My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. I have already met all of his family, but 3 days ago when I asked him to meet mine he said it would be awkward because he and my brother do not like each other. The reason my brother does not like him is because in the past my boyfriend cheated on me, 3 years later we decided to give things a try again. My brother sent him an email telling him he did not want him talking to me. Since then my boyfriend does not like my brother, in one occasion I tried bringing them together by placing them in the same party. That was a mistake since my boyfriend told my brother that he was still waiting for an apology for the email he sent him, my brother refused and said he did not owe him anything, and they were about to get in a physical fight. My brother says he does not have a problem with my boyfriend, but my boyfriend demands an apology from my brother for the email. I broke up with my boyfriend because he did not want to meet my parents and come around my family. He has not even tried talking to me or anything, why is he acting this way? Did I make the right choice?
you need to talk to your brother and your boyfriend. Tell your Boyfriend your brother doesn't need to apologize for doing what a brother is supposed to do. Tell your brother that although this guy cheated on you, you want him to give him a chance.
All that said, your boyfriend needs to man up. He made a mistake in the past and now he thinks that since you forgave him all is well. He needs to establish a relationship and trust with your family not vice versa. He needs to put himself in the uncomfortable position of your family. It is the only way things will only get better between him and the fam.
gues so,.. what if he cannot make right with your family memberss how would thinhs go well later,. may be , he's not reaaly into it or doesn love you truely. on the contrary, if he really love's you why not he can't , and what's so abot the mail, can't he forgive fro a single, silly stufs,.. for me, you did the right choice.
Your boyfriend shouldn't be mad at the fact that your brother sent him that email. If anything, he somewhat deserved it at the moment, I mean come on, lets get real he cheated on you. I don't know what world your boyfriend is living in, but an apology doesn't seem fit in this situation seeing that he put himself in this position. I think if your boyfriend really cared though, he would put everything behind him for the time being and at least being cordial with him when meeting your parents. The fact that he's being sort of cold towards you for wanting him to, really doesn't make any sense. I say talk to him about it. Really, a problem such as little as this shouldn't even be a problem.