Ok, so I get quite a lot of messages from random people who obviously see a comment and decide to contact me, they take forever to get to the stage where they tell you their horny and what size boobs do you have, but if you tell them straight away that you're not interested they get all stroppy and offended, like they were just trying to chat. So, girls and guys, how do you deal with it? And guys especially, does this happen to you too?
I asked for the guys opinions to see if it happens to them really, I was pondering 'creeps' yesterday and this gives me a bit more insight into it, I'm curious as to whether there are girl 'creeps', but I shall save that for another question :)
Honestly, I think you're handling it the right way. Being up front and telling them that dirty talk is off-limits seems completely reasonable to me. And anybody that takes offense to that has pretty much just revealed their intentions anyways (well, either that or they're just ridiculously hypersensitive, and in either case it's no loss on your end).
I've run into it a few times, yeah. I'll just make it clear that I'm not interested in that, and if that fails then I just ignore.
There are ways to prevent this. You can make your profile private, means no new followers. You can activate the setting where you'll only allow messages from users you follow. If they get inappropriate, we encourage you to block the user and report them so that we can take care of it.
I get this nearly on a daily basis. The worst part is a lot of them are the "younger" crowd and want to talk about things that frankly, I wouldn't even talk with a girlfriend about. Some are just flirtations type thing.
What I do when stuff heads in a direction I'm not okay with? I change the subject to some question they asked or an opinion they posted. If that doesn't do it I stop replying. Fine if people want to chat with me but not so much into talking about doing sexual stuff with a stranger on the net.
I'm actually really curious if this happens to other guys too. Have been for a while honestly
I doubt guys are being swamped by sex crazed women lol. Tbh, if I was a woman and I got messages, I would send a quick hi/how are you and see what comes back. Most of them I would delete block, and when I got frustrated I would tell them all to F-off and then block :)
I'm really bad about responding to messages on here.
But I've never had anyone in a conversation tell me that they're horny and ask me how big my dick is or anything like that. I can't imaging having to deal with assholes that are trying to cyber with you over a goddamned advice site. Male privilege.
I would never message anyone on here randomly and if I get a random message from a person being rude, I simply wouldn't respond back to the message, they'll get the message sooner or later, though one hopes it will be sooner.
Ya sometimes we have to face this type of situation when some boys/men/women/ message u a lot. And u are getting irritated and want to say frankly "i dont like this " . But u can't due to ur polite nature. Now the the best way is Hunt them or get hunted. Means u should say. "busy right now" . After few days when they get same reply they stop messaging u. The second option is that u can say that u work in cybercrime cell or police dept. They themself will get shrinked.
There are def. girl creeps on here, I've seen them
I mean, its an advice website. I've had quite a few people of both sexes respond to comments I've made on things and have asked for more insight about myself. I really don't view it as a bothersome thing and I am not uptight. I think too many people see private messages as they're being hit on, when in all reality, this is the internet and people are just making conversation.