Guys how do you find cute girls with really low self esteem?

[Anonymous]

My friend is really cute and attractive but has a lot of self esteem issues and I always thought she was attention whoring about it, because she is pretty and had guys interested in her..
Is it a cute attitude? Like seriously?
Im the one who looks like a potato and never seem to complain lol, I really start to believe this attitude turn guys on..

[sa230e]

Honestly it can be quite endearing to a guy because we usually get the impression that girls, especially attractive ones, are kind of aloof and cold (at least at first) and if you're not particularly confident it can put you off. And fair enough, I realize pretty girls have to put up with a lot of bullshit and putting up a tough front is necessary not to get hurt but it makes you feel like no one special and you're just another one of the dozens of guys she had to brush off this week. So it can be refreshing in a way when you sense that it matters to a girl what you think of her and can actually affect her. She's less guarded and I guess it can make you feel it's easier to get close to her.

Which is not to say that you shouldn't be confident. That has it's own charms but hopefully you can maybe see where I'm coming from.

[dogeatdog]

It's lots and lots of work to keep reassuring them. The trust issues, body image, tortured soul convos and the long days and nights of being her affirmation tool.. I hope she can find some esteem in herself before she puts someone through the wringer.

[Azara]

It is not attractive per se however I know lots if guys who are drawn to insecure women bc they assume shell out out. That she gets her feelings of self worth through being desired sexually do she'll be an easy lay for casual sex And for relationships eay to control.

I'm not saying this IS the case. I'm saying a lot of guys hope it is the case and may give special attention to ATTRACTIVE women with insecurities... You don't want these guys. Nothing to mourn in my opinion.

Additionally attractive people get attention even if they suck.

[YoungAthleticOne]

Not attractive. Being insecure attracts the wrong type of guys.

[legalboxers]

I tried to build up someones self esteem up. its really hard when their mother destroys it, time and time again

[NoblesseOblige]

False. "because she is pretty" That.

[NoblesseOblige]

You just said you're a potato? Potato vs pretty. Get it?

[Asker]

What?

[NoblesseOblige]

It's because she is pretty that she gets attention.

[Asker]

Oooh! Get it..

[FlyingTurtle]

He's saying guys are interested in her because she is pretty, not because she does or does not have self esteem.

[Asker]

I get that but it seems like her being unsecure make guys even more attracted to her..

[NoblesseOblige]

It would. It means she's easier to get.

[Anonymous]

wow I have a lot to say on this topic..

[Asker]

be my guest..