Chased her too hard and she ran away?

[Anonymous]

I chased a girl too much and she got scared and ran away I know my mistake. Then when she was backing off and making excuses about being too tired to hang out I broke it off saying she wasn't into me..which she confirmed. I then did the stupidest thing I could and wrote some embarrassing stuff on her Facebook which then made her deactivate her account! I'm sure she is not happy with me right now at all.

I am an idiot I know.

What is my best course of action? Should I apologize next time I see her and say I'm glad we have a chance to step back and give it time...or avoid her? I want to get her back but know now it will take a lot of time and effort.

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thanks for the responses...one thing. she is avoiding me now for sure. should I say sorry next time I see her or let her be - what's the best option for her to ever even consider me again one day?

[ForeverMeCo123]

Sometimes we all go into panic mode. It's normal :). I remember when I liked a guy when I was 18, and it was probably my first real like. I didn't want to lose him so I would text him and write to him all the time. I wanted his attention. I turned out really creepy haha. So once he told one of my friends that I was being weird, it only hit me then how stalkerish I looked so I stopped all contact with him. It was hard. I cried so much. He wasn't even attractive. That was the funniest thing. I get told I am hot all the time (not bragging) but he was really unattractive. I liked his personality. He didn't like me though, and in hindsight I am so glad nothing ever happened. So, in conclusion, I panicked I would lose him so I chased him too much. You need to back off, and she will come to you in her own time. You need to show her that you aren't the possessive type. The biggest fear to anyone getting into a relationship is someone being possessive. If you can't stop being possessive now just imagine how bad you will get once you have dated her. So cool off and try to remain calm. If things are suppose to happen it will :)

[Asker]

thanks! this sounds so much like this. I'm tall and very rich, people constantly are trying to get with me and saying I'm attractive...she was so insecure and really not that good looking. she doesn't even have a high school degree. she also has all these mood swings and it was the 3 or 4 times over 6 months that she was in SUCH a good mood and SO fun to be around that I was chasing. But the other 90% of the time she didn't even talk...just sat there all pissed off at something or another

[ForeverMeCo123]

You welcome! Yeah I was so upset at the time when it was happening to me but believe me you are probably better off without her anyway. Maybe someone better comes along? Either way, if you still like her and you still want her then the only thing you can do is back off and just play it cool. If she really wants you she will turn around and come to you. In reality though, she probably won't come to you because she IS insecure, and insecure people usually need a push in the right direction.

[ForeverMeCo123]

Continued... That can be done face to face (pushing them in the right direction). I now learnt my lesson, and I try not to look creepy via texts. If I want to say something to them, I will wait till I see them next and tell them in person. So much less creepy haha. They cannot blame you for texting too much etc. I don't know how much you two would work, if you will always have to rub her ego to make sure she is okay, because that is what you would have to do with an insecure person like her.

[ForeverMeCo123]

I wouldn't apologize to her by the way. It will just bring back feelings from everyones end. Just be yourself. Happy to see her and normal and don't go back to being possessive again after you see her. Give it a week or two then text her or maybe call her.

[sammy67]

I think the best thing you need to do is not try so hard , girls thing you should can get scared easily the best you can do is give her some space and don't chase her in fact take a break from her and for now move on and try dating other women or meeting other women . I know it doesn't sound good but it is get a new hobby .

You have to show this girl you can live with out her .

[Asker]

yeah true, for now ill look for girls that are actually into me and fun to be with and that I don't constantly have to please

[sammy67]

That's the right thing to do never chase down a girl that isn't interested in you it will hurt in the long run .

[Asker]

yep, we all know ourselves and know we are the "best person" for whoever we are chasing and this is hard to do cause you know your better than any other jerk they date...but that's their own fault for dating them I guess lolz

[AnonymouslyConfused]

If she said she's not into you, then she's not into you. I'm not sure there's much you can do to change her mind. Next time you see her I would just apoloize like a gentleman and let her be. You could flirt with her, but keep it subtle. If there's any chance of you hooking up again, she's gonna have to be the one to approach you.