My mom doesn't seem to like my girlfriend?

Anonymous
Hi,

I love my girlfriend deeply, and she also happens to be my first, but my mom seems to not like her (my mom does like her, but seems gives the impression that she is not the one).

It seems as if my mom also plays favorites with my brother's girlfriend, even though the two of them have a very rough relationship and he can treat her like crap.

When I talk about my girlfriend, my mother points out little things in her and makes a big deal about them, such as her being a little bit picky on her food. My girlfriend has good manners, and doesn't drink, yet my brother's girlfriend is a recovering drug addict and gets drunk with him periodically. My mom also emphasizes that I should "look around" before I commit.

Even my girlfriend has noticed; she says that she noticed whenever we talk about marriage, engagement, moving to Texas, etc., my mom quickly changes the subject, or tries to discourage us saying that housing is expensive, no jobs down there, etc.

While my girlfriend and I deeply love each other, I know that she knows that my mom isn't that into her, and I can tell it really hurts her. I want to spend the rest of my life with her, as does she with me, but I am afraid my mom and her attitude may wreck everything...and I surely don't want to hate and distrust my mom (basically, tune her out of my life and my love). What do I do?

My mom doesn't seem to like my girlfriend?
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