On one hand she needs to understand that some people are extroverts and they have different needs than introverts. It may take her a while, but in time she ll get used to it. I was in this exact same situation with my boyfriend..but that's because I live in a country dif. than my home land so it took me a while to adapt.. anyway now , I am more extrovert than he is :D So it's all about time and most importantly, understanding!
On the other hand, you must have a role in this. Try to make her feel that no matter what you do , and with whom you're talking to .. she is still your number one.. give her enough care when you're with other people, so she doesn't feel threatened, or that your friends are "stealing" you from her.. yeah sometimes we tend to think like that. I am not saying to ignore your friends and keep talking to her when you're out with them ..but throw her a random text every now and then..
If, though .. she is not sitting home when you're out, and she's there with you .. try to send her the same message .. hold her hand while you talk to your friends..
If she is willing to understand and comfort you, in time , she ll get to give you more freedom and maybe her shyness may disappear even.. :)
As someone who is an extrovert that dated a very shy man, it didn't work out. My friends all thought he was a jerk because he wouldn't talk to them (even though he wasn't, he was just shy). He didn't speak to my parents. And when I first met his parents, he didn't even introduce us. He just walked in and sat in the corner saying maybe a word or two the whole time.
This is not like me at all, nor the lifestyle I wanted to live. We eventually broke up and that was a contributing factor. We couldn't go anywhere!
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Hi,
I'm not saying you don't already know this, but you can't really make her more social and outgoing.
You can just do stuff to encourage her and make feel more socially ease with other people. I know that's what I would want from my boyfriend. I suffer from mild to extreme social phobia. I "hated" it when my ex fiance didn't make me feel very welcomed and left me to fend for myself with his parents one time.
I feel he should of known better. But, it's over and done with now.
well just because she's shy you shouldn't be quick to dismiss her. Maybe she's a good person. Try bringing out just one friend at a time for her to meet that way she can slowly get comfortable with your buddies...
She can get used to chilling with your friends, if you want too of course. When you're around your friends, please let her come with you. Just give her a time! :)
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