My girlfriend is pregnant. Help me get rid of her! :(

[Crow123]

It has recently come to me that my girlfriend recently got pregnant and, I don't want to be a father of the child. How do I get rid of here in a humane and proper way?

[oktober]

in case you haven't noticed, pregnancy is a possible risk of sex. If you're man enough to have sex, then you should be man enough to step up and be a father or at least contribute to something being you are half of the reason you are in a situation. It is easy for you to pick up and leave, you aren't forced to carry a baby around for nine months and whether she wants the baby or not, she is saddled with it partially thanks to you. In the case of an abortion, she would be the one under debate about taking a life or whether it was something she could do depending on her beliefs.

Assuming she is keeping the baby, you can always consider adoption (open or closed) depending on how much you and her would want to be involved in the child's life. However; to leave her as a solution to fix a problem you helped create is a terrible thing to do. If you can't handle the responsibility of having a baby as a result of your actions, then odds are you shouldn't even be having sex if you can't face the potential responsibilities that come attached to it.

[Kkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk]

I disagree with you on the abortion. It's both a man and woman issue. Also, there are a lot of people that actually can't handle the responsibility of having a child. That's why they practice birth control in the first plave and have abortions. That doesn't shouldn't reject them from having sex. This is the 21st century. Not ancient times that you seem to live under

[Anonymous]

There is NO WAY to walk away and still call your self strong, caring, or the overly sexisit word "a man".

You don't have to be with her, but you do, or should care about YOUR child.

Don't make your kid a statistic, don't put the girl who's good enough for you to have sex w/, but not good enough to stay with when she's having your baby down. Don't degrade her.

When the baby's born, sadly it is always the girl/woman who it looked down apon, not the man/boy.

Ever participated in the Privilage walk?

Well, you walk away and both her and the child have to take steps back, both will have disadvantages.

Sadly, weather you go or stay, she is still going to be degraded, looked down apon and even ridiculed because she has a child.

Where as for you, you will never have to walk with that burden.

Both of you made a choice. No matter what happens,

she WILL have to be atlas, carring what feels like the world on her sholders.

[Anonymous]

wellp... yer f***ed. wish I could say I was sorry but you seem like an asshole soo... not so much? even if you completely disown your child and it's mother, neither one of them will ever become completely out of your life. that's the price you pay. in the best case scenario (according to you) she's ok with you leaving and you do.. you will have to pay loads of child support every single month until that baby leaves college. you miss one? you'll have a fight with your ex and be forced to lawyer up and go to court, where the judge will tell you that you now have to may even more money. how about you be a man instead of a scared little boy. this is YOUR baby, just as much as hers. and wait, you said this is your girlfriend, don't you care about her at all?

[crabbo7]

you want to get rid of the child in a humane and proper way?

well, there's always waterboarding or sleep deprivation, a lot of americans have no problem with that. you could throw your girlfriend off a cliff, at least she would die quickly.

seriously dude wtf, take some responsibility. check out planned parenthood or adoption. talk it over with your gf

[Crow123]

I don't mean by killing here. I just can't be asked being a father and I want to leave it all somewhere behind where it doesn't bother me. That is all.

[crabbo7]

I was being sarcastic. and by the way, the singular pronoun referring to a female is "her" not "here". you don't seem to understand that. you also don't seem to understand that by getting a girl pregnant or having a pregnant girlfriend you have a responsibility to take care of them. think next time before you shove your dick in a hole

[Crow123]

I was asking for suggestions how to get rid of her. Not talking about me taking care of the baby or who's I'm going to shove my penis into next time.

[crabbo7]

"I don't want to be a father of the child"

it sounds like you are looking for a way out to me. and please specify if it is your baby, as in your sperm fertilized her egg, or it is somebody else's baby

[Crow123]

Its most likely my child. My girlfriend doesn't seem like the type who is loose on here thread and had here sperm injection somewhere else.

[dario82]

Get rid of her? Dude there is no way you are going to get rid of her. As crabbo7 mentioned, talk to her and consider adoption. And for future endeavors you will probably partake in - use a rubber and make sure she's on birth control. I feel sorry for your future baby.

[crabbo7]

If you don't want to get megaflamed by everyone on here, I suggest you update your post with details about the situation (i.e. how it happened, who's involved, what responsibility you are willing to take and why). throw us a bone because it sounds like you just knocked up some chick and want to run away

[Crow123]

I have actually been with my girlfriend for over 2 years now. We're like a happily married couple. She's one of the most sweetest people ever. But I don't want a child yet. I have other educational/Career plans. And a child would be a problem in my case.

[crabbo7]

Update your post with that information. that sounds completely different from your OP

[Crow123]

Well my intentions are the same. What point does it make to color up the selection of words?

[crabbo7]

Ok, I've carefully read your other comments and come to the conclusion that you are not willing to take any responsibility whatsoever for the baby that you made. without you, the baby would not exist, don't you realize that is your seed, your possible son or daughter? its life man, if you love your girlfriend then put whatever else is going on on hold. what is more important?

[Anonymous]

er here? I'm assuming you mean her?

u can't get rid of her. like it or not you r

the babys father and it will b hard of

her 2 look after it on her own. you have

2 look after her, and the baby. its ur

fault she's pregnant so you have 2 look

after the baby.

[LadyLuck]

I don't think there is a good way, right now. Not that it will get any better once the baby is born.

What about your gf? You don't mention at all what SHE wants. Doesn't she have future plans too? Have you told your family? Will they help you out?

It sounds like you just found out about this, and you are really stressed. Give yoursef a few weeks to calm down and adjust to this new reality. Assuming she keeps the baby, you are going to be a father, whether you like it or not. It's not an option to run away. Yeah, it sucks that it's happening now, but you've gotta man up. You can still go to school. You can still have a good life.

You don't have to be involved in the child's life, but as many people have said, you will be paying child support. Honestly, you might find that you love that baby more than you ever could have imagined.

[Belleza]

Can you spell? And you don't get rid of someone just like that especially if that person is carrying your damn genes inside of them! Why don't you use protection next time? Or why don't you be a damn man! That's what's wrong with this generation - no one knows how to act the way they are supposed to!

[Crow123]

Well. You can call me Mr.Dick. But there is no way in hell I'm fathering anyone. I just want to get away from here and the child and I don't want to take any responsibility.

[Belleza]

Good for you - run away that's what little boys do best!

[SavannahBanana]

Do you mean get rid of her or the baby?

Cause my answer is the same either way.

There is no way. You did this, so did she. I'm not blaming you, but if you leave her just for that reason that is a horrible reason to leave someone.

Just ask her what she thinks about giving the baby up. Like for adoption. There's a lot of women out there who want children who can't have them.

You got 7ish months to find a family who wants a child, I bet you can do it.

[Crow123]

Honestly I think she should take care of the baby. She's more then capable of doing it. Abortion and Adoptions seems rather cruel to the child. But as the time is for me, I cannot afford the time and what it takes to raise a child and be in a family.

[SavannahBanana]

Well if you leave her you won't have much say as to what she does with the kid. But if she does keep it and raise it, even though you don't wanna be a father I think you should still contribute somehow. Visiting, child support, something like that.

[Jordynn]

There is no humane or proper way to leave a girl you got pregnant. You should be ashamed of yourself. I can't even believe how horrible you are for even thinking to leave her. She's now put in a scary and life changing situation. You leaving her is the LAST thing she needs right now. Whether you like it or not, you're the father of her child.

And even if you do get rid of her now, you'll have to pay child support for the baby's first 18 years of it's life.

[Shlei3]

You probably should have thought of that before you had sex. No one form of contraception is 100% proof. You have a part and unfortunately you will be binded to her for life. You don't have to be in the kid's life but you should know that you will be obligated to pay child support. What's done is done so now it's time to grow up and own up to life.

[kurkjianb]

you say you don't want to be the father of the child...well whether you like it or not, you are. And you need to grow up and realize what you did before just leaving this girl who probably needs a lot of your help.

[BrennaLee]

uh first I wouldn't have said get rid of her because that's like calling her a bad odor or something, trying to get rid of her.

second, just speak with her, its not the best talk but its better than all of you being completely miserable

[coolguy93939]

first you need to realize that

in order to have sex you need

to learn how to spell.

then you realize that if you

thought you was a grown man.

now you need to grow up

[kurkjianb]

Best answer!

[Avalace]

Well it seems you are against abortion and adoption. You can either be a father or not be a father. If you aren't going to be the father, get ready to pay some child support.

[snow_angel]

SERIOUSLY! GROW SOME BALLS & BE A MAN! As the saying goes..."it takes 2 to tango." Oh and by the way your girlfriend is not a dog. She is the woman carrying your child and deserves your support in raising the child.

[Average-Joe]

To everyone who says he need take responsibility and raise this child:

i'm not saying he is right at all; its a jerk move. but does anyone want a jerk raising more little jerks?

[authentic]

A doctor who you trust can give you professional information in this area. Preferably you & your girlfriend visit the doctor together; she is probably just as stressed as you are, if not more.

[Littletad]

Take responsibility. You put yourself in this mess, now it's your turn to be a man about it. If you were mature enough to have sex, you should be mature enough for this.

[Jazes]

hahahaha! this has to be a joke..your sh*tting me.

be a f***ing man you chump.

[TheTruthOouch]

Move to another country and find yourself another bitch.

[sweet17]

you need to be shot

[itzzxhypnotik]

Short and simple. and yet soooo true!

[thelittlethings]

You are a pig.