Because you can never have her in the way you want and are forever longing for something that isn't going to happen. To a guy who loves a girl its like a relationship without any of the intimacy, and one which she goes out with and dates other men.
The worst part is hanging out with her all the time and as such the feelings dont go away and only get stronger. Except that she is looking for other guys if she is single, or sleeping with one if she is not and sharing things she won't with you. So you are left by the sidelines and often feel upset and resentful that you are only good enough to be her friend and always second best to someone else.
Unrequitted love is horrible.
I'm actually thinking of calling off my friendship with a girl because this is the situation im in and she wants to meet after getting back from travelling for over a year and I've been in live with her for the past 2
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It's rejection at a very deep level. Its not like 'oh we're not that compatible' or 'the logistics wouldn't work' or 'i don't feel comfortable around you'. its 'you're a great guy and i love hanging around with you and i feel safe i just find you repellent as a man'
What's the worst part of being in the friendzone?
Considering friend zone seems to be a mostly male concept I'll go with not getting sex.
Or why do so many guys hate it?
Likely because they are not f*cking the gal. I find guys generally do not seek or enjoy female interaction unless sex is present be it from her, her friends, her family member, or using her to get gals to f*ck. It seems sex is the sole/main intention for female-interaction.
As well as I find guys tend to view sex as a transaction/reward so likely most guys are thinking 'I'm being nice and not getting sex', 'I'm listening to her and not getting sex', etc thus feeling used/played.
Like Troian said, its a form of rejection. The girl does not find you attractive enough to notice you as more then a friend, or does not like you in that way. Guys don't like it because the girl still wants to be close, without being sexually/romantically close.
Guys hate it because it's rejection. You happen to like a girl but she just sees you as a friend and doesn't want more.
The thing is...it's not because you get along with a girl and that she finds you hot that she owes you more.
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Because you're constantly getting a physical reminder that while she gripes about this guy who was horrible to her and that guy who she slept with but was an asshole to her...
They're all good enough she'll give them a shot romantically.
But you, you'll never get a kiss or a dinner date with her, as she hooks up with other guys.
I had friendzone once. Never put up with it again.They hate that they're putting emotional energy into a relationship that isn't panning out in the ways they wanted.
Most of the time, it's that being a decent human and doing favors doesn't magically create sexual attraction. Too many guys use a faulty "friend approach" to avoid sexual rejection, so it only gets prolonged as they grow to feel more and more entitled and drained by placing conditions on their behavior that the girl isn't aware of.The fact that guys view friendship as a terrible thing, or a consolation prize. And that they'd rather continue longing for her and doing her favors and hoping to change her mind than actually moving on.
Because it sucks. You have to do all kinds of boyfriend-like stuff for them without the sex. I mean my "friend" and I go out to eat lunch and stuff and I listen to her bitch about everything under the sun, and when the check comes, she forgot money at home. Then I try and talk about something cool like blowjobs and she changes the subject to something about needing to go shopping.
It has to do more with blue balls and blaming the girl for it instead of I don't know being straight forward
Because that's basically giving the girl all the attributes of a boyfriend, but you not receiving any attributes of a girlfriend when it's blatantly clear you want a relationship, not a friendship.
''I wanna touch you, I wanna hug you, and I wanna cuddle you; just because we can't make out doesn't mean we could be friends ;(''
I presume it's because it's not a friendship, it's not a relationship and blue balls. =/
Because you see the other person as more than a friend, but they only see you as a friend.
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