Toxic as in it's sometimes triggering and can exacerbate any negative feelings or insecurities. When I feel this way I usually take a break from it but come back because I find it to have been helpful. But I've been thinking about leaving it altogether.
Positive - Its helped me realize that others have similar opinions as I do, and makes me feel less of an outcast.
Negative - people like @RationalMale and @wölfin-fräulein made me realize that racist attitudes still exist in society. A culture of looking at blacks as sub-human, and that race relations still have a long way to go.
No not really. I use this site to kill time and to watch people debate. I like open forums since you'll see all the different views on various topics. I like the variety of people (smart people, stupid people, trolls, the serious folks) I appreciate them all, they each bring a certain uniquneeds to gag. I don't get flashbacks or negative feelings from this site, any negative feelings I have, got nothing to do with this site.
No, not really. Although sometimes I'm really disappointed when I see people give answers that are very offensive towards people that haven't done anything wrong. Like someone talking about being gay, or about getting stupid remarks related to their race. You will than see opinions sounding like "whore" or "piece of sh...". When I see such things I wish I could expain the person what growing up means. So childish. But in general I enjoy gagging. And fortunately most members are nice people :-)
I don't really let it get to me because I just login, answer random stuff, and move on. But I think if a person's surrounding themselves with topics like religion, feminism, and other such heated topics that they'll get really pissed off after a while. Some of the walls of text back and forth that I've scrolled through really give me the impression that some people are red in the face at their phones/PC's and flipping out.
I do but I feel that like in any online community it will happen. Sadly on a website like GAG people should be helping and giving constructive answers. If you see toxic behavior reporting it is the best thing you can do.
Yeah, there are no words for how much I feel psychologically exhausted by the devout Muslims who can't accept the fact that mutilating children's genitalia without their consent for an entire lifetime is technically child abuse and a violation of rights and a disregard for choice and bodily integrity.
But it's not nice being angry, so I think if people keep this stupid nonsense up I will actually just start blocking them.
Voted A) because even right now I feel kind of angry at that noise.
It is sooo true there were times when i would just sit on it and never leave the bloody screen but now since i'm so busy with something worth doing i don't often come here so i think once you'll get busy things will be fine.
Poor little @Tokana can't handle life. :( Are you ashamed of being black, so you explode when someone even acknowledges simple facts?
And seriously? "keyboard commando"? What a bitch move. What, like I'm going to come to Canada to try to slug it out with you? And you write that as you threaten to murder/maim people for disagreeing with you... what a feral.
Careful about threatening to kill people in the States for disagreeing with you. In a lot of States, if someone goes from debate to threatening to maim/kill you, that's legal grounds to make them the next Trayvon Martin. ;)
I cannot say this site triggers many emotions positive or negative, though I do sometimes have a laugh. End of the day people could say nasty things to me on here or another site and it wouldn't affect me in the slightest, end of the day it is the internet, so they can shove it where sun don't shine.
I find it a place were you can sort of get answers for a lot of things that you can not fully understand. A place were we can share our thoughts and opinions which we usually find it hard to do around friends or family. Things that has happened in the past remains in the past and can not be changed, why would I get stuck up on that.
Learn from your past and focus on what remains to be done. Help out others that are confused, if you had some experiences to share.
I'll be honest and say that I don't really find this site helpful at all, it is very fun but not helpful in my opinion, I am an adult and if I have questions about a girl that I am dating, then I'll ask her in person.
Not usually, except when I have the misfortune to encounter an abusive, supercilious or extremely intolerant bit of human filth. Thankfully, these are rare.
I do get annoyed talking to those who keep misconstruing what I say though. No one enjoys trying to rationalise with a brick wall, and people who stick to extreme, black-and-white and you-or-me worldviews are just that.
That aside, this has been a relatively pleasant place, all in all. Repetitive topics aren't a crime, and people with sad stories just need someone to listen and give them a hug.
Yes, sometimes. But it also helps sometimes. I'm definitely not the ideal girl for most of the guys on here, so a couple times when there's been a question about dating, I feel a bit insecure or pessimistic about the dating world. But that's a problem within myself. Or sometimes there will be toxic users that harass others. I had this happen awhile back when I gave my opinion on a touchy subject. It's happened a few times since I've been a member on here. I've had some people say some really awful things to me. Granted, I'm a very sensitive person, but I wish I wasn't.
Yes I do because a lot of people really and truly believe that this community represents the whole world and they take everything to heart and that is unhealthy. Most of the opinions on major issues on this site I have never experienced outside of GAG so I take a lot of things that I see on here with a grain of salt. I can't say the same for others. There are too many sensitive and naive people on here. Some people give great advice and others like tearing people down because deep inside they have issues and instead helping they want to hurt people. You don't have to believe what everyone says only take it into consideration. I do get irritated by how ignorant people still are about a lot of things and how mean and hateful people can be and it makes me think sometimes not negatively about myself but negative in general about people but it usually provoked by knowing that people can be a certain way. It's not surprising but still annoying
Sometimes this website can be pretty tough. With people being either super dense or when I'm remembering bad memories. I do however love this sight as the advice has helped me start making friends, stop dwelling on the past and have fun.
I definitely agree with you. I'll come online to goof around sometimes, but then I'll click on a question and read a conversation about something I am insecure about, and all of the replies will say things that only re-enforce the reasons that I am upset. I know it's "just a website", but for someone who's really insecure about certain things, and seeing lots of topics that put down other people with the same problems you have, it's hard to not to take it a bit personally, even when not directed at you. I also have a really severe mood/anxiety disorder and have not yet found a medication that helps, so sometimes things can (i hate this word, but it's the only fitting one) trigger me when normally, for any normal person, it would be something to shrug off. I know the reasoning behind my panic, and I don't blame the site for it. For this reason I only come on occasionally, because some of the questions and answers make me feel a little down about myself and flare up my anxiety. This will probably be riddled with replies of "get a life" or "stop taking things too seriously", but I guess I can't help that. It IS just a stupid website, but please do realize that there are actually people behind the screens that are going through a lot. There's a difference between "tough love" comments and straight-up rude comments. This IS a website to ask about problems, so it's to be expected that some of the people that come here are sad... is it not?
Mostly I've had decent experiences on here but I did have someone attack me personally on a thread once and it did hurt my feelings.
Thing is with something like GAG is that everyone will have different values, ideas, and thoughts on what they think is right or wrong. That's the great thing with it. Were here for opinions after all. We can ask the masses for opinions to our questions and as it isn't face to face we get an arroy of different minded people feeling confident to say what they really think.
If someone can't handle what is said, then you are probably right. Don't look. However, if someone elses typing is having that much of an effect I believe it is down to how you deal with things personally rather than what is actually said.
You will come accross people who are negative in all sorts of places in your life. If is down to you how you react to any given situation good or bad, it's not them who control your feelings or cause you to feel a certain way. It's you. We have the choice on how we act and react even though it can be easier said than done.
I personally think GAG is great, sometimes I don't like peoples answers or attitudes, but I don't take it personally. When we try to understand that everyone has different values and sees right and wrong differently, things can become a whole lot easier. Easier to forgive, forget, or just ignore and move on.