See, its like this. Its got nothing to do with 'genuine' or 'fake' niceness. Girls in general have this tendency to prefer 'bad guys' for short term fun but really nice guys for long term relationship or marriage. They feel that a bad guys is more 'manly'. I don't understand what's so manly about a supposedly 'bad' guy who smokes and drinks like there's no end, often does drugs, sleeps around with random girls and generally doesn't have even an ounce of respect for women. The foolish girls fall head over heels for these jerks with the hope of 'changing' them. But they later realize that that this 'bad guy' just used them for sex, treated them like a doormat and finally threw them away like used tissues. AT this point, they still don't want to accept defeat, so they go around proclaiming to the world that ALL guys are evil. Finally, they realize that the world doesn't show them any pity, so they eventually settle down with a gentleman.
The main problem with nice guys is that they place girls on a pedestal. If they stopped doing this, then they would have much better dating opportunities. Also, nice guys have this 'self pity' that girls would never prefer them. They need to stop this. In fact, they must stop considering themselves as 'nice guys'. If they're nice, then there's no need to go around saying it to the world. And they need to realize that having a girlfriend or indulging in sex aren't the only things there are to life. Even if 100 girls reject them for being 'nice, they shouldn't feel discouraged because its the girls' loss. And there ARE some girls who actually prefer a real gentleman, so there really is no need for nice guys to push the panic button. They may get a girlfriend/wife later than the bad guys, but the relationship is sure to last much longer.
They are usually one, or a combination of the following.
1 - Ugly.
2 - Pushovers.
3 - Socially inept and boring attitude personality.
4 - Not even a good person to begin with, just putting on a "nice guy" mask.
Being "nice" doesn't qualify you for a date. Let me ask a valid question. If a fat, ugly, smelly, boring girl came up to you and asked you for a date, a romantic date, with kissing and possibly sex, would you say yes?
You, and probably 90% of the men on Earth would probably say no. Being "nice" is definitely a plus, but it doesn't exactly force you to whip your dick out and pound the girl into submission.
Now you know what it's like to be a girl in this position. She's just simply not attracted. Granted, the guy may not be a fat slob like the girl I used in my example, but that doesn't change the fact that both of you are not sexually attracted to the person simply based on their "niceness" and truth be told, you shouldn't be blamed for it. It's human nature. Sexual attraction is just that, sexual attraction. It's natural.
Everyone who is nice to the point of letting people walk over them will get walked over, even by people who aren't really bad.
They just instinctively take what's available.
To a large extent, people treat us how we allow ourselves to be treated, and eventually how we -train- them to treat us.
If you train people to throw tantrums or pout or push your guilt buttons to control you, soon enough they'll be doing it without even thinking about it, because you consistently rewarded that behavior.
Because the guy lets them.
Not all nice guys are taken advantage of. But most people who are taken advantage of are nice.
Also, MOST people who are friend zoned or rejected are not nice guys...some are, of course. Guys of all kinds fall into these categories. I know plenty of dickheads who can't sleep with every girl they try for. They just move on to the next one.
There is a tendency of guys who are chasing girls who are more attractive than they are or who are socially awkward to assume they are rejected BECAUSE they are nice. In reality, they are rejected for some other reason. Unfortunately, so many bland people call themselves "nice" that it's gotten a bad rap.
Also, guys who actually get girls have a chance to seem more like jerks than guys who just fantasize that being nice keeps them from getting attention. Why? Because relationships are hard and being human, we screw them up a lot. So a lot of the times girls are complaining about her boyfriend is inevitable, simply because relationships are hard! That doesn't mean that all guys with girlfriends are jerks.
For me, overly sweet nice guys bore me, in fact overly nice people bore me, it makes me cringe, I need a guy who can challenge me, who can joke with me using insults...I have a lot of guys trying to date me at the moment, only they're all too nice so I tell them I only see them as friends, I could never imagine sleeping with them or dating a guy so sweet, it comes across as false to me. But that's only me, I have friends who ONLY date sweet, overly nice guys. Everyone is different.
Basically, guys who tell a girl what she 'needs' to hear tend to get friendzoned by girls like me. Think about it, if he's there for her whenever she needs him then why would she want to ruin that friendship by getting into a relationship which can possibly go sour when she can keep you around as a friend to go to when she needs relationship advise from a guys point of view?
Women don't take advantage of nice guy. It's a generalization. Women are sometimes left out too and not noticed by those "nice guy". Yes, sometimes you're friend zone but a woman doesn't have to date a guy just because he asked. She has the right to say no. Women don't owe sex to every guy that ask her out...
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Well there's a whole misnomer about 'nice guys'. It's not that girls reject/friendzone a guy because he is 'nice'. Correlation does not imply Causation. It's often that these 'nice guys' are also shy, passive aggressive, and don't approach women in a confident, bold manner.
In opposition is the 'jerk'. He's often called that because he's willing to take the stand/make the move the 'nice' guy was too scared to take. In addition, there is oftentimes a correlation with being bold and confident and other 'jerk' personality traits. Plus it's real easy for the 'nice' guy to complain about a girl's choices...nothing more than sour grapes.
Been there done that. I don’t think there are good guys out there, those people I strung along were for company and entertainment. They were “nice”, but one of them cheated on me and the other one was pretty much a rapist. Everyone I strung along did me dirty before, and I don’t regret it.
So if you think you’re a GENUINELY nice guy, you’re not. A guy who thinks he’s nice isn’t, there’s a reason why good people are humble.
And no, I don’t need someone telling me I’m shitty. I know.
I'm not sure if it has anything to do with taking advantage. Being nice doesn't guarantee being chosen. There are other criteria which vary from woman to woman.
Because being genuinely nice isn't anything special.
It is the norm for humans to be generally nice to each other, and nice guys seem to think doing normal minimum shit makes them a catch or entitles them to a relationship.
A lot of girls told me before that they could never date a nice guy because they'll break them. And then they get cheated on. 🤷♀️
how is rejecting or friendzoning someone you dont have feelings for taking advantage of them?
Because they can -- and that's exactly the way it should be, as far as I'm concerned. There's honestly nothing better;)
The same reason why guys take advantage of genuinely nice girls.
When you get hit on 100 times a day you can't give attention to everyone.
For the same reason guys take advantage of nice girls
Nice guys simply just don’t know how to set boundaries therefore when girls see this they can easily take advantage of him
Because some men are very weak, or they like being pushed around.
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