We are, most of us, human. We see, hear, smell, taste, and feel. We have this big thing called our brain of which we know nothing about.
At current estimates our brain takes in about 20 quadrillion signals per second, and we can only relate any new information we take in at any moment to previous experiences. Evidence suggests that only the information that is easily sorted, or most essential to survival is the information that composes conscious human thought. Everybody judges everybody.
My favorite is when people say “I’m not judging you” or “I don’t judge people” which translates into, "I am judging you”.
And also like others have stated below, the demographic of this site, and what I see as the purpose of the site is to convey judgement. Men and Women think much differently and are different. Sometimes things get a bit vague and we need help translating between the differing languages that exist composed by our differing patterns of thought.
Unfortunately subjectivity (judgement) exists even in empirical problems but I won’t go there for sake of nerdiness.
The bottom line: Differing hormones and cultural and a variety of other differences make our brains work differently. This site serves to translate and caters to those who either enjoy judging persons of the opposite sex or do not yet understand how to effectively judge persons of the opposite sex. Emotions usually involved in both cases. Learning a different language purely from a book, without any interaction of someone who is already fluent doesn’t work. So we’re either here to help each other out or confuse one another. But probably both.
I think most people, like myself, came on here because they had some emotional turmoil related to the other gender, and they wanted to talk to the other gender about it.
A lot of what I see is people posting things like "Why do girls like bad boys and hate nice guys" (which I consider a legitimate confusion men have that we need to resolve.)
Then a girl responds "I love nice guys! My boyfriend is a total sweetheart who loves puppies and kittens and plays sweet ukulele songs for me. Bad boys are gross and creepy!"
But then, RIGHT BELOW IT:
Original Poster: "No you don't. Girls don't like guys like that. They like jerks because they are jerks."
(Chances are, bro, you're either hanging out with the PUA community too much, or you're watching girls who are jerks.)
I must admit I'm probably guilty of this, too.
But I think everyone comes here with some emotional baggage regarding the other gender, and it's hard for them to step back, and analyze every point of view to realize how they interact, before making judgements.
And even then, many of them just jump to ad-hominem responses.
This is the internet..unfortunately that means people can be mean and nasty to others because they can hide behind their computer screen.
Some people are just like that. They don't want to be helpful or kind to others, they just want to put them down and be hateful. Posts like that are not okay and I would encourage you to report any post that you feel is simply antagonistic.