sometimes I stumble on her Facebook page and reminisce about our conversations. There is a small void left, that doesn't quite leave. Personally I hope it was for the best and kept going with my life. But yes, you do get over a crush, its all about time and self discovery.

[Phoenix52]

It depends on how we feel for them. If we have strong feelings it'll take longer to get over a crush. If the feelings are weak, the crush can fade out easier.

With an abundance mentality, a guy can get over a girl relatively quick. He just has to take action and try new girls out. Before you know it, the old crush won't even be thought of.

[Anonymous]

Six months ago ended, a weird confusing thing that had gone on literally two years, on and off but never got to a kiss. My little sister brought her up teasingly the other day, and I felt depressed for two days.

[Anonymous]

Do you ever really get over a crush? Yes! I've had plenty of crushes where I was so into them... but eventually since things didn't work out with none of them, I was able to move on!