Any questions that I ever NEED to be answered never do get answered. Like, yesterday I asked an anon question about my singing because I needed feedback before singing to my bf, it took like 3 hours and still only have like two answers on it. I don't even care about being anonymous anymore I just need people's feedback. Lol! It's always the dumb questions that get a bunch of answers not the ones that are really important to people.
I joined this site to give advice because I'm 37, have had good and bad relationships, and am happily married. I definitely don't have ALL the answers, but with experience comes wisdom. I like to pay it forward because when I had lots of questions, I had helpful people giving me advice.
Being newer back to the dating scene post divorce, I am running into a lot of the same issues and questions that girls half my age do. When I ask questions, I get a lot of people who think I should "KNOW BETTER" due to my age; sadly, in my case it isn't true. Things have changed a ton since I was on the scene. Texting is a huge part of dating life now; back before I was married texting like this didn't exist. We had numeric pages, lol. The rules have changed... three dates, three days, three months... of course I follow my own internal rules, but dang it I like some confirmation same as everyone else does! :P
The things that haven't changed, such as boys/men in general and their thought patterns haven't changed a bit so I can help out a lot there, I hope.
I've noticed the same thing - there are regular users here who have left countless opinions but have not ever asked a question! Nothing wrong with it, but I've always wondered why. It's possible that they always ask their questions anonymously though.
I've only asked 100 questions since I've been on the site, but they're always good questions (at least in my mind, LOL!)
I answer more than I ask. Most of my questions are asked anonymously. I think a lot about my questions before I post them here. I'm always "afraid" of the answers. And when I ask a question is because I really need the answers or I want to know people's opinions. I guess that some users post all of their questions or at least the majority of them anonymously.
This is true. In general I too have lots of questions not asked. Of course it's always better to hear other people's opinion on certain case co's that allow us to have more options and ideas and that'll help. I don't ask questions when I believe I would still have a better answer for it than anyone else co's I'm the one handling the situation and knows all the details. So why bother ask?
I've asked a few just to see what people had to say. I feel those who don't just feel like they know a lot (which I'd only see as true in a few cases), or they just don't care to learn anymore. Also keep in mind they may just ask their questions anonymously.
Why? Because there is nothing in my life for which I need the opinion or approval of others. Aspects of my life are a pile of steaming dogshit. Other aspects are exceptional, compared with the lives and achievements of other people. It is what it is. I already know the problems and the possible solutions, all of which are beyond my means and ability. No point asking for answers that I know already. In the area of love/sex/women fate dealt me a crap hand. I have learned to live with that. As our national hero Ned Kelly said just before the gallows trapdoor opened beneath his feet: "Such is life." As another of our folk-hero career criminals, Mark "Chopper" Read, said: "Have a teaspoon of cement and harden the fuck up."
According to my stats I've asked 153 question in the 6 weeks since I've been here. I'd ask lots more but G@G puts a 5 per day limit on them.
When I first started I could only as 2 per day. Here are a few that will be sent in. G@G rejected them today cause I'm at my Q limit.
Ladies... do you prefer a male or female gynecologist?
Guys... do you like sniffing girls soiled panties?
Do you get enough kissing from your bf / gf?
Ladies... do you think that going lesbian will be a more popular choice for love in the future?
Being a sex addict most of my questions revolve sexual things. These questions are one that you can't poll strangers on the street. So G@G is a godsend for getting a tidbit of feedback from the guys and gals.
Sometimes we fear the answers. Especially if the question or the answer changes things with those close to you. That's why we ask on the internet. Anonymity keeps things private. if you don't like the answer you can pretend you never asked it.
I've found answers to questions by answering others. If I need an opinion from someone (like whether people think I should just let the currently girl I'm dating slide if she continues to be evasive) , and it hasn't already been framed or answered on this site, then I will.
The questions I tend to ask are generally to get others to think more than just things I would like to know. Some questions I ask are based on answers from other questions. I tend to enjoy answering a fair bit.