Why do women make poor choices?

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I know this questions gets asked a lot, but I'm asking it again anyway. Why do women make poor choices in guys? Virtually every girl I've known has dated more than a couple of "bad boys," and they all ask the same question at one point: where are all the good guys. Now I understand that some guys are good at hiding who they truly are, but when a majority of women do the same thing over and over, logically you start wondering who's really at fault here.

Another thing I can't understand is when women reach their 30s (typically), after being married and divorced (possibly), with a kid or more (again possibly) and having lost their youthful appearance (stress from past relationships, having to raise kid(s) alone, etc.), why, then, do they finally search for the good guys; the type of guys who actually care about them and are LTR material? It seems like all the hard work guys put into themselves (staying in shape, financially stable) is in vain when women like this want them to settle so quickly. And the best part is men who say no to these women and go for their younger counterparts are looked at like creeps. Seems most women don't make logical choices in this department until it's too late.

Another thing I love (sarcasm) about women is when we call them out on their poor choices or bad behavior, instead of giving us a reasonable explanation of their choices, they disrespect us by calling us names, saying we're a bunch of whiners and telling us to grow a pair. I'd like an explanation on that as well!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Oh, cry me a river. Men make the same sh*tty choices, theyre just not judged the same. One of my friends even admitted this to me, saying he always whines when a girl prefers a certain type of guy that he deems "less than" but then he turns around and always "picks the wrong type of girl." it seems like a two way street, but men seem to be less honest about it, in my experience.

women are human beings just like men. we all make sh*tty choices for the same variety of reasons, it doesn't change based on sex.

and who is at fault? you're blaming women for doing the same things that men do? O.o

okay 1. I love the sexist stereotypical picture youve painted of women in their 30s vs men being in shape and financially stable lmao that's really funny.

and 2. you're not very logical yourself if you don't understand why after experiencing what is perceived to be negative, people look for something opposite...if a kid burns their hand on the stove badly, its not likely that they will do it again. or at some point you come to realize that the decisions youve made aren't what you want anymore, wouldn't you logically choose to go in a different direction? what DONT you understand about that?

ah, I see. lets just call this what it is - you want younger women. period. be honest, I hate when men bullsh*t to try to make their actions seem any more logical than they are. same honest guy I mentioned above admitted the same thing. he had some wealthy, apparently gorgeous woman in her 30s totally on his nut sack, wanted his kids, they watched football together, and everything. he was in the same age group and said he didn't want to date her because she was exactly one or 2 years older and how he thinks he just wants a younger woman because of physical attraction. even though other men thought this woman was gorgeous and she had wealthier men and models coming after her. he wasn't employed either, he was living on government assistance from his military service. at least he was honest though.

its so funny when people think theyre being logical, but really aren't and just use that word to boost their emotional expression of frustration. considering the fact that people are getting married much later and more and more women aren't having children until their 30s, there's not much logic to your argument. you seem to be illogically basing your argument on, again, a sexist, stereotypical picture of women. that, and there's probably a class element here and sex bias. I don't think women in their 30s are less attractive at all, but if you're looking for someone who looks 19, that's probably your issue. why try to apply the label of logic where there is none. finding women who have not been married and don't have children in their 30s is really not hard these days. More people on both sides take better care of themselves as they age these days as well. But if you want someone who looks fresh out of high school or college, that's probably what it comes down to, more often than not.

FrozenFire782 · Accepted Answer

Girls like bad boys because they want something to tame. The idea of turning a bad guy "good" is irresistible to most women because it shows their own values projected onto another person and turning the bad guy good would make them "indebted" in a way so they'd have to love you, etc. Women are strange and yes I say this being one. Some women call good guys boring just because they don't present a challenge emotionally. by the way, don't call women out on their bad choices, that's immediately going to get you 10 steps backwards. How would you like it if women started harping on you for your sh*t?Just because you can provide a reasonable answer and they don't doesn't make it right. Just be the good guy that you are and the right women will notice you, I promise. Just put yourself out there and it should be even better for you cause you're better than the a**hole guys. So stop bitching and get to work, you're a good guy, you just need to find the right woman.

TangerineFire1 · Accepted Answer

Bad boys make our ovaries do back flips.  But men make bad choices also.   I saw a guy recently do the stupidest thing ruled by his little head.  He is paying for it at the moment dearly.  It is interesting seeing how he will get out of the hole he has dug himself into.  I am just sitting back and watching it all unfold.  It is amusing me.  Silly boy/man.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Women are certainly FAMOUS for making bad choices in men especially when they are younger! In fact, many women seem to go out of their way to get with the WORST MEN THEY CAN FIND! On this, there's no equality! Women are UNIQUE that way!

The whole bad boy-jerk appeal thing exposes part of women's bad choice problems. It appears to be a matter of instinct/emotion over good sense! Women are strongly attracted to signs of strength! Thus, the loud, pushy, insensitive arrogance of bad boy-jerks, drug dealers, thugs, gangsters and sundry criminals triggers female mating attraction instincts. As a result, we constantly see women flocking to the scum of society.

Google "Dark Triad Personalities" (Narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy) and you'll find a ton of material on how women are attracted to evil personality traits. The "Dark Triad" evil personality traits constantly turn up in the bad boys, jerks and assholes that are popular with women. This pretty much explains why so many women make poor choices in men. They see what they perceive as male strength and can't help but find it manly and attractive. VIOLENCE IS SEXY TO WOMEN! To an extent, some men are attractive BECAUSE they are abusive! Not in spite of it!

There are also many women who actually look to PRISON INMATES for love interest! Many prisons receive a huge volume of love letters for inmates. There's a website called "prisontalk. com" that links communications between nearly half a million members. Some prison wives met their incarcerated husbands on the PrisonTalk network. The network includes sections devoted to love correspondence and prison weddings! We're talking about women INTENTIONALLY CHOOSING SERIOUS CONVICTED CRIMINALS FOR LOVE AND MARRIAGE!

There have even been cases of FEMALE PRISON GUARDS PREGNANT BY PRISON INMATES! MANY WOMEN CHOOSE THE WORST MEN THEY CAN FIND!

TheFullestThrottle · Accepted Answer

No what the question asker said is certainly true! Girls don't start making good decisions with guys until they're less desirable (namely older, fatter, more wrinkles, more kids, more gray hairs, etc.). It's b/c they cannot pull the guys they used to so now they settle for what they can get (i. e., the nice guys). "nice guys" are put in an undesirable category themselves as I've insinuated, but they're respected as undesirable for the wrong damn reasons: they're boring, they're out of style, they're still in school and don't have much money now (although they'll be doctors/lawyers in a few years), their clothes don't match, some dumb shit like that.

Rs8991 · Answer

“Men do stupid shit also”

I don’t think anybody is arguing about the above point, but to those that point this out, I’ll just say this. Is the guy that is working 40+ hrs a week with night shifts doing the “stupid shit?” Is the guy that put relationship drama to the side for almost all his life to pursue higher education and more money doing the “stupid shit?” Well if we’re being completely honest, he’s not really doing anything intimate at all. Regardless of how that may sound, whatever he’s doing doesn’t sound like “stupid shit” to me. The funny part is, this kind of guy is actually pretty attractive physically from what I’ve seen. Not perfect by any means, but could have easily gotten a girl in different times.

From my friend group, I have several of these guys that fit that moniker. Little relationship experience, somewhat attractive and are making money somehow whether through college educated jobs or tough trade. The 7/10 so to say. I still surprise both guys and girls alike when I tell them I’ve never had an intimate relationship so I know those emotions all to well. So I guess it’s on to a thought out, but confusing explanation of what I have witnessed in my lifetime. I guess this should be labeled with a trigger warning:

One problem with modern dating that guys experience is that there are way more single guys than single girls. As we could imagine, this shifts attitudes dramatically for both guys and girls. 3/10 Girls are dating up a tier of guys and find themselves in a familiar position of 10/10 girls, that being questioning if the guy they are currently dating is not some “loser” and wondering if the cute guy would treat her better. The paradox of choice is what this is referred to. Male behavior in the dating realm is entirely driven by what women respond to, which unfortunately are assholes bc motivated women find a sense of purpose in dating a guy that doesn’t treat them well, so naturally the nice guy suffers. Once guys catch on to this, this becomes the only way they date girls if we’re being completely honest, which I would say is the biggest problem girls face in dating. Good girls sometimes only run into assholes bc it’s how some guys are conditioned to “play the game.” From girls that I have known for some time, from less physically attractive to more, they begin to associate “asshole” as a trait that belongs to guys that are either 7/10 or above in the looks or money category. This explains why we sometimes see the 10/10 girl date a guy that is down a tier in either looks or money bc of this association they have made. The problem with that is, these guys clearly have issues of their own and we do see those relationships fall apart just as any relationship can, or even more ironic, they are assholes as well, which is often times the case and explains why that guy is a 3/10 lol.

Though back to the beginning point I made, there are several “good boys” out there that follow the rules and love their neighbor. The problem is similarly associated to old saying that goes “when you’re a hammer, everything looks like a nail.” Some girls just don’t know what a good guy looks like bc many of them feel as if they have gone down the whole list of guys and believe they don’t exist. They just aren’t looking in places that they care about. The problem with girls is that they only go after guys that are “playing the game,” and for guys, their problem is that there are other guys that are “playing the game.” It truly is anarcho-tyranny in dating form and there isn’t really much a nice guy could do about it since there is so much competition and girls can’t really do anything about it bc they don’t know what a nice guy looks like. Don’t let other guys or girls distract you on what really matters. Just smile and make peace with the way things are, bc it’s the only appeal that we can have. Arguing about this kind of stuff is not appealing to anyone tbh.

Dezmo08 · Answer

Hold up now I've read some comments suggesting this statement is wrong. The statistics don't support the opposing point of view. Even if men do the same thing sometimes, it's overwhelmingly the women who make bad choices. A lot of women aren't married right now even though many of them are looking to get married. It's not a stereotype if it's true ok? Now lets look at statistics. Over 60% of men aged 15 and up are fathers. Over 80% of women are mothers and approximately 30% are single mothers. The general assumption is that men are dogs and are the ones sleeping around. Unfortunately nothing could be further from the truth. Fact 1 in 4 people commits infidelity and roughly 50% are women maybe a little less but it's pretty even. And because women over the past few decades had exclusive rights to abortion leaving men with no options, while women also have access to the vast majority of birth control. In addition roughly 50% of both men and women aren't married. If it's 50/50 and women are 80% mothers while men are 60% fathers, and women have more options than men, who's sleeping around? If you look at the statistics regarding the inflated expectations that women have for men, you'll start to see a pattern here. There was a study conducted on women and their choices regarding casual sex which shows that women tend to feel depressed after engaging in the activity. Furthermore the hypothesis of the study was that these women would make different choices the next time the opportunity to engage in casual sex arrived, unfortunately the hypothesis was disproven. In fact, the women in the study continued to engage in the same behavior no matter how many times they regretted it. This indicates that women don't actually learn from their mistakes. I forgot where I found the study but when I find it Ill post it on here. Anyways to continue, there was a study on the lifestyle expectations after marriage that women have. Overwhelmingly women desire men who make more money than they do. These women don't end up with men who make more, but it's what they desire. Women overwhelmingly desire men who are at least 6 ft tall and make make at least 6 figures to support their lifestyle expectation. Unfortunately this is an unrealistic expectation. Only 15% of men are 6ft tall, and only about 1% of the men make the amount of money desired. What this means is that only 15% of 1% of the male population are what women are searching for. That's.015%. These standards are absurd, and I believe out of necessity women are going to have to alter their inflated expectations. What's worse is that these women are are aging, and multiple studies show that with increased age brings decreased fertility and increased chance of deformity in infants as women get older. This starts in mid to late thirties until the woman reaches menopause. And because multiple studies show that men are attracted to fertility and physical beauty, 30 years of age is right on the threshold of where high risk pregnancies begin. Furthermore, women have yet to even take into consideration what men desire in relationships. That's right, you read correctly. How many single women on this thread actually know what a man wants? Very few if any at all you know how I know? look at your ring finger that's how i know. Because while you ladies are making your shopping lists for the type of man you'd like to acquire, you've taken no time or consideration to understand what men want in return. Just a thought or consideration, maybe men are human beings too? That maybe they have autonomy and desires of their own? That maybe it's not all about you? I'm not angry, I don't hate women, I just know better. I think it's unfortunate but women who grow up in a first world country are spoiled with no real perspective. Just take into consideration this. A man can at least look outside the united states or UK to find someone, where as you, who grow up spoiled with certain expectations, are limited by whats available where you are. Because men who leave western nations going elsewhere are instantly wealthier and have a multitude of options while you're going to be stuck getting married to a man who makes far less money than you do. What are you going to do? import another man who makes even less money than the options around you? from other countries where misogyny is even more common and the norm? I think it's time to face facts, the men around you are the best options you have despite your reservations. Lets just take this one step further. The women of the United States and other western nations have a endorsed a victim status. The best way for me to explain this is like this. A woman's greatest strength is the facade of her weakness, while a mans greatest weakness is the facade of his strength. there's a huge manipulation factor from the woman's end. It's the reason why women have over 60% less jail and prison time than men for committing the same offenses. It's the reason why women win custody even if she isn't as fit a parent as the father. It's the reason why you'll always see signs about how women are suffering like 1 in 4 homeless people are women. What about the other 3? It wasn't until 2016 where an emergency law was passed because women where the culprits of over 70% of domestic abuse in the country and still are. On top of all of this, there is only one mens shelter where they can escape the violence in the entire country of the united states. All other shelters don't accept men or boys over 12 years of age. It's the same reason why you've probably heard the story of all those girls in Sudan who were kidnapped to prevent them from having an education. What you didn't hear about, was the hundreds of boys who were butchered and burned alive at the same school. When a boat is sinking it's the women and children that are evacuated while the men are left to drown. There is a deeply rooted psychological factor going on here actually and I forgot the term for it but it's part of sociology. There is a desensitization to mens issues because people in general need to dissociate their emotions so that society can be emotionally prepared to lose their men in war. For this reason, mens issues are overlooked in western societies because to be quite frank, they're not seen as human beings. It's as if they're not people. It's wrong but it is what it is and I accept it as a man. But you can bet that as a man I'm not going to let go of the perks of being a man no matter how much you try to take them away. There's just no incentive to do so. Sure I could be nice, but why would I do that? It's not as if you ladies are going to return the favor. In your eyes men are subhuman. Even the language and terminology regarding feminism in itself is terrible. Feminism, a term associated only with women has projected Patriarchy, a term that is only male associated as the enemy. In short, woman good, man bad. Come now. you know very well that there are a lot of very bad women in the world there's no need for that crap. If any of you ladies out there need understand anything it's this. You can't change people, you can only change yourselves. The idea of changing the world is even more ridiculous because even the animals know that you don't change the environment, you adapt to it. At the end of the day, women always have been and always will be women, and men always have been and always will be men. Nothing you can do about that but accept the reality for what it is rather than what you want it to be.

bassman · Answer

Because most of them choose guys  with the emotional side of their brain, instead of the logical side.

DanteSparda · Answer

Because women are driven by their feelings compared to guys who thinks logically... many realized afterward but most don't ..

cazza3 · Answer

Well if that's the case then I'm most definitely not the norm

Jessicocoa · Answer

Because they're humans and humans make bad decisions from time to time.

Anonymous · Answer

Grow a pair. Males do the same dumb sh*t. You go for the good looking trouble making bad girl. It's just guys aren't going "where's all the good girls" afterward. And not to mention you call girls sluts if you rejected.

dwiller943 · Answer

Because men do.

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