My crush and I met over a year ago. Initially she liked me, but I wasn't available. She met another guy and fell in love.Life separated us and over the past 9 months she has maintained contact. Usually calling here and there, just talking about misc stuff. Never about her boyfriend or any of that, just things we have in common.
I only expressed my interest once in the very beginning of this 9 month phase of calls.She still seemed interested, bringing up often how she wanted to hang out with me.But she had a guy, so while I said I was open to it, I never arranged to make it happen.
The other day she calls and we talked for a while and I could tell things were not right. After a while she told me her BF broke up with her and she is really messed up over it. I listened.She didn't get into much detail, mostly just talking about what she was feeling at the moment and fear of how others were going to react to it.
My heart sank a bit when she thanked me for being a "good friend".But then she began touching on things related to the earlier days.It felt like she wanted me to talk about the feelings I had for her, but in a roundabout way.I only answered what I was asked and told her that was a year ago, I didn't want to make things awkward now.She told me it didn't make things awkward at all.
Nearing the end of the conversation she tells me she wants to hang out when she gets back from her business trip. I tell her I would love to and will figure out a place we can see we both appreciate. She says "If you don't mind, I would rather it be just me and you, face to face at your place. We can go out and do stuff another time." I tell her that is fine. She expresses "excitement" with these plans. But she is clear she is still healing and may need time.
Meanwhile, there a woman I met that I dont feel the same chemistry with as the crush. She is into me, and I do like her. She is amping up the interest.
Should I see girl #2 while girl #1 figures things out?
I only expressed my interest once in the very beginning of this 9 month phase of calls.She still seemed interested, bringing up often how she wanted to hang out with me.But she had a guy, so while I said I was open to it, I never arranged to make it happen.
The other day she calls and we talked for a while and I could tell things were not right. After a while she told me her BF broke up with her and she is really messed up over it. I listened.She didn't get into much detail, mostly just talking about what she was feeling at the moment and fear of how others were going to react to it.
My heart sank a bit when she thanked me for being a "good friend".But then she began touching on things related to the earlier days.It felt like she wanted me to talk about the feelings I had for her, but in a roundabout way.I only answered what I was asked and told her that was a year ago, I didn't want to make things awkward now.She told me it didn't make things awkward at all.
Nearing the end of the conversation she tells me she wants to hang out when she gets back from her business trip. I tell her I would love to and will figure out a place we can see we both appreciate. She says "If you don't mind, I would rather it be just me and you, face to face at your place. We can go out and do stuff another time." I tell her that is fine. She expresses "excitement" with these plans. But she is clear she is still healing and may need time.
Meanwhile, there a woman I met that I dont feel the same chemistry with as the crush. She is into me, and I do like her. She is amping up the interest.
Should I see girl #2 while girl #1 figures things out?
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I know I have to give my crush time to move on. And the reality is this guy very well may see the grass isn't greener and come back. I am rather sure she would go back to him right now. I would hate to possibly screw up a good time with #2.
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