I blew up his phone b.c thought he was lying he proved me wrong how do I get him to forgive me?

[Anonymous]

HEAR ME OUT PLEASE I known this guy for 8months and we never met we were till today and then I said I'm on my way he said noo my daughter broke out with a allergic reaction. I said bullsh*t he said yea then I said are you serious he said yes she broke out I got confised I was 32miles away from home meeting him half way I thought he was lying so I said I don't like being bullsh*tted and he got mad and said f it don't text me anymore.

So I blew up his phone Because I didn't know he was telling the truth the after 3 hours he says this is ridiculous and shows me a pic of his daughters legs I was 32 miles away from home and waited on him yea I would be skeptical too.I need to work on the whole not blowing up ppl's phone thing when I'm ignored I know that but I APOLOGIZED 15 TIMES OR MORE! I mean he is separated and still staying with his wife doesn't wear his ring by the way and told me he had to come back on emergency leave b.c she tried to kill herself and he found out she was cheating also. He says he stays with her b.c he gets benefits and its HIS HOUSE so yea I freaked out thought he was lying again but he proved me wrong how can I get him to forgive me?

p.s I wanted to meet to see if he was genuine to see if he was lying and now after 8 months BAM! I don't want a relationship or anything I just wanted to see if he was being real with me.

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first off I texted him 15mins before I left then he sayysss noooo I'm at the doctor with my daughter I was already half way there 32 miles from home which we agreed on it! I told him I feel like an ass now but its not like I said f*ck your daughter I hope she dies come see me instead I just said I don't know what to say to you b.c I don't know whether to believe you or not and I cried like a b*tch because I didn't know whether to believe him or not! I mean I've been dying to meet him for 8 whole months!

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then the day I finally balls up to meet him I get a I can't make it my daughter broke out I mean that sounded fishy!

[snowboarder720]

okay, first off out of the three paragraphs you typed, you used four periods. You need to use effective grammar so the reader understands what the hell you're trying to say.

You sound like a nanny on PMS. Blowing up a mans phone with apologies won't do anything but annoy him. One or two sincere apologies is enough. But 15 times? are you serious? if he doesn't accept the first or second one... what makes you think that he'll accept the third, or fourth, or fifth, or sixth,..., or fifteenth?

I think you need to stop doubting him and learn to trust his word. Also, why didn't you just text him BEFORE you started driving to his house?... Did you ever think of that?

holy sh*t.

[Asker]

uhm I did text him he told me too and he never text back and I was already on the way he told me to come on and I did and when he finally text me I was half way there

[snowboarder720]

DON'T leave to someones house until they text you first. I don't care how you were raised. This saves both yours and the other persons stress when you do this because it will avoid dumb situations like this to happen. Okay? do you understand?

[Asker]

yes master(-_-) I'm not mentally challenged but he told me to come on over then 15 min later it was too late

[ketfoen]

I didn't get what you meant by blowing up the guys phone at first, but it seems you are texting him like crazy.

The guy moved on and so should you.

If this was a text relationship I guess next time you will learn to avoid those in the near future and work on your trust issue, because that leads to a lot of jealousy and that is unhealthy in any relationship.

Also try to date single guys without any ex looming over his head and do know if you date a guy with kids, you are gonna get the back seat every time, because his kids will be his priority in life if he's the responsible father.

[Asker]

we talked on the phone and text it wasn't just text messaging

[ketfoen]

okay.

[Eriss]

He's married THE END he's not genuine. The rest is nonsense move on

As far as oh they're separating he's in the middle of divorce blah blah blah...

It ain't over until its final

Count your blessings you never met

[1xadzy3dgSG]

I'm sorry, but I would be furious if my girl did that. I say, just realize that you may not be able to have him forgive you and move on. Sometimes, all you can do is apologize, and nothing else.

[Asker]

furious I don't know why b.c if someone told you he stayed with his wife who is separated from who tried to kill herself would be hard to believe so this happening made me think yea he is playing me. and I understand he has a kid but it sounded fishy.

[Eriss]

Fishy? Are you kiDding me?! IT'S TEXTBOOK this is one of the many common exists married men say to gullible girls to get extra marital affairs. Don't talk to a married man EVER

[1xadzy3dgSG]

Well, it might be just because I've been in a relationship from his point of view. Had a friend who was extremely suicidal, and would have to drop everything to make sure she was OK. Even if it meant moving in with them, taking care of them, etc, etc. Especially since if a part of you feels like it's your fault, or something. And, it daughter really could have gotten sick, especially if he showed you her leg.

[Asker]

he didn't show me her leg until after all this happened and I got back home I don't see why he just didn't show me to begin with so I wouldn't have freaked out

[1xadzy3dgSG]

Hmmm, that does seem a little weird. I guess at the end of the day, the best thing to do is go with your gut.

[Asker]

see and I did and he yelled at me b.c I told him "idk if I should believe you" but that's his loss

[martyfellow]

Hopefully he'll understand that most people would have been angry in that situation. It sounded like an excuse to me too!

And some of us lose our cool when we get angry. It's not like we are diseased or something!

Yes, you should try to tone down that revenge impulse when you think someone is playing you, but you weren't THAT far out of line.

Dont worry; he should calm down if he's a reasonable person.

[Asker]

i don't think he's going to forgive me I apologized this morning for being stupid and no answer they say time heals all wounds but he is stubborn so I don't know ;-( he's perfect I wish he would just forgive me if anything else

[martyfellow]

It will take more than a few days, and you should promise you'll work on those anger issues!

[Asker]

I know it'll take like 2 months or more

[martyfellow]

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[Otrolite]

You screwed up pretty badly. If I were him, I wouldn't want to see you anymore. Not because of the phone but because of your reaction. That's not a normal reaction, even if he was lying.

[Asker]

well to me it is b.c if someone tells you his wife tried to kill herself but you still stay with her for benefits its hard to believe and this happening made me think he was really lying to me.

[Otrolite]

Then I don't understand. You're doing with him exactly the same he's doing with his wife: you stay in a relationship that's not good for you. If you don't like the situation just leave him and find another guy. If you really think he's lying to you and that's driving you crazy, why don't you just leave?